Civility & Basic Courtesy

[Guest guest]

"Does the concept of 'pride' not also apply to those who fiercely

protect and justify their spiritual practices against those who

disagree with those practices?"

 

You can take pride in your belief , you can fiercely protect whatever

you believe in but not at the expense of another. That is not pride

but that is arrogance!

 

"How about 'pride' being contained in a laisse z-faire,

above-it-all attitude of non engagement in a group devoted to

discussion when faced with opinions contrary to one's own? The

attitude of 'forgive them for they know not what they do' is not

productive."

 

To me it does Ompremji. I do forgive people who just talk and talk,

and full of words but lack action. I learnt to forgive them because I

believe perhaps as you say many times its just their karma. Action

Ompremji speaks better than words.

 

"Your wise man is forgetting that he was invited into the house

in order to discuss spiritual issues and practices. If he is only

going to talk about the weather, he is insulting his host."

 

Even if you choose to participate in discussion that is what we call

some civility or I would say Basic Courtesy. If you are invited in a

person's house, at least show some courtesy. Perhaps it is absent

in certain culture that you may come from, for they believe it is

their right to say and do anything they like after all as you may say

: I am invited here.

 

My old man ompremji have taught me the value of respecting other

person's sensitivity and self worth. This attitude of wanting to

prove of how wrong and distorted others are is this what spiritualism

have made us to be?

 

If I invited somebody to my home and expect to have a fierce

discussion but the person choose not to, why should I feel insulted.

I go with the flow and perhaps talking about the weather is what I

should do, after all I am the one who invite this person. I would not

feel upset with my guest nor I feel dissappointed for I have learnt

to accept people as they are. The correct term I would say is being

holistic towards another. I am being taught too that a person who

gets insulted so easily is a weakeling. To feel hurt is like pricking

yourself with a needle and thereafter blame others for it. So why

should I be such a fool!

 

So as far as I am concern, yes! we invite you here, we tolerate your

insensitivity, and I forgive them for it, "for they know not what

they do" because they are so caught up in their own illusion.