SEX HAS FOUR STAGES/The first stage is autosexual.

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The first stage is autosexual.

When the child is born he is a narcissist. He loves his body tremendously, and

it is beautiful; he knows only HIS body. Just sucking his own thumb, and he is

in such euphoria. You see the child sucking his own thumb -- what euphoria is on

his face, just playing with his own body, trying to take his toe into his mouth,

making a circle of the energy. When the child takes his toe into the mouth a

circle is created and the energy starts moving in a circle. The light circulates

naturally in the child and he enjoys, because when the light circulates there is

great joy inside.

 

The child plays with his own sexual organs not knowing they are sexual organs.

He has not yet been conditioned; he knows his body as one whole. And certainly,

the sexual organs are the most sensitive part of his body. He utterly enjoys

touching them, playing with them.

 

And here is where the society, the poisonous society, enters into the psyche of

the child: "Don't touch!" 'Don't' is the first dirty, four-letter word. And out

of this one four-letter word, then many more come: can't, won't -- these are all

four-letter words. Once the child is told "Don't!" and the angry parent, mother

or father, and those eyes... And the child's hand is taken away from his genital

organs, which are naturally very enjoyable. He really enjoys it, and he is not

being sexual or anything. It is just the most sensitive part of his body, the

most alive part of his body, that's all.

 

But our conditioned minds.... He is touching a sexual organ; that is bad, we

take his hand away. We create guilt in the child.

 

Now we have started destroying his natural sexuality. Now we have started

poisoning the original source of his joy, of his being. Now we are creating

hypocrisy in him; he will become a diplomat. When the parents are there he will

not play with his sexual organs. Now the first lie has entered; he cannot be

true. Now he knows that if he is true to himself, if he respects himself, if he

respects his own joy, if he respects his own instinct, then the parents are

angry. And he is helpless against them, he is dependent on them, his survival is

with them. If they renounce him, he will be dead; so the question is of choosing

whether you want to live. The condition is that if you want to live you have to

be against yourself, and the child has to yield.

 

The child is the most exploited phenomenon in the world. No other class has been

so exploited as the child. He cannot do anything: he cannot make unions to fight

with the parents, he cannot go to the court, he cannot go to the government. He

has no way to protect himself against the parental attack.

 

And when the parents stop him, they are stopping him because of their own

conditioning; their parents had done the same to them. They are very much

embarrassed by the child's touching his own genital organs and playing with

them, and so unashamedly.

 

Now the child knows nothing of shame, he is innocent. The "don't" has entered;

the energy recoils. The first trauma has happened. Now the child will never be

able to accept his sexuality naturally, joyously. Repression has happened and

the child is divided in two; his body is no more whole. Some part of the body is

not acceptable, some part of the body is ugly, some part of the body is unworthy

to be part of his body; he rejects it. Deep down in his psychology he starts

castrating himself, and the energy recoils. Energy will not be flowing as

naturally as it used to flow before this "don't" happened.

 

And the natural outcome of this stupidity that has been perpetually practiced on

humanity is that first the child is no more a natural being, hypocrisy has

entered. He has to hide something from the parents or he has to feel guilty.

 

This is the autosexual state: many people remain stuck there. That's why so much

masturbation continues all over the world. It is a natural state. It would have

passed on its own, it was a growing phase, but the parents disturbed the

energy's growing phase.

 

The child becomes stuck: he wants to play with his genital organs and he cannot.

Repressing, repressing, one day it is too much and he is possessed by the sexual

energy. And once he has started masturbating, it may become a habit, a

mechanical habit, and then he will never move to the second stage.

 

And the people who are responsible are the parents, the priest, the politicians

-- the whole social mind that has existed up to now.

 

Now this man may remain stuck at this stage, which is very childish. He will

never attain to full grown-up sexuality. He will never come to know the

blissfulness that can come only to a grown-up sexual being. And the irony is

that these are the same people who condemn masturbation and make much fuss about

it. And they make such statements which are very dangerous: they have been

telling people that if you masturbate you will go blind, if you masturbate you

will become a zombie, if you masturbate you will never be intelligent, you will

remain stupid. Now all the scientific findings are agreed upon one point: that

masturbation never harms anybody. But these suggestions harm. Now this is an

absolute agreement; there are no two opinions about it. All the psychological

researches agree that masturbation never harms anybody, it is a natural outlet

of energy. But these ideas -- that you will go blind -- may make it dangerous to

your eyes, because again and again you will think that you will go blind, that

you will go blind, that you will go blind.... So many people are using glasses,

and the reason may not be in the eyes; the reason may be just somewhere else. So

many millions of people are stupid, and the reason may not be that they are

stupid -- because no child is born stupid, all children are born intelligent.

The reason may be somewhere else: in these techniques. You will remain ill, you

will lose self-confidence. And so many people are afraid, trembling

continuously, have no trust, no self-confidence, are continuously afraid,

because they know what they have been doing.

 

Now thousands of letters come to me: "We are caught up in this trap; how can we

come out of it?"

 

And let me repeat: masturbation has never harmed anybody. But the moment when a

person masturbates is a very sensitive and delicate moment; his whole being is

open and flowing. In that moment if some suggestion is dropped in his mind --

and he himself will drop the suggestion, "Now what if I go mad? if I go blind?

if I remain always stupid?" -- these constant autohypnotic suggestions are the

cause of a thousand and one illnesses, of a thousand and one psychological

problems, perversions.

 

Who is responsible for this?

 

And people who come to me come with all these perversions. And I try to help

them, and many are helped and many grow beyond it. But the society thinks I am

teaching people some perversions. This is just unbelievable. I am helping you to

grow beyond your perversions; the society has given you perversions. You live in

a perverted society!

 

If the child is allowed the natural phase of autosexuality, he moves on his own

to the second phase, the homosexual -- but very few people move to the second

phase. The majority remain with the first phase. Even while making love to a

woman or a man you may not be doing anything else but just a mutual

masturbation. Because very few people attain to orgasmic states, very few people

come to the glimpses that are bound to be there if your sexuality is mature.

Very few people come to know about God through their lovemaking, which is a

natural phenomenon. In lovemaking, meditation happens naturally.

 

But it doesn't happen, and the reason is that millions, the majority, are stuck

at the first stage. Even if they have got married and they have children, their

lovemaking is not more than mutual masturbation. It is not real lovemaking.

 

Lovemaking is an art, a great art; it needs great sensitivity, needs great

awareness, meditativeness, it needs maturity

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Hello anand: I wanted to say that naming stages of sexuality can

also create difficulties because you still are implying that there's

some specific thing to do or way of being to attain and many or

most fall short. While it is true that human culture is mired in

many notions that prevent it from full joy, pleasure,

enlightenment, etc. in our bodies, creating numerical stages

may be just as harmful as saying touching oneself is bad.

[Guest guest]

, anand supraath <supraath>

wrote:

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> The first stage is autosexual.

 

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Dear Anand,

 

You are posting these messages each day. The problem that I have is

the they are 'copyrighted' talks by osho and of late you make no

reference to the fact that they are his material. Todays post is taken

from the following link.

 

http://www.barnett.sk/software/sos/osho/osho-talks/sexual2.htm

 

I am not a lawyer and I am not sure what the rules are as far as

copying and pasting copyrighted material on group sites on the

internet. This perhaps should be addressed by the moderators. However

for the most part people are usually careful to credit the source of

the material. f