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>> Also for too long.. loved all ego challenges and had

an insatiate appetite to be pac man in these sort of

games once started. But perhaps not too soon realized

was a waste of energy only going back to

from whence it came. <<

Hmmm...as a young adult, especially while in college, I became aware

of this...activity. The term I learned to describe it was "playing

devil's advocate." This seemed to mean to the person doing it that

there was license to question just for the sake of questioning (not

really for getting info in a sincere way) or verbally attack for the

sake of attacking. I have never enjoyed being subject to this,

though, perhaps because of my upbringing, I have tended to be very

vulnerable to falling into the trap of attempting to explain. I used

to get myself completely knotted up, because, as you know, nothing

the person being questioned says satisfies the questioner. Now,

sometimes I still react, and the knot ends up in my stomach, but I am

much better at disconnecting as soon as I realize what is really

happening. This is a game I no longer have time or inclination to

play. Shanti ~ Linda