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> Message: 3

> Sat, 5 Feb 2005 04:06:04 +0800

> "S Rajalingam" <s.rajalingam

> Upanayam

> > Dear Vaishnavas

> > I agree with all the input but what is the case on

> Devotee like myself who> only got Upanayam at the

age of 39.> I would very much appreciate if the

bhagavathas on this list can throw some light.

Thank You

**************

 

Dear Sri S Rajalingam,

That's a really good question! Besides the obvious

humour laced in it, it is thought-provoking! I commend

your candidness in raising it openly.

 

Many members have given their inputs on the subject.

They are quite right in pointing out age-old 'sAstra',

the traditional convention we all abide by, sets the

age for 'upanayanam' very early in life. But Sri Anbil

svAmi is right in asking for the actual 'pramANam' to

support members' view that says the ceremony must be

performed at ages 7, 9, 11, 13 or 15 and that

thereafter performance of 'upanayanam' is actually a

"waste of time and money".

 

We also need to know the actual "pramANam" for the

other view which holds after a boy turns 16 without

undergoing 'upanayanam', it is just as well he goes

all his life without the sacred thread.

 

(Perfunctorily, of course, later in life, in order to

duly solemnize such a boy's wedding, say at age 25 or

30, just before the main wedding-rites, a separate and

hurriedly arranged ritual is usually performed for the

purpose of investiture of "yagnyOpavItam" (sacred

thread) on the poor young groom. The purpose of this

rite is really to ensure the officiating priest is not

inconvenienced, that he is not incapacitated from

performing due processes of Vedic wedding-ritual. It

is to enable the priest to go ahead, without let,

hindrance or embarrassment, and ceremoniously proclaim

the blessed couple as Man and Wife).

 

Be that all as it may, the question of Sri Rajalingam

is pertinent enough to warrant scrutiny and a serious

response. My views given below are NOT to be taken as

authoritative. It comes with the caveat to members

they are entering uncharted waters.

 

The "sAstrA" is unambiguous a boy's "upanayanam" must

be performed ASAP in life. Very little room is

provided in the "sAstra" by way of concessions

extended to the timing or performance of this

important Vedic rite. There are few circumstances in

life under which lapses relating to performance of

"upanayana" may be condoned or extenuated. But that

does not mean persons like Sri Rajalingam have no

hope. On one hand, our Vedic "sAstrAs" are, no doubt,

strictly inviolable, but then, on the other hand, the

'sAstra' also does not totally abandon or damn

trangressors. It shows them a way out too to somehow

redeem themselves. The Vedic faith is a compassionate

one. It always seeks to hold everyone in its embrace.

 

******************

 

"Upanayana" is a Vedic "samskAra". If we understood

what "samskAra" truly means in the Vedic faith, we

will not fail to understand why "upanayana" must be

performed at the appropriate time pre-ordained by

'sAstra'. Equally, we will also not fail to appreciate

why even those who, unfortunately, have transgressed

the "sAstra" in this regard, cannot be held wholly

irredeemable.

 

The Sanskrit word "samskAra" is extremely difficult to

translate into any other language. Usually, "samskAra"

is translated by English-speaking persons as "rite of

passage", implying threby that the "upanayana

samskAra" is something akin to the "baptism" of the

Christians, the "bar mitzvah" of the Jews or the

"sunnat" (circumcision ceremony) of the Muslims. The

latter are all indeed "rites of passage" marking as

they do solemn initiation into adulthood. When a

Christian, Jew or Muslim boy "comes of age", he is

said to be ready to cross a major calendar-milestone

in the voyage of life.

 

A Vedic "samskAra" is far, far more than mere rite of

passage. For a Vedic adherent, the whole course of

human life is like a flowing river of "samskArAs".

There are something like 40 different Vedic

"samskArAs" beginning with the "seemantham" performed

for the human foetus beginning its great journey of

life within a mother's womb. On the 10th day after

birth, there is the "samskAra" of "nAma-karana" or

"punyAvachanam" for the infant. Thereafter, there is

the "chaula samskAra", the first tonsuring for the

toddler. Childhood is also marked by other

"samskArA-s" like "anna-prasnam", "aksharAbhyAsam"

etc. When the child reaches the age of 7 or 8, there

is the "upanayana samskAra" about which we are all now

discussing. The boy who has undergone "upanayana

samskAra", when he matures into a young man, becomes

ready for the "vivAha samskAra", the wedding-rite

which ushers him into the "gruhastAshrama"

(householder) phase in life. Then there are other

various "samskArA-s" a full-grown man undergoes in the

onward voyage of life. There are the SriVaishnava

"samskArA-s" collectively called "pancha-samskArA". In

ripe old age, there is also the "samskArA" of

"shashtiabdapoorthi" (60th birthday) which a

"gruhastA" undergoes...

 

At the end of life too, when a man sheds his mortal

coils, there is a "samskAra" to which he is finally

subjected. It is called "antima samskAra",

"prEta-samskAra" etc. -- the last Vedic rites by which

a human soul departs into the beyond...

 

If it is not really a rite of passage, we may now ask,

what then is Vedic "samskAra"?

 

In his book of discourses, "deivattin kural" ("The

Hindu Dharma"), the Sage of Kanchi, PujyaSri

Chandrasekharendra Saraswati has explained it all very

beautifully.

 

When we sit down to eat a typical south Indian meal,

we should, for once, take a moment to ponder over the

plentiful rice served. Before we tuck into the meal

with gusto, we should ask ourselves, "From where does

this wonderful "annam" come? And where does it go?".

 

No one needs enlighten us where the rice goes. It goes

right down our throat into the belly, of course. But

if we reflect a little more deeply upon the fact, we

realize that the "annam" ultimately transforms itself

into vital "prANa" or Energy. And it is mysterious,

ethereal, vital Prana that sustains the life-force

within us. In a metaphysical way of speaking, (as

indeed the Taittiriya Upanishad does in a very famous

passage), we are ourselves, body, mind and soul,

comprised of nothing but the essence of "annam".

 

What then, we should hence ask, is this "annam" made

of? How did it get to become the vital source of life

and the hi-octane energy that it verily is?

 

If we ponder upon that question, we will be led into a

grave contemplation of the various processes (or

"samskArAs") through which the grain that we are about

to eat had to serially undergo before arriving as

steamingly wholesome "annam" upon on our meal-plate.

 

First, there was the process of "seeding" which the

farmer performed. Then after careful tending in the

field, the paddy was "harvested". Merely upon

"harvesting" (which we may regard as roughly analogous

to a "rite of passage" for paddy), paddy does not

become fit for human consumption. Thereafter, the

grain has to undergo a few more "samskArAs". It has to

be "de-husked", then it has to be "separated from the

chaff". Then the grain has to be "bagged" and

transported before it finally arrives home. At home

(the "gruhasthAshrama", we might say!), the rice has

to undergo yet a few more kitchen "samskArAs" before

it can be served as full meal on a table. The rice has

to be "cleaned", for example, and then "cooked" and

placed inside a vessel...

 

The long and short of it all is that just as a grain

of rice, travelling from the farmer's field to the

dinner-table, must necessarily undergo a series of

processes before it can become fit finally for human

consumption, likewise, so does a human soul, according

to the Vedic faith, need to undergo a series of

"samskArAs", before it can become fit to arrive at its

divine destination in heaven -- on God's dinner-table,

so to speak. (In Vedantic theology, the Almighty is

often referred to as the ultimate "bhOgi", the

ultimate enjoyer of souls!).

 

The Kanchi AchAryA's metaphor of rice is a very apt

one indeed, if you think about it deeply enough.

 

Each of the several "processes" by which paddy is

rendered into rice and then finally into a meal...

each has to be necessarily performed at the right

time. None can be delayed or postponed if the final

wholesome quality of the rice is to be ensured. A

farmer must perform the "seeding" operation, for

example, at just the right season. The paddy must be

"harvested" at the right time. The rice cannot be

"de-husked" in the rainy season... so on and so forth.

 

 

So is the case indeed with Vedic "samkskArAs"! Each

must be performed at the appropriate time. When a

young man does not get married in time i.e. his

"vivAha samskArA", for some reason or other, gets

delayed, everyone besides himself will get terribly

perturbed. Again, when a person dies, his relatives

make sure they lose no time whatsoever in performing

his last rites, isn't it? People actually shudder to

even think of delaying or postponing the "antima

prEta-samskArA" of a deceased, don't they? We should

now ask ourselves rather pointedly why the "upanayana

samskAra" alone should receive a different, rather

cavalier treatment at our hands? Why should we be lax

in performing this particular "samskAra" when we will

ordinarily never brook delaying others?

 

In the Vedic scheme of things, a "samskAra" performed

at the right time ensures that a man faithfully

carries out the responsibilites appropriate to his

station in life. We can say hence that a "samskAra"

is really not so much a "rite of passage" as it is a a

"rite of growing responsibility".

 

The "upanayana samskAra", for example, ensures that a

boy between the ages of 7/8 and 18/20 diligently

carries out the duties enjoined upon him by the stage

in life called "brahmacharyam". It is during this

period in his life that he must apply himself to

gaining knowledge and cultivating his intellectual

acumen. The "upanayana samskAra" he has undergone

helps him greatly indeed in remaining deeply aware of

this responsibility of his. Such awareness instils in

him mental concentration, perseverance and humility.

He also acquires good habits of personal hygiene,

mental alertness, gentle manners and a pleasing

personality. These ingrained habits of his soon turn

into character, and then character gradually

transforms itself into his very destiny...

 

The "vivAha samskAra" too similarly ensures that a man

duly carries out his various duties as a "gruhasthA"

--faithfully and responsibly. The marital vows he

takes as part of the "samskAra" include the

"saptapadhi" -- the solemn circumambulation of the

ritual fire 7 times -- and it is meant to help him

remain ever aware, at a deeply spiritual level, of the

many important tasks and duties that he, as even a

simple householder, owes to society.

 

***************

 

A Vedic "samskAra" is thus no mere "rite of passage".

It has much, much more profound significance. It is an

affirmation of a certain way of life, symbolizing as

it does, a commitment to a certain lofty Vedic ethos

and outlook on life and the world itself.

 

A "samskAra" can perhaps be defined, if definition is

possible at all, as a spiritual process of refinement

in life, a "kArmic" process meant to leave its

felicitous imprint upon the human soul as it

progresses through its long and eventful journey on

earth -- from its beginnings as an amorphous foetus in

the maternal womb, through the four great "ashrama-s"

of "brahmacharya", "gruhasthA", "vAnaprastha" and

"sannyAsa", and finally to its ultimate destination in

the lap of God...

 

**************

 

And now for a final word of solace to Sri Rajalingam.

 

Sir, just because your "upanayana samskAra" was

inordinately delayed in life it does not mean you have

no hope. It does not mean you have missed the bus. It

is actually a God-sent opportunity for you to

re-double your spiritual efforts and reap greater

rewards of the spirit eventually.

 

Instead of doing "gAyatri japa" 10 or 28 times daily,

perhaps you should make an extra effort, on as many

occasions as possible, to perform "japa" 108 or 1008

times. The more often you do this, I would reckon, the

more easily you will overcome any handicap you might

have suffered as a result of undergoing the "upanayana

samskAra" so late in life, at age 39!

 

God be with you, Sir, have no doubt about it!

 

Thanks and regards,

 

respectfully,

dAsan,

 

Sudarshan

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Excellent elucidation by sudarshan swamin. For those

of us who couldn't go through the upanayana samkAra at

the right age for some reason or the other, it is

indeed comforting to know that all is not lost if only

the thrikala sandhyavandanm is done with redoubled

vigour and reinforced conviction as enjoined upon us

by sashtras.

 

The point however to be noted is that there shall be

no conscious violation of dharmic rules and it very

much applies to the rules of observance of UpanaYana

samsKara too.

 

 

Dasan

Dorairajan R(anganathan)

 

--- sudarshan madabushi <mksudarshan2002

wrote:

 

>

> --- wrote:

> > Message: 3

> > Sat, 5 Feb 2005 04:06:04 +0800

> > "S Rajalingam" <s.rajalingam

> > Upanayam

> > > Dear Vaishnavas

> > > I agree with all the input but what is the case

> on

> > Devotee like myself who> only got Upanayam at the

> age of 39.> I would very much appreciate if the

> bhagavathas on this list can throw some light.

> Thank You

> **************

>

> Dear Sri S Rajalingam,

> That's a really good question! Besides the obvious

> humour laced in it, it is thought-provoking! I

> commend

> your candidness in raising it openly.

>

> Many members have given their inputs on the subject.

> They are quite right in pointing out age-old

> 'sAstra',

> the traditional convention we all abide by, sets the

> age for 'upanayanam' very early in life. But Sri

> Anbil

> svAmi is right in asking for the actual 'pramANam'

> to

> support members' view that says the ceremony must be

> performed at ages 7, 9, 11, 13 or 15 and that

> thereafter performance of 'upanayanam' is actually a

> "waste of time and money".

>

> We also need to know the actual "pramANam" for the

> other view which holds after a boy turns 16 without

> undergoing 'upanayanam', it is just as well he goes

> all his life without the sacred thread.

>

> (Perfunctorily, of course, later in life, in order

> to

> duly solemnize such a boy's wedding, say at age 25

> or

> 30, just before the main wedding-rites, a separate

> and

> hurriedly arranged ritual is usually performed for

> the

> purpose of investiture of "yagnyOpavItam" (sacred

> thread) on the poor young groom. The purpose of this

> rite is really to ensure the officiating priest is

> not

> inconvenienced, that he is not incapacitated from

> performing due processes of Vedic wedding-ritual. It

> is to enable the priest to go ahead, without let,

> hindrance or embarrassment, and ceremoniously

> proclaim

> the blessed couple as Man and Wife).

>

> Be that all as it may, the question of Sri

> Rajalingam

> is pertinent enough to warrant scrutiny and a

> serious

> response. My views given below are NOT to be taken

> as

> authoritative. It comes with the caveat to members

> they are entering uncharted waters.

>

> The "sAstrA" is unambiguous a boy's "upanayanam"

> must

> be performed ASAP in life. Very little room is

> provided in the "sAstra" by way of concessions

> extended to the timing or performance of this

> important Vedic rite. There are few circumstances in

> life under which lapses relating to performance of

> "upanayana" may be condoned or extenuated. But that

> does not mean persons like Sri Rajalingam have no

> hope. On one hand, our Vedic "sAstrAs" are, no

> doubt,

> strictly inviolable, but then, on the other hand,

> the

> 'sAstra' also does not totally abandon or damn

> trangressors. It shows them a way out too to somehow

> redeem themselves. The Vedic faith is a

> compassionate

> one. It always seeks to hold everyone in its

> embrace.

>

> ******************

>

> "Upanayana" is a Vedic "samskAra". If we understood

> what "samskAra" truly means in the Vedic faith, we

> will not fail to understand why "upanayana" must be

> performed at the appropriate time pre-ordained by

> 'sAstra'. Equally, we will also not fail to

> appreciate

> why even those who, unfortunately, have transgressed

> the "sAstra" in this regard, cannot be held wholly

> irredeemable.

>

> The Sanskrit word "samskAra" is extremely difficult

> to

> translate into any other language. Usually,

> "samskAra"

> is translated by English-speaking persons as "rite

> of

> passage", implying threby that the "upanayana

> samskAra" is something akin to the "baptism" of the

> Christians, the "bar mitzvah" of the Jews or the

> "sunnat" (circumcision ceremony) of the Muslims. The

> latter are all indeed "rites of passage" marking as

> they do solemn initiation into adulthood. When a

> Christian, Jew or Muslim boy "comes of age", he is

> said to be ready to cross a major calendar-milestone

> in the voyage of life.

>

> A Vedic "samskAra" is far, far more than mere rite

> of

> passage. For a Vedic adherent, the whole course of

> human life is like a flowing river of "samskArAs".

> There are something like 40 different Vedic

> "samskArAs" beginning with the "seemantham"

> performed

> for the human foetus beginning its great journey of

> life within a mother's womb. On the 10th day after

> birth, there is the "samskAra" of "nAma-karana" or

> "punyAvachanam" for the infant. Thereafter, there is

> the "chaula samskAra", the first tonsuring for the

> toddler. Childhood is also marked by other

> "samskArA-s" like "anna-prasnam", "aksharAbhyAsam"

> etc. When the child reaches the age of 7 or 8, there

> is the "upanayana samskAra" about which we are all

> now

> discussing. The boy who has undergone "upanayana

> samskAra", when he matures into a young man, becomes

> ready for the "vivAha samskAra", the wedding-rite

> which ushers him into the "gruhastAshrama"

> (householder) phase in life. Then there are other

> various "samskArA-s" a full-grown man undergoes in

> the

> onward voyage of life. There are the SriVaishnava

> "samskArA-s" collectively called "pancha-samskArA".

> In

> ripe old age, there is also the "samskArA" of

> "shashtiabdapoorthi" (60th birthday) which a

> "gruhastA" undergoes...

>

> At the end of life too, when a man sheds his mortal

> coils, there is a "samskAra" to which he is finally

> subjected. It is called "antima samskAra",

> "prEta-samskAra" etc. -- the last Vedic rites by

> which

> a human soul departs into the beyond...

>

> If it is not really a rite of passage, we may now

> ask,

> what then is Vedic "samskAra"?

>

> In his book of discourses, "deivattin kural" ("The

> Hindu Dharma"), the Sage of Kanchi, PujyaSri

> Chandrasekharendra Saraswati has explained it all

> very

> beautifully.

>

> When we sit down to eat a typical south Indian meal,

> we should, for once, take a moment to ponder over

> the

> plentiful rice served. Before we tuck into the meal

> with gusto, we should ask ourselves, "From where

> does

> this wonderful "annam" come? And where does it go?".

>

>

> No one needs enlighten us where the rice goes. It

> goes

> right down our throat into the belly, of course. But

> if we reflect a little more deeply upon the fact, we

> realize that the "annam" ultimately transforms

> itself

> into vital "prANa" or Energy. And it is mysterious,

> ethereal, vital Prana that sustains the life-force

> within us. In a metaphysical way of speaking, (as

> indeed the Taittiriya Upanishad does in a very

> famous

> passage), we are ourselves, body, mind and soul,

> comprised of nothing but the essence of "annam".

>

> What then, we should hence ask, is this "annam" made

> of? How did it get to become the vital source of

> life

> and the hi-octane energy that it verily is?

>

> If we ponder upon that question, we will be led into

> a

> grave contemplation of the various processes (or

> "samskArAs") through which the grain that we are

> about

> to eat had to serially undergo before arriving as

> steamingly wholesome "annam" upon on our meal-plate.

>

>

> First, there was the process of "seeding" which the

>

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