Guest guest Posted January 31, 2001 Report Share Posted January 31, 2001 Hi, ....something 'weighing heavily', at this moment. What is a dilemma/confusion ? At present, the mind drains quite a bit of energy, trying to decide whether to move in with my female partner, or not. (.. 'funny' that I should be involved in this activity, at my not- exactly young age..) It is using the for/against-reasons model and the greatest fear- factor is that it might be an impediment to the 'work'; at the same time, something tells me that that's nonsense.. and yet another thought says "but what about the 'toxic states' you get into due to being presented with her incessant mental/emotional busyness", and yet another say :".. but she is very loving.." and so on. And at times I feel that all these are arisings in a dream-world, and they present no real impediment for the work, regardless of the choice made. The fact is that I feel much more 'whole' and with a sharper clarity/sensitivity of perception/awareness, when I am alone for some days, than when in her company. But should this be a valid reason to avoid relationship ? I would appreciate your furthering the enquiry into this, with your eventual pointers/sharing. Have a good day, JB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2001 Report Share Posted January 31, 2001 On 1/31/01 at 3:52 PM JB789 wrote: ºHi, º º...something 'weighing heavily', at this moment. ºWhat is a dilemma/confusion ? º ºAt present, the mind drains quite a bit of energy, trying to decide ºwhether to move in with my female partner, or not. º(.. 'funny' that I should be involved in this activity, at my not- ºexactly young age..) [...] Hi JB The very fact that you are asking for advice, could be interpreted that the relationship has become a serious impediment already.... Only once, at the K. list, I encountered a case where the reverse was true... Actually, that was very nice... But it is so unlikely that a relationship will be simultaneously spiritually beneficial, that all I can say is" forget the relationship and work, work, work"... And don't worry: there IS a kind of happiness, independent of vicissitudes, that yet doesn't exclude relationships as a possibility - but the need will be gone forever... And that will open the eyes to "what to look for" and "what to avoid at all cost". Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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