About E-mail communications (was: pattern of higher attunement)

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Hi Harsha and Lobster and others,

 

That's right, e-mail communication does deserve care and consideration.

One one hand, it's evanescent. On the other, it's archived for years on

various servers. E-mail is a medium I've been using since 1982 with

varying degrees of skilfulness. I like to:

 

-treat what others write as confidential, even if it's sent to a list.

-treat what I write as public -- who knows where it might end up?

-never make something personal unless saying something positive.

-listen with kindness and openness and care

-give credit to others, acknowledge their concerns

-if writing a criticism, direct it towards a position or

concept, not a person or their supposed motive or state or

experience or conduct.

-use AHIMSA!! Here's a relevant example, which applies to

*e-mail* but, as Bruce-ji might be able to attest, not necessarily to

all forms of published communication, such as magazine articles:

if there's a choice between saying something in either of two ways, either

(a) clever and biting, or (b) pedestrian and bland, opt for the latter.

-don't catch the disease of "teacheritis," thinking that I can

speak to another person as though they came to me for deep teachings!

 

There is a set of standards I like, borrowed from the intro message to the

Groups' "Dharma-Direct" mailing list, about "right speech":

 

1. Is it the truth?

2. Is it fair to all concerned?

3. Will it build good will and better friendships?

4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?.

 

Ideal Guidelines:-

 

1) If it is not truthful and not helpful, don't say it.

2) If it is truthful and not helpful, don't say it.

3) If it is not truthful and helpful, don't say it.

4) If it is both truthful and helpful, wait for the right time.

 

Love to all,

 

--Greg

 

 

 

At 03:46 AM 2/27/01 -0000, lobster wrote:

>> Perhaps others can make observations on the possibility of

>miscommunications

>> on e-mail. I know that Greg-Ji is our role model when it comes to e-mail

>> communications and we would appreciate some guidance from Greg on this.

>And

>> others, Amanda, Gloria, Jerry, Linda, Mike, Mark, Robert, Wim, Jessica,

>and

>> anyone please feel free to share. In a virtual Satsangh like this one, the

>> quality and the method of expression needs some care and sensitivity to

>> others.

>>

>> Love to all

>> Harsha

>

>

>Dear

>> Perhaps others can make observations on the possibility of

>miscommunications

>> on e-mail. I know that Greg-Ji is our role model when it comes to e-mail

>> communications and we would appreciate some guidance from Greg on this.

>And

>> others, Amanda, Gloria, Jerry, Linda, Mike, Mark, Robert, Wim, Jessica,

>and

>> anyone please feel free to share. In a virtual Satsangh like this one, the

>> quality and the method of expression needs some care and sensitivity to

>> others.

>>

>> Love to all

>> Harsha

>

>

>Dear Harsha,

>There is sometimes a focus on what we say.

>For those on the path we must equally consider

>what we hear.

>Some people react well to kind

>words and are repulsed by unkindness.

>Surprisingly others are stimulated and attracted

>to conflict and find kindness bland and uninspiring.

>The middle way of non-attachment to extremes is also

>possible.

>Miscommunication in one sense never exists,

>we merely CHOOSE to hear the communication in a

>way that suits our model of reality.

>Effective communication may sometimes remove the

>element of choice and insist on being heard.

>This is when we have to listen most carefully

>for there is a pattern of higher attunement

>being transmitted in every contact.

>Care and sensitivity often exists more

>in receptivity than in expression . . .

>

>Be Well

>Lobster

>

>

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