hey decent man

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Dear Sri vaishNava perunthagaiyeer

 

When a person can be called a decent man?

 

You, all, will react to this question saying

 when he exhibits good and pleasing manners, etiquette etc, when he=

 

is being approached by an unknown person like you and me,

 when he talks in simple language in courteous manner to us when

some questions are put to him by us when we approach him,

 when he is neatly dressed,

 when he appears to be well educated,

 when he is gentle in his actions

 

But can a person be called a decent man for he is looking at one

girl? That too when she describes

 I am being looked at by him curiously,

 he also looks at my thighs,

 he also looks at my breasts, the young and tender ones which I

carry".

 

Perhaps, if it is present days or modern times, such a person will be

immediately booked for damaging the modesty of a young women, or,

for "eve teasing" under Cr PC sections. Immediately on the other side

a big commotion would set in by women's associations and

organisations.

 

But the same girl, who first said he looks at me, as stated above,

certifies him as he is very decent – very civilized, says "he is

naagarikar". Also adds he is beautiful and very young, for he also

entered my house and then only does all these.

 

Perhaps she also wants that she should be looked at like that. The

only thing she is afraid of is "what my mother will think when she

sees this person looking at me and my body parts?"

 

Dear bhakthaas, you all now wonder what this man wants to write that

too in serious lists like et al, a cinema scene? May be –

if filmed it will be quite entertaining in its real sense. Before

accusing me read on.

 

Now a doubt comes whether what she says is false [as a decent man –

naagarigar] or the maintenance that she is afraid of her mother is

false, for she goes on to describe how beautiful he is. If she is

afraid of mother why should she go on and on to describe him.

 

For this is all stated by thirumangai aazhvaar in his paasurams. The

person looking at the girl is none other than my krishNa, the girl

looked at is none else than the aazhvaar.

 

Now read more -

"thOzhee, ennaiyum nOkki en algulum nOkki

Enthu iLam kongaiyum nOkkuginRaar

annai en nOkkum enR anjuginREn"

 

"nambar nam illam pugundhu ninRaar, naagarigar, peridhum iLaiyar".

 

The reference is 9-2 –1 and 4 of the thirunaagai aazhvaar paasurams

in his periya thirumozhi.

 

Dear bhakthaas, see here, is the `certificate' for that decent man.

Also he is nambar – nam anbar – our dear man – or a royal `we' – he

is my `man'.

 

Now I understand why he is described such – for I also love him – so

he becomes decent in spite of looking at differently in different

places of my body – he is very young one also – so may be the

paarvai – the looking is nishkalangam – with no blemishes.

 

Ok, let him see me in whatever way he wants or wherever he wants. No

inhibitions on my part in exposing myself to himfor he is nambar.

For that also gives me a chance to see him more and describe him. I

will not stop describing him. So goes on – as "achchO oruvar

azhagiyavaa" – oh, a beautiful person.

 

Dear bhakthaas, already we saw his beauty is the medicine for all

types of ills for us - so let us enjoy more of his beauty.

 

pon ivar mEni – gold has become his body

 

min maragadhaththin pongu iLam jOthi agalaththu aaram - the haaram –

the ornament hanging in the chest has a green gem – maragatham –

dazzles in light green shine

 

min ivar vaayil nal vEdhamOdhum – that min – glittering can also be

added here - glittering mouth utters the different vEdhaas - vEdham

Odhum or vEdham mOdhum – both are apt – these vEdhaas desire to go

into his mouth and come out as uttered by him – so they rush to go in

and come out dashing against each other – so vEdham mOdhum vaai.

 

senchudar aazhiyum sangum Endhi – the hands carry the conch and the

radiant wheel

kaiyana aazhiyum sangum Endhi – meaning same as above

 

paadaga melladiyaar vaNanga – paadagam named jewel is in the soft

lotus petal feet which are being worshipped by his devotees. Also

melladiyaar - menmaiyaana bhakthaas – once transformed into his

bhakthaas they become soft in nature – so also melladiyaar - they

worship those feet which adorns the paadagam – an ornament like that

kazhal. [aaNdaaL also refers this paadagam – "soodagamE thOL vaLaiyE

thOdE sevip poovE paadagamE enRu anaiya palkalanum" in

her "koodaarai" paasuram]

 

panmaNi muththodu ilangu jOthi aadagam pooNdu oru naangu thOLum – the

four shoulders having aadagam named jewel – [thOL vaLai for aaNdaaL]

in all 4 shoulder parts, several gems and pearls glitter in these

jewels.

 

now comes the real description – iv vaiyagam ellaam thaayina naayagar

aavar – he is the mother for all this world and galaxies, also the

head or father of all clan – [see the gender goes put – whether male

or female – for he is the mother, when said as father he then is

male – mother means female – what exactly he is? Both combined or

neither – [now comes the description by way of a rescue -

nammaazhvaar paasuram – aaNum allan peNNum allan, aliyum allan]

 

vambavizhum thuzhaai maalai thOL mEl – the shoulders also carries the

vaijayanthee garlands – the thuLasee garlands.

 

sem pavaLam ivar vaayin vaNNam – the red coral is the colour of his

mouth.

 

ivaradhu uruvam sollil am pavaLaththiraLEyum oppar – just to describe

his body – then can call as a beautiful coral reef – [please note –

first it is gold hue – yellow, now coral red]

 

see next – ivar vaNNam eNNil maa kadal pOnRu uLar – just to think of

his colour - he is like the big ocean – blue ocean – [colour changed

from gold yellow to red to blue]

 

once more another colour – anjana maamalaiyEyum oppar – he is also

like the black hill of collerium –kaajal black- the black substance

applied to eyes to enhance beauty of the eyes.

 

aNikezhu thaamaraiyanna kaNNum angaiyum pankayam – the eyes and the

palms are lotus

 

How he came – anjiraip puLLUm onRu Eri vandhaar – he came on a bird

as his transport means.

Who is this – maal irum Olai maNaaLar- the sundharan who resids in

thirumaalirum sOlai,

 

Or is it neermalaiyaar – that person living in thiruneermalai – near

chennai-

 

Finally see the words- maNdi Or aalilaip paLLi koLLum maayar –

sleeping in a single leaf of the banyan tree covering the full leaf,

such a magician – he ate the whole world but lies in a small banyan

leaf – is it not magic?

 

– annamum kEzhalum meenumaaya aadhiyai naagai azhagiyaarai -

that old stuff which became the swan, the boar, and the fish – that

beautiful lady who is in naagai – the gender now in confusion – is it

or appears so – yes - once immersed into his beauty – all senses

goes. So rules do not apply there – so first a male – next azhagiyaar-

a female beauty- that is why even if he sees the breasts or thighs –

it is welcome.

 

You can decide whether it is ok if he looks at you like described

here – is it decency? Or want to feel shy – or all gone when he

looks at.

Oh, what if somebody mocks at – for his kataaksham is more worth than

all these fragile words of common folks. So can I get that decent

man's look on me - kidaikkumaa andha decent nOkku on my chest, achO

oru azhagiyavaa – krishNa krishNa the beauty.

 

Dhasan

 

Vasudevan m.g.