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Hi,

 

I've begun to feel like the world offers little and want nothing from it but a

place to meditate and the simplest provisions. If I was in my twenties I

would become a monk but I'm 45 now and it seems there is an age restriction.

Do know of any conducive situations for what I seek?

 

I include an excerpt from a free book on the internet by Sw.Sivananda on the

incompatibility of meditation and ordinary householder lifestyles. It seems

true enough to my experience...

 

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When you advance in the spiritual practice, it will be very difficult for you

to do meditation and office work at the same time, because the mind will

undergo double strain. Those who practise meditation will find that they are

more sensitive than the people who do not meditate and, because of that, the

strain on the physical body is enormous. The mind works in different grooves

and channels with different Samskaras during meditation. It finds it very

difficult to adjust to different kinds of uncongenial activities. As soon

as it

comes down from the meditation, it gropes in darkness. It gets bewildered and

puzzled. The Prana (energy) which moves inward in different grooves and

channels and which is subtle during the meditation has to move in new,

different

channels during worldly activities. It becomes very gross during work. It has

to work in different grooves and channels. When you again sit for

meditation in

the evening, you will have to struggle hard to wipe out the newly acquired

Samskaras you have gathered during the course of the day and get calm and

one-pointedness of mind. This struggle sometimes brings in headache. It

behoves, therefore, that advanced Grihastha Yogic students (householders) will

have to stop all the worldly activities when they advance in meditation, if

they desire to progress further. They themselves will be forced to give up all

work, if they are really sincere. Work is a hindrance in meditation for

advanced students.

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Hello ac:

 

I do not know of any ashram that would be conducive to a life of meditation

as any that I know of also requires work/seva/tasks and generally there will

be challenges living in a community. Seems to me that the only way to have

a life free of the world would be to have an independent income with which

to create your own 'cave'.

 

With regard to the excerpt that you included that is a rather 'negative'

viewpoint. A person with true detachment, a strong aura and physical body

should be able to be around any situation and not be thrown into a lower

vibration. There are many things that can be done to keep the vibrations of

others from affecting you. A strong physical routine of yoga, tai chi,

karate will work to keep the nadis and aura positive and clear. Conscious

breathing, silent mantra, certain foods, aromatherapy, visualization and

even stones or the colors one chooses to wear can work to protect one's

energy field.

 

There is a challenge to meditation and a spiritual path but it is only a

challenge. It is the challenge that your karma or soul mandated as a

'householder' for this lifetime. IMHO it is fairly naive to think that

escaping from the world makes the journey any easier - it is just a

different path with different challenges.

 

Linda

>Hi,

>I've begun to feel like the world offers little and want nothing from it

but a

>place to meditate and the simplest provisions. If I was in my twenties I

>would become a monk but I'm 45 now and it seems there is an age

restriction.

>Do know of any conducive situations for what I seek?

>I include an excerpt from a free book on the internet by Sw.Sivananda on

the

>incompatibility of meditation and ordinary householder lifestyles. It

seems

>true enough to my experience...

 

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

When you advance in the spiritual practice, it will be very difficult for

you

to do meditation and office work at the same time, because the mind will

undergo double strain. Those who practise meditation will find that they are

more sensitive than the people who do not meditate and, because of that, the

strain on the physical body is enormous. The mind works in different grooves

and channels with different Samskaras during meditation. It finds it very

difficult to adjust to different kinds of uncongenial activities. As soon

as it

comes down from the meditation, it gropes in darkness. It gets bewildered

and

puzzled. The Prana (energy) which moves inward in different grooves and

channels and which is subtle during the meditation has to move in new,

different

channels during worldly activities. It becomes very gross during work. It

has

to work in different grooves and channels. When you again sit for

meditation in

the evening, you will have to struggle hard to wipe out the newly acquired

Samskaras you have gathered during the course of the day and get calm and

one-pointedness of mind. This struggle sometimes brings in headache. It

behoves, therefore, that advanced Grihastha Yogic students (householders)

will

have to stop all the worldly activities when they advance in meditation, if

they desire to progress further. They themselves will be forced to give up

all

work, if they are really sincere. Work is a hindrance in meditation for

advanced students.

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a c wrote:

>

> I've begun to feel like the world offers little and want nothing from it but a

> place to meditate and the simplest provisions. If I was in my twenties I

> would become a monk but I'm 45 now and it seems there is an age restriction.

> Do know of any conducive situations for what I seek?

>

> I include an excerpt from a free book on the internet by Sw.Sivananda on the

> incompatibility of meditation and ordinary householder lifestyles. It seems

> true enough to my experience...

>

 

there are a number of instances where i

disagree with Sivananda--this being one

of them. not to say that his teachings

aren't of value; quite the contrary.

even presumable jnanis can differ in

their ideologies and teaching methods,

for numerous reasons...

 

as far as being too old, that's also a

complete misunderstanding. (i'm 51)

 

i agree with Linda Callahan's response

re the grihastha and some of the things

that can be done to counteract one's

dharana problems amidst distractions..

Ramana, for example, used to say that

the grihastha has a great advantage

over most! he would *usually* turn

people away from staying at the ashram

in lieu of performing their household

duties. he would say that, under such

circumstances, one can be tested in

ways that are conducive to the greatest

growth, especially in terms of the

attenuation or purifying of the Mind.

 

namaste

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Dear Frank & all,

>

>as far as being too old, that's also a

>complete misunderstanding. (i'm 51)

>

The only 2 orders ordaining westerners which I know of both say it must

happen early in life. One specifies before age 25. Please tell me more

specifically about my "complete misunderstanding" because it comes as good

news to me. You mention being 51 in this context and I wonder why -- are

you a sannyasin or planning on it?

>i agree with Linda Callahan's response

>re the grihastha and some of the things

>that can be done to counteract one's

>dharana problems amidst distractions..

>Ramana, for example, used to say that

>the grihastha has a great advantage

>over most! he would *usually* turn

>people away from staying at the ashram

>in lieu of performing their household

>duties. he would say that, under such

>circumstances, one can be tested in

>ways that are conducive to the greatest

>growth, especially in terms of the

>attenuation or purifying of the Mind.

>

 

When we meditate we do not usually leave the TV, stereo and radio on. We

might try it once or twice just to "test" ourselves but you'd have to be

crazy to choose it as a regular routine. Life "in the world" is like TV

-- a noisy waste of time. Yes, its "influence" can be overcome but why

waste that energy *if* you can just unplug it? ( By the way - I don't

watch TV! :-))

 

If you doubt there's a good reason to "leave the world" just think back on

how many meditation masters, saints, etc. were recluse hermits, sannyasins,

etc. and how many were householders. The ratio is about 10 to 1 isn't it?

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>If you doubt there's a good reason to "leave the world" just think back on

>how many meditation masters, saints, etc. were recluse hermits, sannyasins,

>etc. and how many were householders. The ratio is about 10 to 1 isn't it?

 

How many of those "saints" still depended on householders? About ten to

one, I'd guess... - Art Gregory

 

 

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On Tue, 27 Jul 1999, a c wrote:

> a c <ac

>

> Hi,

>

> I've begun to feel like the world offers little and want nothing from it but a

> place to meditate and the simplest provisions. If I was in my twenties I

> would become a monk but I'm 45 now and it seems there is an age restriction.

> Do know of any conducive situations for what I seek?

>

> I include an excerpt from a free book on the internet by Sw.Sivananda on the

> incompatibility of meditation and ordinary householder lifestyles. It seems

> true enough to my experience...

>

 

 

namaste. It is good to be back on the List after a few weeks absence.

 

I agree with Frank in that I do not agree with Swami Sivananda's

assessment (which you appended to your post) on this topic.

 

I was under the same impression as you stated, a few years ago. But

I realized that meditation is not when you sit in a corner room thinking

aham brahmAsmi, and trying to get the mind into a single focus. That may

be the beginning stages of meditation. I recognized that one can meditate

while brushing the teeth, while showering, while commuting, and even

while working.

 

Meditation is a state of the mind. Meditation results in the purity

of the soul. That is, when no evil or bad thoughts enter into the mind.

In between teaching (I teach at a University), concentrate the mind on

the personal God, or on good thoughts. I recognized that meditation is

not a 45minute/day deal on the meditation seat but a 24-hour/day

enjoyment. For that, gr^hastha or sannyAsa does not matter. It is a

state of the mind. With this, the time is at our control, and we are

at a most relaxed state all the time.

 

I find, being gr^hastha is not an impediment.

 

Regards

Gummuluru Murthy

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a c wrote:

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> The only 2 orders ordaining westerners which I know of both say it must

> happen early in life. One specifies before age 25. Please tell me more

> specifically about my "complete misunderstanding" because it comes as good

> news to me. You mention being 51 in this context and I wonder why -- are

> you a sannyasin or planning on it?

>

 

obviously it is one's perogative to put

faith or not in a given institution.

in my opinion, it is valid to put faith

ultimately in the guru in one's Heart--

provided of course if such connection

is sensed to have been established.

 

this view has also been, subsequently in

my time, reinforced for me by sages like

Ramana and Buddha, who have emphatically

entreated us to rely, ultimately, on

the wisdom of the Heart (i.e. the Self).

 

my karma led me to live like a sannyasin

without taking any formal initiation.

however, it grew more out of not desiring

naturally, than doing it in the form of

any sacrifice.

> >i agree with Linda Callahan's response

> >re the grihastha and some of the things

> >that can be done to counteract one's

> >dharana problems amidst distractions..

> >Ramana, for example, used to say that

> >the grihastha has a great advantage

> >over most! he would *usually* turn

> >people away from staying at the ashram

> >in lieu of performing their household

> >duties. he would say that, under such

> >circumstances, one can be tested in

> >ways that are conducive to the greatest

> >growth, especially in terms of the

> >attenuation or purifying of the Mind.

> >

>

> When we meditate we do not usually leave the TV, stereo and radio on. We

> might try it once or twice just to "test" ourselves but you'd have to be

> crazy to choose it as a regular routine. Life "in the world" is like TV

> -- a noisy waste of time. Yes, its "influence" can be overcome but why

> waste that energy *if* you can just unplug it? ( By the way - I don't

> watch TV! :-))

>

> If you doubt there's a good reason to "leave the world" just think back on

> how many meditation masters, saints, etc. were recluse hermits, sannyasins,

> etc. and how many were householders. The ratio is about 10 to 1 isn't it?

>

 

my experience has shown me there's really no

difference at all. the Mind is the only *real*

potential enemy "in or out of this world picture."

 

this is something else:

 

i am ever in meditation now. even when hungry,

angry, sad or fearful. all these moods are

only brahman's lila. they are not specifically

who i am; only infintesimal fragments of my

totality...*our* totality. yes!

 

we are, in truth, *all* in meditation, at all times.

lest the world would collapse!

 

namaste

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Dear Gummuluru, Frank, & all,

>

>I was under the same impression as you stated, a few years ago. But

>I realized that meditation is not when you sit in a corner room thinking

>aham brahmAsmi, and trying to get the mind into a single focus. That may

>be the beginning stages of meditation. I recognized that one can meditate

>while brushing the teeth, while showering, while commuting, and even

>while working.

>

Congratulations on your success. I'm not that advanced. I do notice a

change which seems caused by some environments so I endeavor to avoid the

ones which are too noisy, false, etc.. On the other hand, I've met someone

who occasionally ate glass, shit, etc. because to this person everything

was Brahman. This person can also just not eat or sleep at all because

Brahman is never hungry or tired. So I know such things are possible -

but not for me at this time.

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Different sages hold different perspectives according to their background

and understanding. Ramana Maharshi always pointed out that it was not the

environment but maturity of the mind that was the critical factor in

"winning" Jnana. Swami Sivananda emphasized that the environment must be

made conducive to meditaion. Perhaps both view points are different sides of

the same coin. Sri Ramana's teaching, it seems to me, is less forced, gentle

and more compassionate, taking into account the diversity of human

tendencies and behavior, yet seeing the same Self in all. Swami Sivananda

was also a man of great compassion in his own way. Interestingly, Swami

Sivananda became a renunciate when he was around 37. He was formerly a

medical doctor. He continued to be active in promoting healthy ways of

living and established an ashram and a dispensary for distributing medicine

to Sadhus and other people who needed it. Swami Sivananda was active in

service and has written comprehensively on various branches of yoga,

Vedanta, tantra, etc. He was apparently an extremely sweet and accommodating

person who used to give healing and spiritual mantras even by mail and did

that with my father who often corresponded with him in the 1950s. I bow to

the teachings of the great sages who point to the Reality of the Self in all

traditions.

 

Harsha

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Dear all,

>

>Different sages hold different perspectives according to their background

>and understanding. Ramana Maharshi always pointed out that it was not the

>environment but maturity of the mind that was the critical factor in

>"winning" Jnana.

>

 

hmmm.... as it seems unlikely the world will adapt to my own ideas of

what might be conducive to spiritual progress -- I think I'll get to work

on the "maturity of mind" angle... :-))

 

Thanks to all for helping put this in perspective.

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