problems and pointing

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Hi Norma,

 

You wrote: How is it harmful, Wim?....Words from the heart depict

compassion....and

compassion can be in many forms..but it never masks

truth.....And the energy

on this list will gain momentum more from compassion

than false

beliefs....Having a problem pointed out, whether by

oneself or another, is

one of the greatest gifts in the world...

 

Norma

 

I have several comments to share, and I do so with a sincere intent to

be helpful, so please hear me with open mind and heart. Compassion

seems to me to be an ability, a desire, to go to the place where a

suffering being is and share the burden, to convey caring and once there

to give gifts of better strategies. To do this, one has to be willing

to meet the person where they are. Demanding that they be elsewhere is

not only not helpful, but can be very damaging, as for most of us, this

is why we are suffering in the first place, because demands to be

someone else were made and we felt we had no choice but to obey. By

obeying, we betrayed who we really are and now we are suffering because

we feel betrayed. (perhaps I speak only for myself, that's for others

to decide.) I try now and then to see how others have helped me, to

know what compassion in action feels like from the receiving end, so

that I may better give. (I believe giving and receiving are one and the

same action.)

 

So, I'm wondering if you may be able to recall a time when you were

suffering because of a delusion, and someone came along and made

contact. Didn't they (did they? I'm truly asking) start by letting you

know that you, complete with your delusion were okay? Don't get me

wrong. I'm not saying that the underlying message was "be deluded", I'm

talking about first contact. I'm talking about finding a way inside

defenses that have become massive and dangerous to all involved. I'm

not talking about any person here, just about your suggestion that

compassion never masks truth. I think compassion masks truth all the

time to make contact, to allow people to meet heart to heart. I think

that is what makes compassion so incredibly cool, because we meet right

here, inside the darkness, inside the lie of separation. (how else could

we heal separation, but by meeting?) Compassion is a bridge to the

light, and so one side of it HAS to be in the dark. And then, the

revealing of the light is done gently to avoid doing harm. I'm a bit of

a prankster here, but I think the spirit of this list is that we nudge

each other along towards the light, perhaps unintentionally in our play,

but I don't see folks yanking each other's shirts and dragging them

towards the light, I see a gentle interplay in which light gets sprayed

around and lands where it will.

 

Well, thanks for letting me rant.

 

Be well,

Mark