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The lover cannot feel superior, the lover cannot even think that he has obliged

anybody. On the contrary, when somebody receives your love you feel obliged that

your love was not rejected – it could have been rejected – that your love was

respected, welcomed. You feel obliged, you feel thankful, you feel grateful.

 

And you say: "...whereas compassion must be an integral part of loving."

 

No, compassion is higher than love. Love is an integral part of compassion, but

compassion is not an integral part of love. That's the difference between

thinking and meditation.

 

These three things are to be taken note of: the lowest love is sex – it is

physical – and the highest refinement of love is compassion. Sex is below love,

compassion is above love – love is exactly in the middle.

 

Very few people know what love is. Ninety-nine percent of people, unfortunately,

think sexuality is love – it is not. Sexuality is very animal; it certainly has

the potential of growing into love, but it is not actual love, only a potential.

 

A seed is not a flower. It can become a flower, but there is no certainty, no

guarantee that it is going to become a flower – it may die as a seed. If you put

it on a rock it will not sprout into a bush, into a flowering tree, it will die.

If you throw it into fire it will die.

 

Sex has the potential of love, but only the potential, remember; it is the seed.

There is no need to deny it because if you throw away the seed, if you deny the

seed, then love disappears.

 

That's why in the so-called religious people you will not find love and its

warmth, you will find them cold, dead, without love. Yes, they will have

compassion, they will feel sorry for you, because you are hell-bound and they

are going to heaven. Naturally they feel sorry for you: "Poor souls!" You will

suffer hellfire and they will be enjoying the pleasures of heaven.

 

There is no love at all, but they have compassion. And having compassion is a

pseudo thing, it is not the true compassion. They have denied sex, and in

denying sex they have denied love.

 

Sex has to be used in the right perspective.

 

It has not to be repressed, it has not to be denied, and you are not to remain

confined to it either. No repression, no indulgence. The path is very subtle.

 

Jesus says, "The path is straight but very narrow." It is a razor's edge.

 

Sex either becomes indulgence, as it has become in the West, or it becomes

repressed, as it has become in the East. On one side there is a well, on the

other side there is a ditch, and you can fall in. You have to walk between the

two. Certainly it is a razor's edge, tightrope walking; you have to remain very

balanced.

 

And the functioning of the mind is such that it moves from one pole to the

other. It is exactly like the pendulum of an old clock: it goes from right to

left, the extreme left, and from the extreme left again to the extreme right.

 

And remember the law: as you see the pendulum moving towards the left it is

gaining momentum to go to the right; while it is actually going towards the

right it is gaining momentum to go to the left. So don't be deceived by what you

see; something inside is growing which is just the opposite of what you are

seeing.

 

The repressed person is always ready to go into indulgence. All the repressed

societies are boiling, ready to go into indulgence, and they find ways and means

to go into indulgence.

 

For example, this country has repressed sex for thousands of years, and the

natural outcome has been a backdoor indulgence. In Indian temples prostitutes

have existed. In the South still, even today in the twentieth century, temples

have prostitutes. They are not called prostitutes – Indians are very clever at

giving beautiful names to ugly things – they are called devadasis, "servants of

God." And who are these gods? First the priest who initiates them into sexual

indulgence and then the rich clients who come to the temple. These are the gods

whom they serve! But they are supposed to serve the stone statue of the god

inside the temple. That is just a facade. In India prostitution can now exist

only in a religious garb – sex has been such a taboo that you have to find some

way to make it religious.

 

Temples like Khajuraho, Konarak, Puri have not existed anywhere in the West.

There is no need, people are already indulging – they are indulging by the front

door – so there is no need to go by the back door.

 

Osho, "Zen: Zest, Zip, Zap and Zing"

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