Valid cognition, dreams and loss

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Dear Bobby,

 

This is true! That fact that one dream displaces another is a clue to the

falsity of all dreams. When I was in 7th grade, I had two girlfriends. They

taught me a lot about impermanence, duality, and comings and goings.

 

The first girlfriend was for a few months. I was intensely in deep infatuation

with her. Then we broke up and I felt really bad. I was sure this tragedy had

cosmic proportions, and I thought I'd be doomed to a lifetime of frustration,

never again finding the beauty and happiness as I had with her. But then I met

another girl. I quickly found great happiness and contentment with her, till we

broke up and I *again* felt the depressing loss that started to seem permanent.

But during this second period of loss, it dawned on me!! I thought back to the

first period of loss. That loss felt permanent at the time, but it was totally

displaced by the joys of the second girlfriend. Similarly, this second loss

that I was in now the middle of would be displaced by a *new* girlfriend.

Which, in junior high school, didn't take long!

 

After that I felt loss many times, in many different ways. But it was lighter,

and I never seriously attributed permanence or cosmic significance to it ever

again.

 

Love,

 

--Greg

 

 

At 04:52 PM 1/8/02 +0000, texasbg2000 wrote:

If, by way of noticing it, I discard a dream I am having, another

takes its place after a short time. This does not leave me barren

but convinces me of the truth of what you just wrote.