Guest guest Posted April 13, 2001 Report Share Posted April 13, 2001 Hi all<br>I have been ashtanga yoga for almost three years now. I used to do the whole primary series 3x weekly, now (for the last six months) I practice six days a week, but I rarely make it through the whole primary series. I have experienced many changes, including this one--I am growing increasingly disinterested in having sex. Which is fine by me, except that I am in a committed long term relationship with a partner who still values sex. Hes a good man, familiar with yoga, doesn't give me crap for my disinterest. So I'm wondering, what are householders supposed to do when one of them starts leaning toward celibacy? (because I'm still fond of him in every other way) Is this a normal phase? permanent? Has this ever happened to anyone else, and if so what do you do? Thank you for your replies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2001 Report Share Posted April 13, 2001 I think it is normal for the sexual appetite to diminish. Again, regular daily intense yoga practice brings moderation-even in sex. <br>If you're partner dosen't give you "crap" for this change, you can probably experience new heights when you moderately partake in the sexual act. Just like eating less food can bring more pleasure to the act of eating.<br>I'm sure there are those who would be horrified by a diminished sexual appetite, but I see it as a blessing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2001 Report Share Posted April 13, 2001 Any advice out there for when the partner is not too happy about this "moderation"? Especially when the partner isn't crazy about yoga? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2001 Report Share Posted April 13, 2001 sweetanonym<br><br>It happens to guys, too! <br><br>I'm a new to ashtanga, but I had an intense (1-2hrs daily) Iyengar/sivananda practice for about 6-7 years. During that time my desire became much less. I, too, had no real problems with spouse because my new desire more nearly matched hers.<br><br>I'm midlife (50+) but my guess it was more the yoga or (soy products - they're estrogenic) than getting older.<br><br>Jim<br><br>The key to happiness is to work toward total acceptance of every emotion, situation and person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 13, 2001 Report Share Posted April 13, 2001 Time might heal it!<br><br>My partner was not at all excited about yoga. She tried it and it didn't do much for her. But she saw enough so she could suspect that the appeal of yoga for me was a whole bunch of fit women in tight clothing.<br><br>She eventually came to think the positive changes in my personality, outlook on life, and stress level outweighed the jealousy.<br><br>Perhaps, eventually, the other changes yoga makes in your life will adequately compensate your partner for the loss of desire.<br><br>Jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2001 Report Share Posted April 14, 2001 My partner and I both practice Ashtanga. It has had different effects on us regarding our sex drive. His has remained, mine haven't. Often, we have had very yoga-led schedules, i.e. going to classes in the morning or in the evening after work, and during the weekend. Since we cannot eat 4 hours before our practice, I found that our eating patterns became very fixed as well. I guess having the routine is very important when engaging with Ashtanga in somewhat of a dedicated way, but it has also made our lives slightly boring. <br><br>What I have tried is to become more spontaneous - not just in sex but also in our activities outside yoga and work. Of course this is difficult to achieve because we all only have 24 hours in a day. If you value your relationship with your partner, then there may need to be a re-adjustment period in your practice and schedule. I have also started kickboxing which has given me a different energy from yoga, and I enjoy it. <br><br>There are many serious practioners here at the club, but I know, for myself, that yoga will not be the major part of my life. I will probably never get to Mysore. I may not go beyond the Primary Series. Whether you are a devoted practioner or not, there are important things one can gain from Asthanga. It shouldn't be a cause for tension, but when it does happen, then it might be good to take a step back and re-evaluate your life as a whole (and where Asthanga fits in).<br><br>Just my humble opinion...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2001 Report Share Posted April 17, 2001 try felatio. it will make you more limber.<br><br><br>Ole,<br><br>El Senor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2001 Report Share Posted April 17, 2001 You speaking from experience, El Senor ????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2001 Report Share Posted April 18, 2001 If your man really does not mind spending a lifetime without sex, everything should be ok. Most of the men I know would get frustrated and seek sex from somewhere else - I think that sexuality is a basic human trait so I cannot blame these men even though their behavior is 'cheating'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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