Soul Mates: Do They Exist?

September 10, 2004

Dear Spiritual Brothers and Sisters,

While browsing, I got the following interesting

article from http://astralvoyage.com/ and thought to

share with you all including our sister Anu:

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I know I'll probably be opening myself up for some

debate on this one, but it is my opinion that in the

true sense of the word, soul mates do not exist.

I believe there are "soul favorites". These are souls

that we have shared past experiences with and upon

meeting them again, feel a deep kinship for. These

relationships can carry on for multiple lifetimes,

each cycle deepening the feelings from the one before.

So when we meet a soul that we feel an immense love

and kinship with, it is my opinion that this is a

history of experiences manifesting itself.

So what is awry with the concept of a soul mate? If

they existed, why did none of the masters elude to

them? Why didn't Buddha, Christ or Mohammed hook up

with their soul mate and spread the good word in

couple fashion? If anyone could have found them, then

surely these masters would have!

In the progress of the soul, learning to love another

person is very important. But it is my belief that in

the final cycles of the physical existence, there can

be no division of Love. What I mean by that is, with

unconditional love, can I love any one human more than

another? Where there is division, there is not

unconditional love for all. This is why no master took

a wife (or husband). The supreme lesson of love, is

not of a sexual nature. It is the unconditional loving

of all things created by the universal force.

Loving a mate serves the same purpose as loving a

child. It teaches us to love outside of ourselves and

learn worthy traits such as sharing, forgiveness,

acceptance, tolerance and patience. We find it easier

to love our children and mates, but ultimately, this

is expressed to all. No division...

Why do we seek soul mates? As hard as it is to say

this, it's usually to fill a void within ourselves. We

feel incomplete, empty, lonely, and we think a "soul

mate" will fill those voids. The fear of being alone

motivates us as well. But should we put this sort of

burden on anyone? If you love yourself

unconditionally, then you will not carry fear in your

heart of abandonment and pain, for you are complete. A

soul "favorite" should enhance your life only, not

create it. Yet we search and search, placing our needs

on this person and that, never fulfilled, always

searching. Ironically, the greater the hole in

someone, the harder they fall in what they perceive as

"love", because the potential for loss is so much

greater.

A lot of what I am saying depends on your beliefs. For

example, what do you think happens to you when you

die? If you turn to dust, well, the soul mate issue is

moot. If you're off to heaven or hell, you could

probably spend eternity with someone, but gosh, that

seems like a long time. We have trouble staying with

anyone here on earth for very long let alone for

eternity! Also, if this belief held true for soul

mates, then why do they say, "Until Death Do You

Part."? Now if you believe in the karmic cycle and

different planes of existence, then once you

eventually leave the lower planes (both physical and

astral) then the body doesn't exist and the whole soul

mate thing doesn't make sense. With no physical body,

we won't be doing much of anything like eating,

sleeping, or procreating.

These are some lofty concepts, I know. but the

greatest love we can find is within ourselves. Once we

achieve that, then we are truly a gift to others when

we give ourselves in a relationship, whether that be

to a friend, relative or "soul favorite".

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Regards

Kumar

September 11, 2004

Dear spiritual brother,

Im sorry you are wrong kumar. Soul mates do exist.

Even buddha ,jesus, mohammed had soul mates. For jesus it was MaryMagdalene,

for buddha it was goutami a female nun, and for muhammed it was Ayesha. Every

cosmic ion is seperated into two one yin and one yang. soul favourites are a

different thing. But only when a person is meeting his spiritual destiny soon

can he meet his soul mate. Else he might meet her or him casually.

Also great masters never reveal their soul mates. And

the disciples edit many of their personal information and give just the golden

ones for the disciples to follow.And it is not love or unconditional love that

comes into play when you talk of soulmates. It is an existential thing. You

just exist fully with your soulmate. and finally the salvation of spirit comes

and fructifies with this union.

Also you have a wrong opinion that mate should always

be your wife. The mate can even be your child or sister.Love is love it is pure

and unalloyed it can be shown towads anyone not just your significant other!

These are not just my view but the views of some rishis

and siddhas whom I see regularly in my meditations and tantric practices.

However it is upto you and other spiritual brothers and

sisters to accept or reject my views. God is the ultimate truth and the answer.