Guest guest Posted June 24, 2001 Report Share Posted June 24, 2001 you got to find your mothers love in your heart...<br>people divorce and there is nothing you can do abaut it...they used to love each other...and you are seed of that love...remember that and forgive them...hindu is a great religion...you like tehno- DJ CHEB&SABBAH-great hindu tehno music-SHRI DURGA is the name of cd- listen to that it might be helpfull to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2001 Report Share Posted June 25, 2001 Dear Kalpana,<br>A divorce in a marriage happens when either one or both people do not see eye to eye on issues which they hold dear to heart. A divorce has nothing to do with religious beliefs, it was so a Hindu would not go for one; a Hindu is supposed to be married for seven lives!<br>Religion according to the Webster's dictionary is "a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith". There is nothing to hate about religion. Religion teaches Love. All religions do that in their own different ways. Religion is a set of beliefs. <br>When two different families even in the same culture meet and marry, they fight; so I am not surprised that here were two people from different cultural backgrounds fighting.<br>Think deep. What do you really think was the cause of teh breakup? Look within your self. In a marrige where there is no love, tiny things get magnified out of proportions. <br>I am sure your mother loves you and I am also sure your father loves you too. Just because you stay apart from your father or mother does not mean that they love you any less or that you should love them any less. They did what they thought best. <br>Try looking from your mother's point of view. Maybe she had too much of a culture/religious shock. Maybe your father had one too. Well, you have the best of both worlds. Try to make the best of it. Love your parents, love yourself and love religion. <br>Hinduism is more of a philosopy than a religion. Try to go deep into it. You will find a lot of peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2001 Report Share Posted June 25, 2001 The breaking of a marriage is allways a very painfull experience for everybody involved : both parents, children, grandparents ... and it never happens on differences of religion alone. Divorce is a complex matter. Children suffer a lot, because they don't understand what happens. They think parents stay together forever.<br>You are 18 and a young adult. Maybe, once you get over your grief, you can find your own way to both your parents hearts. Their divorce is their business. And you can start exploring your own path in life. Socially, religiously, emotionally ... Isn't that a great adventure ?<br>We write our own book of life. Start writing yours. I wish you good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2001 Report Share Posted June 25, 2001 Dear Kalpana<br><br>You are obviously hurting very much and feel like the world, as you have known, is crumbling aroudn you. A loss like this often sends into a grieving process, which includes anger, betrayal and finally letting go, to be able to move on.<br><br>While divorce is tough on those going through it, it is tougher on children who have to face the consequences of it. Unfortunately it is becoming more common all over the world and is taking its toll on the children, no matter what the age is. It is a stark fact of life.<br><br>I'm not sure what you mean by the issues/values you speak of in "my parents fought a lot over many things mostly religion and cultural issues". Marriages always require a adjustment of ideas and in a cross-cultural marriage it is likely to be even more so. However as one of our sadhaks said .. your parents loved each other when they married and you are a loved child of that union. They both love you, and you must hold on to that love.<br><br>As Morgitta has pointed out, since you are older you have an opportunity to redefine your values and issues and make choices of your own. But first you will have to forgive the imperfections of those around you, knowing that people can only do the best they know how to do. The hurt will always be there, the understanding however will help you move past it and, as Morgitta said, help you "write your own book" . <br><br>Do continue talking to us .. we love you here. Continue asking questions, sharing and allow yourself to listen without shutting doors. Most importantly love yourself, remember you are a precious creation/child of "GOD". <br><br>May you be enveloped in the effulgent light of "GOD", guiding and carrying you in your time of special need. <br><br>Love <br><br>UMA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2001 Report Share Posted June 26, 2001 Hello kalpana.......well my friend first let me tell you I am not a hindu, or do I follow any relgion.....You must follow your heart, what do your think of the hindu way, do you feel love there???......I think going inside and finding the love for your self is your first step.....<br><br>I am sending you the loving light of the rose quartz and it is on the wind...namaste jeffery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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