Hi, thanks for saying I am level headed and making me feel better. You are all a great group of people and you really care about the post. Sorry if I am bugging you all but you are really helping me. I am very grateful for your advice.
Response to "Your dating was a mistake.But its been done.So next option is to see his caste and varna.If both are same ask him to wait till your parents talk to his and dont meet him before marriage.If he belongs to a different caste in the same varna,it gets tough.But this has become normal these days,caste isnt in vedas but only varnas.So within a varna,mixing is vedic.So go ahead.But this isnt ideal and dont let your children make the smae mistake."
The boy and I are the same caste. His grandmother on his moms side has the same last name as I do. I can not wait to meet him until marriage because he gives me rides home from school. We go to school together and my mom depends on him to drop me home because she is busy working and I don't drive. My mom likes him and his mom likes me to.(He is 19, I'm 20) The truth is when his mom heard the word marriage she got angry and say you guys aren't even done with school yet. Then there was a little family misunderstanding during the summer and his mom told me she hopes our relationship works and we can get married.
The problem is my boyfriend now friend thinks im selfish adn that i don't care about him. We dated for a year and I've been telling him i want to be krsna conscious. He is the one who gave me a better version of the gita by the swami and told me to read it and be a better person.
I told him I don't want any physical contact and he says he doesn't see how that makes sense because we already hugged and he wants to take our relationship to the next level, a sexual level. He said he doesn't want to force me to do anything I don't want to do. I told him no. He tells me if I want to be with him, love him, care for him, marry him I should just do it and risk it even though its not guaranteed that we will get married.He says I have doubts and that's why I won't do it.
He says if we have no physical contact we are friends and he might date other girls and tell me or not tell me or he might not and ask me to marry him after school ends. He says he is krsna conscious.
I don't know if the way I'm deciding to be krsna conscious is selfish and if I am going about the wrong way in something. Then he said "yes you are being selfish, no you're not, you're right, whatever you want, it was always up to you. Call it what you want " (meaning krsna conscious or taking the right path)
He's a very good friend and he helped me out a lot with my family, life, school. I think he is viewing me as selfish because he always helps me. He said he helps people and gets blessings. He doesn't mind giving me rides home and he wants to be my friend. What can I do?
Thanks again.