The dynamics of Blame

[Guest guest]

Just an observation--<br>People are bound to make

mistakes, it is human nature. If my response to those

mistakes is muttering (you ass####!)it affects my own

consciousness. When i get the opportunity to confront these

offenders, i am sure to give them a good look in the face to

let them see how i feel. Sure enough, ass**** is

painted all over them plain as day. But in reality, they

are just another flawed devine human like me but

through blame my own vision is clouded too thickly for me

to see much of that.<br><br>The zen teachers point

out that everything is as it should be and that there

is nothing to forgive; whatever befalls me is

precisely the pointing out of Reality that i require.

Everything is our own doing and our own unfolding, the

educational ripening of karma planted in the distant

past.<br><br>Meditating and waiting for our attitude to be charitable is

not enough. It works in principle but tensions from

blame and resentment keep us from fully realizing.

<br><br>i can carry these feelings of betrayal,

abandonment, or resentment around with me forever if i choose

but they become a blockage. Spiritual constipation if

you will. The only way i can melt that blockage is to

forgive. But there is more. After the whole world appears

before me i must also forgive myself; my moral failings,

personality flaws, my insidious bi-polar quirks, and my

quitting when the going gets tough. When this is all done,

you still have a ways to go before realization but

now you are not so toxic as before.<br><br>This is

not to say forgive and forget - it does not require

us to be stupid. We should not repeat the cycle of

abuse and forgiveness. That is a classic borderline

personality disorder problem that must be addressed with

professional care. No, it is sensible to avoid the block where

we've been hurt. Nevertheless, forgiveness is a gift we

give ourselves. It is also an ongoing process. A true

blanket of forgiveness is a blanket absolution of

everyone for all possible errors, past, present, or future

- a clean slate in each new moment. It would be

nice.<br><br>what do you think?<br><br>om tat sat<br><br>>:*)

[Guest guest]

It is difficult to practice -- but, deep inside I

fully endorse the view that to be able to lead a life

of harmony and peace to oneself(not necessarily with

the world),if we can hold in our palm each moment

with a clean slate, forgiving and forgetting the past,

present and future, we will find the oppertunities of

this wonderful life spreading its wings to far and

near-----a very good message from Tat Wam Asi----congrats.