Digest bhakti.v002.n054

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+ SrI SrInivAsa parabrahmaNe nama:

+ aazhvaar thiruvadigaLE SaraNam; emberumaanaar thiruvadigaLE SaraNam

 

Dear Fellow Members:

I just joined the group a week back or so when all the heated discussion was

going on on Bhagavata Apachara etc. I sensed that part of the reason for the

"heat" of the discussion might have arisen from the inherent (though

unintentional) feeling that as the writer wrote the article(s), they felt

strongly about their position, which meant they felt strongly negative about

another member's position. I was thinking aloud on how we normally deal with

similar situations if we disagree with a fellow-member of our group in our

professional work place. I have been in professional life for a relatively

long time, and have been one of those accused of being blunt and abrupt.

Over the years, I have softened somewhat, and am beginning to realize that

I achieve better results if I couch my disagreement in words that are not

direct, but still make the point.

 

It just occurred to me that one way we can all learn from each other without

necessarily taking thw position of "you are wrong, I am right" or

similar approach, is to intentionally word our messages as if we are writing

these to our fellow-workers in our offices when we transact office business.

In general, to keep good relations in our offices, we try to avoid openly

taking the position that the other persons is "wrong" even when such is the

case, but generally couch our words in polite ways such as "I believe the

explanation may be something else", etc. Sure there are those who may think

this

is close to intetionally lying, dishonesty, etc., but the bottom line is

to keep working relations going smoothly to optimize the group's output in

the long run, not hurting anyone even unintentionally through our words (which

I believe may even be consistent with our Sri Vaishnavite beliefs, even

though I don't have any documented basis for this statement) etc.

 

 

One way I have found useful in my priofessional life is to read and re-read

what I write a couple of times, and edit it with some of the above objectives

in mind. Of course this takes time, but I achieve some of my objectives in

communication better by putting in this additional time.

 

If this is a general concept acceptable to the group, then may be the group can

accept on a set of general guidelines on how to word their messages so that

the learning experience of the group is maximized, without compromising the

right to share views without inhibition, as long as an attempt is made not to

sound authoritative. May be this is easier said than done for some one like

me who knows nothing, and has no formal or informal education in Sri

Vaishnavism or other branches of religion, and may be it is difficult for those

of our

members who really know a lot, but I just thought an approach to our

fellow-members

as if they are all members of a group similar to that at our work place may be

a good model to keep in mind.

 

If I sound like I am advising our fellow members, this was not my intent. I

just wanted share some thoughts on how we can improve on the excellent

communication that is taking place among the Bhakti group members.

 

Please accept my apologies if I have said overstepped my bounds out of my

ignorance.

 

Sincerely,

 

Narasimhan Krishnamachari

 

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