Guest guest Posted September 11, 2000 Report Share Posted September 11, 2000 dear mr lice<br><br>the senor is right. (But i think that is an accident since he doesn't really know what he's talking about - all theory, you know.)<br>He does know how to make lists though, primarily from his experience as a 9 yr old girl (hopefully a previous incarnation).<br><br>I'm sure you're by now sorry you asked - anyway at the rate the scmucks are encouraging you to leave your wife since THEY have (sorry schmucks), we won't have too many families left. But here is a bit of info. (take a seat on chamoya's psych couch)<br><br>I'm assuming that this is your second round since you have a child from a prior union. You'll get divorced, suddenly you won't be able to live without sex. All those halter tops at the yoga class. And next thing you know you're wining on a chat club for support to leave that wife. Wherever you go there you are.<br><br>Different wife, different set of problems, same misery. Who is the common denominator? Mr Lice.<br><br>The universe wants you to overcome this emotional unavailability & inability to be intimate (which invariably manifests itself physically). - your particular line of defense when life gets a little too real . <br><br>remember this mantra "you don't like your first wife, you don't like your second wife you're not gonna like your third wife" (Shh....Because it is not the wife.)<br><br>Now i do apologize in advance if you are a prior widower but it doesn't change the gist.<br><br>But the most important mantra:<br>When you give love you get love (oh my god and happiness).<br><br>Generally i'm not sure about these affirmations but here is one for you:<br><br>"I am happy and safe and love abundantly." Try it for a week or two.<br><br>chamoya Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2000 Report Share Posted September 11, 2000 <<remember this mantra "you don't like your first wife, you don't like your<br> second wife you're not gonna like your third wife" (Shh....Because it is<br> not the wife.>><br>chamoya,<br>tsk, tsk. such lack of attention to detail is not like you. my interpretation of the relationship was a little different. <br>note: << and look for peace and quietness while living<br> with this big family (me and my child, spouse and HIS three children).>> (capitalization is mine)<br>not that the gender of the spouse would change the intent of the message you had. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2000 Report Share Posted September 11, 2000 Hey, clubbies--it's a woman who wrote the original post. The messages you send may still be the same, but something about all the references to 20 year- old hotties and halter tops made me want to clarify on behalf of simlaus.<br><br>As the mother of a toddler living in the midst of chaos (I'm sure it's multiplied infinitely with more children around) in a small home, I know that it can be very challenging to be happy with your life as is. It seems so much easier for the ashtanginis who are single and unattached, not "burdened" with the responsibilities of husband and home and children and work and practice. They have, literally, more room to breathe. You need to honor that feeling of needing space and peace. I often still feel that. However, I also know that my single friends are all looking for what I have--a loving partner and a child whom I adore (almost always!). No matter what your situation, the grass is always greener.<br><br>I think you do need to find a separate space to practice. Find it, use it, respect yourself and your needs around having time to yourself. I think you will find if you carve out a place for yourself, you will more willingly share the rest of your time with your family. About the desire for your husband--may I submit that you two are probably not carving out time to be just the two of you? My relationship with my spouse takes lots of work, but we have committed to one night each week that we have a date. We've hired a sitter, rain or shine, we spend that time together. That time allows for expansiveness, room to breathe, and that eventually leads to more desire. <br><br>If your marriage has been troubled for a while, and continues that way, and you are really unhappy, please go see a counselor with your husband. So many people split up these days, and I think chamoya's right--they think the answer lies with another partner, or being alone, but usually it's right there with them, carried along into each affair. Don't do anything drastic without counseling first.<br><br>I suggest highly reading Stephen Cope's book, "Yoga and the Quest for True Self". I went through lots of changes when I started my practice, and frankly, if I were trying to practice at home, kids running around, I'd be feeling pretty frayed as well. Find a studio! You owe it to yuorself. My husband also practices yoga once a week or so--he's not "hooked" like I am, but sharing it has definitely made him more understanding of why I love it.<br><br>Good luck, simlaus. I do hope that you can find happiness where you are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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