smitakapadia

I have been reading about Aridra nakshatra for women lately. And feel disheartened to learn that it is not a good nakshatra to be born under for a woman. It seems to be associated with so many negatives like loneliness, depression, cruelty, ingratitude. Is there any positive attribute to this nakshatra for a woman? Except for enhanced intellect? Also I would like to have some thoughts on how should a person accept the criticism associated with one's nakshatra. It is kind of depressing to be reading so many bad things about you and knowing that destiny has made you so bad... what should be one's attitude towards dealing this? thanks, Smita