Life and frustrations

[Guest guest]

Anand,

 

Being an Indian living in the Western world I can assure you that same

amount of problems if not more, in networking, employment, family,

marital relations and every walks of life is faced by the Westerner as

well. Hence Ramana's teaching are universally applicable at all times.

 

As regards some of the issues raised, family and otherwise, an

incident in Ramana's life comes to my mind. When he was staying as a

renunciate in, I think Skanthashram, his mother came from Manamadurai,

after losing her elder son, to stay with him. Since no lady was

allowed to stay in the ashram she used to live in town with a lady

called Echemmal. She claimed up the hill daily during day, stayed with

Bagavan and left back in the evening. But this strenuous routine did

not suit her old age. Hence Echemmal argued with ashram in-mates to

allow mother to stay there. After prolonged argument whiled Ramana was

just quietly listening, the people gathered there finally refused

permission to allow mother to stay there. It is at that time Ramana

just got up, took mother's hand in his and said to her let us go and

stay in a place where you can stay with me. When others saw this they

agreed to allow mother also to stay with them.

 

Here although Ramana was a renunciate he did not let his mother down.

He acted by taking a decision. The first point in life for us to learn

then is we have to stand up and act for things we feel strongly about.

Ramana taught how to act as well through majority of his action was

done silently with out any ulterior benefit in mind..

 

The reason I am writing this is to just bring across the point that

some times in our life we will be placed with situations where we have

to face up to others, and take appropriate but decisive actions. At

such time we should not hesitate or think life is full of

frustrations. Introspect as much as one wants but act. Even when one

becomes renunciate this cannot be avoided.

 

But if we know or appreciate that all living beings have the same

Athma or self, (mother wife and we included) then a level of maturity

could be brought into our actions and our mind trained to be more

tolerant towards them since they are ignorant about self while we are

not. Having gone through similar problems in earlier part of my life,

and facing same type of problems even now after passage of 50 odd

years since I got married in India, it has become clear to me that

problems never cease. It may be wife today daughter in law tomorrow

and grand son day after. Western or Eastern this is the law.

 

While appreciating the fact that to provide advice is easier than to

practise, I will venture to say Ramana's way suggest that do not

identify yourself with the body, do not think you are doing. But still

do things, which as per your inner self is right. In the material

plane all the actions and fruits are governed by the rule of Karma,

notice it and ask the question to whom this karma is. No easy

solutions could be found here expect to introspect and ask the

question again and again. In this way we will fail many a times. As

Raman says the blessings are always there it will retrieve us at the

end.

 

Let Ramana and Buvaneswari guide you

Bala

[Guest guest]

Hello,

 

My 2 cents: Everyone needs to take decisions. Everyone takes

usually takes whatever decision they feel is best at the time.

No one takes a wrong decision intentionally. If we are not

able to see clearly while taking the decision, it is not our

fault. We have done our best. The problem comes when the results

of our decisions come up. A bad decision results in unplesant

results. We are not able to accept them. If we develop a mentality

to take the best possible decision at the time of taking, and

be ready for any consequence, there is absolutely no problem.

The result of a wrong decision should be taken as a lesson and

we should move ahead.

 

With regards,

Gomu.

 

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