thank you folks for your responses on who is an ideal wife?

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in one of thhe responses , a member has indicated that she would not

like to be 'mother' to her husband' thi smember sates, if the man

wants a 'mother' for a wife, he can as well go to his mother....

 

interestting response!

 

but, allow me to sahre some thoughts on this, dear ones...

 

in my opinion, a wife should be all things to a man if she wants her

marriage to rest on solid foundations and last for alifetime! i am

not in favor of bed-hopping or husband shopping! old-fashioned me!

 

shri rama said to his brother lakshmana- lifetime after lifetime i

like to marry a wife like 'sita devi only- she is the most beloved of

all beloveds...

 

"she is like rambha {a celestial apsara} in bed

she is like my own mother in kitchen

she is like my councillor in my affairs of the kingdom

and she is my friend for life."

 

when a Shri rama says a wife should be like a mother.... he does not

mean that he want shis wife to treat him like her child- not at all-

rather, what he is emphasizing is the motherly qualities -

compassion, kindness. forgiving attitude and above all a nurtururing

person- somebody he can turn to in times of distress! also, somebody

who can discipline him like a natural mother, if need be! sita devi

performed all these tasks admirably ; so much so, in the forest sita

was everything to rama and vice-versa!

 

let us take this a step further...

 

How long does a baby stay in his/her mother's arms!

 

until he/she learns to walk! right?

 

how long does the baby nurse at the mother's breast?

 

only as long as the mother wishes to nurse or if the milk does not

dry up due to natural reasons - at the most, two to three years--- in

some cases a year or less than that!!

 

why does the baby like the mother's lap so much?

 

baby loves safety, security and physical warmth and emotional

comfort? right?

 

after having stayed in the safe haven of the womb for 40 weeks, a

mother's lap feels just like the womb until the baby learns that

there is 'world' outside of mother's lap...

 

so, when this baby becomes an adult and gets married, he does not

want to nurse at his mother's breast, or go and rest on her lap

etc.... but this adult baby still loves the 'guiding' and

compassionate hand of the mother and what could be better if the wife

could step into role?

 

so, folks- nora gave a wonderful answer {for once, we agree! smiles} -

be a Friend and a companion! someone a man can confide as well as

trust!

be like a mother, compassionate, kind, understanding, forgiving but

at the same time a disciplinerian ! and above al, know how to please

before expecting to be pleased!and to the men, it takes two to tango?

so, who is the ideal man? folks?

 

 

 

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