Unconditional love & judging people; request for permission to publish your reply on the web

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Dear Maitreya Ishwara,

Thank you very much, Sir, for your enlightening and helpful reply.

It helped me a lot to clarify these issues.

I think your reply is so beautiful and helpful

that I would like to ask you for your permission

to publish it (unchanged) on 3 websites www. on Advaita / Nonduality,

(Advaita-Ashram, and NondualitySalon)

of which I am a member.

With or without your e-mail address?

I think it can help a lot of people there,

as it helped me,

and introduce you to some people

who don't know about you yet.

Thanks again.

Love,

Ivan.

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<maitreya (AT) xtra (DOT) co.nz>

<ivanf (AT) iafrica (DOT) com>

Tuesday, November 14, 2000 12:47 AM

FWD: Fwd: Unconditional love & judging people

Maitreya Ishwarawww.ishwara.comQ&ABeloved IvanLoveMy answers are in

your text.+++++Dear Maitreya Ishwara,(Ivan): Thank you for sending me

thesewonderful enlightening messages everyfew days. I always read them

with delight.Could you please let me know

if you believe that there is, or can ever be,

such a "thing" as unconditional love, among people?(Maitreya): Only

among enlightened people.The unconscious majority are destinedto

suffer from conditional love.(Ivan): Is not all human love

conditional?

Can one love one's friend as much as one's rapist- and if one did,

would that be healthy and a rational attitude to haveand spread

around?

What am I missing here?(Maitreya): Only enlightenment.Naturally, even

Buddhas prefer friends to enemies.

I avoid hostile people if possible.

But love is my nature and goes out to everyone equally.And it is more

fun to play with conscious,loving friends than ignorant, violent

people.(Ivan): Also, is it really wrong to judge others,as most

religions say?

Surely we need reason, and the power to discriminate

between right & wrong,good & bad, safe & unsafe, etc.

for this body-mind's survival and existence,

and abandoning all judgements would becontra-survival?

Maybe I just don't understand what people mean whenthey say "don't

judge" (so that you may not be judged).

I think it is healthy to judge, and I also want to be judged,

if possible rationally and on the merit of my deeds.(Ivan): Honest

evaluation of yourstrengths and limitations is healthy.

If you have the compassion and clarity toevaluate others accurately,

it may be helpful to them.This is very different from theunconscious,

negative (and often innaccurate) projections

that isolate every ego and create more suffering forthe judger and the

judged.Unconscious judging is a kind of hell.I simply evaluate people

accurately without judging them at all.For I fully understand that

God is the only doer

and all actions are His doing.There but for the grace of God go I.LoveMaitreya