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Dear Jen,

 

your heart-felt message touched me deeply. Many, many people through the

ages have, unfortunately, been hurt in this way. Yes, it hurts being

rejected, it hurts a lot, and there is not much one can do about this except

wait for the great healer, time, to heal the bruised soul.

 

I am sure the person you are talking about doesn't fully realize the

goodness of your heart, nor the beauty of your soul. Very probably, this is

not through any fault of yours. Most people are too short-sighted

spiritually, or too superficial, or too fickle, to recognize another

person's inner wealth. It takes great maturity for a human being to be able

to be a real friend, a true friend, and it may just be that this person is

simply still lacking in maturity.

 

It seems to me that you are, spiritually speaking, the stronger partner. As

you are saying, you trusted and opened yourself, you took the emotional risk

of this friendship. It takes a lot of mental strength to make oneself so

vulnerable to another person! And I believe this experience will make you

even stronger in the end, and you will look back and say, I suffered these

most hurtful emotional blows, but I didn't let this make me hateful, or

despondent, or desperate. I reacted in the right way.

 

And how should you react? Give that other person your blessings, and let him

or her go. You might think of yourself as a parent to the other person, and

that person as a grown-up child who wants to break away from home and go his

own way. You wouldn't hate that child, would you? Rather, you would wish him

well, and though you would feel the hurt and the pangs of that separation,

you would know and accept the fact that on this earth no one belongs to

another person forever, and that part of loving also is to let go.

 

Love and God's blessings to you,

 

Michael

 

> -----Ursprungliche Nachricht-----

> Von: jenjayl01 [jenjayl01]

> Gesendet: Wednesday, October 03, 2001 23:26

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> Why does it hurt, when you are rejected? You open yourself and

> trust, you take a chance, and love. You throw caution to the wind,

> set your fears aside , take a risk. Put yourself vulnerable infront

> of the one who claims to love you and you say," I love you" Your

> essence, your being, all of your faults. I'll take you as you are.

> I'll never ask you to change,I'll always ask you to just be. In the

> same room, with me on this plain of existence. Just be. You offer him

> everything that you are, and He sais," No, It's not enough." I'm not

> enough? Why? No answer.

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> jen

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