Guest guest Posted February 13, 2002 Report Share Posted February 13, 2002 Blessed members,<br><br>I have posed this question before but got few answers, so I pose it again with the hopes that I can learn and understand. I am very new and learning all the time. Please pardon me if I sound, in any way, ignorant or disrespectful. This is not my intent.<br><br>I have come to notice that, in general, the Hindus I have met are passive people. I am sure this stems from honoring the concept of ahisma (non-violence). Perhaps it is also cultural. I am wondering if someone can explain to me the benefits of being passive. <br><br>True, we do not want to harm others. We want to love others and see God everywhere, in everything. But the cruel fact is that others do not want to love us all of the time; there are people out there that want to hurt us in one way or another. When we lay down and allow them to hurt us, are we really helping anyone? We certainly aren't helping ourselves, and we are not helping those that are hurting us. <br><br>It would be silly for us to leave our front door unlocked at night with a sign attached saying, "Robbers, please come in and take what you like!" We would not consider leaving our most precious jewelry out in the middle of the street. Why, then, do we leave the door to our own well-being wide open for people to come in and do as they will? <br><br>People have told me that all is God's will. I can understand this concept, but does God really want us to be so passive? God resides in each and every one of us, so how can we not honor that? Is it okay to allow others to abuse the God in us, with the thought that we can not dishonor the God in them?<br><br>It's true that we can not worry about others, and we must worry about ourselves and our own development. However, I feel that if we allow others to think we are weak in our values or beliefs, then we only do ourselves a disservice. When people see complacency, they see weakness, and when they see weakness, they see the opportunity to overtake. If we stand up for ourselves in a calm, rational, polite, respectful way, are we doing ourselves any sort of disservice? What are the negative implications there? People will pick, pick, pick, if they think their actions are in any way fruitful. When we show them respectfully that no, they are getting nowhere with us, they back down and go look for their next "victim".<br><br>Furthermore, who is teaching whom? If I show someone that it is not okay to take advantage of my gentle nature, will they be less likely to try to hurt someone else? <br><br>Please help me to understand this concept as it has been troubling me for some time now. I would like to find the balance here.<br><br>With love,<br>Erica Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2002 Report Share Posted February 13, 2002 Dear Erica,<br><br>I think in Advaita the thought/idea/concept/teaching/whatever is that God is the Do-ER or everything. Amma Anasuya Devi said similarly, if I am reading Her teachings correctly (or her words translated accurately)--but I think this is something at a very high level of awareness. And I do think/suspect there are many layers of awareness/truth...and we are not all at the same exact level or ability/comprehension or whatever. Now I know my Christian friends would say that God gives us free will, and many people do feel this, but I think Advaita would say that even the thought to do something a certain way..well that thought was put into our head by the "Do-Er". One time I had a conversation with a friend of mine and I remember her saying that she felt like we were just like puppets. <br><br>I suppose one could go nuts trying to figure this one out, and the only thing I've been able to come up with about all this is that there are many layers of truth; perhaps the same is so in interpreting/understanding so much of this which we call life.<br><br>Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2002 Report Share Posted February 13, 2002 Thank you Erica for defending the basic principles of the clubs. Now I for one do not think Hindus are passive. They can be very aggressive especially in the defense of their beliefs. We have to defend ourselves and we have to aggressively defend the principles we believe in. If we do not have that conviction and passion how can we expect others to have it?<br><br>God does not expect us to be passive. When you are faced with evil you should destroy the evil. But the messages of wakeinbliss cannot be classified as evil. I have had similar discussions with some of my friends who are not Hindus. After a lot of heated discussions we all agree to disagree. Since we are friends we do not have such discussions again.<br><br>Wakeinbliss must really believe in his point of view. If we agree with him we would even call it the courage of conviction. Otherwise he would not have come and posted all these messages when he knows that everyone will come down like a ton of bricks on him. I saw the web site he was referring to. Basically they believe that the American or Western way of life is threatened by the introduction of many practices and beliefs from Hinduism/Buddhism. I can understand that as many of us Indians also feel that our way of life is threatened by American/Western practices. Some of the Indians go to the extent of even saying that Christianity is western and alien to Indian culture. What our people and wakeinbliss seems to forget is that Christianity is also an eastern religion. Lord Jesus was a Jew of Middle Eastern origin as were all his disciples. Right now there is a hue and cry in India about Valentine's Day and how it is against Indian culture. I understand the motivations or reasons of both these groups. I have tried to change the view of my Indian friends with little success.<br><br>Coming to the question of defending ourselves do you feel threatened by his messages? <br>I personally do not feel so. You have done well to state your beliefs and what the club stands for. But I do not think you can change his belief. On the other hand he feels threatened. He thinks he is fighting against Evil. He believes he is a crusader.<br><br>I have fought message battles in other clubs about schools of thought in Hinduism. But I have learnt that you cannot change the conviction of anyone through these messages. You state your point of view and rest. The founders of the club could have removed him and banned him. But again does it serve any purpose?<br><br>You should be gentle. But you should not allow others to take advantage of you or hurt you. You have to defend yourself and your convictions/beliefs. The term "Saatvic" does not mean cowardice. The Buddhist Monks were the ones who were masters of Kung Fu and Karate. But you should not be very sensitive to these verbal barrages. You have to not only close your doors but also double lock them and turn on the burglar alarm to ensure that burglars do not steal your valuable possessions. Similarly double lock your mind to prevent bad thoughts and also turn your internal alarm on to warn you about the bad thoughts.<br><br><br><br>Jai MAA KAALI !!!<br><br>Sankar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2002 Report Share Posted February 13, 2002 Sankar,<br><br>Thank you so much for posting your views. Actually, I agree with you 100% in the things you have said. I am strong in my conviction, and honor those that are strong in their own beliefs. No matter to me if theirs agrees with mine. I have always said that it is better to believe in something rather than nothing. Every path is valid in my eyes (as long as we don't hurt others).<br><br>Maybe it is because I am an "outsider" to the Hindu culture that I do not see others saying much aloud. It seems to me that people are generally quiet, and don't say much. Maybe it is me? Maybe people don't discuss these issues with me because I am "a Westerner"? Please help me to understand. <br><br>I did not mean to imply that Hindus are weak in their conviction; no. I have learnt quite the opposite! The Hindus I know are some of the most loving and compassionate folks I've met. Please understand that I am speaking only from love, and from a yearning to understand. Someone give me a culture lesson! <br><br>With love,<br>Erica Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2002 Report Share Posted February 13, 2002 Hmm. Amazing how the universe works sometimes. Just as I left our club here, I stumbled upon this news article:<br><br><a href=http://story.news./news?tmpl=story&cid=516&u=/ap/20020213/ap_on_re\ _as/india_valentine_s_day_8 target=new>http://story.news./news?tmpl=story&cid=516&u=/ap/20020213/ap\ _on_re_as/i ndia_valentine_s_day_8</a><br><br>Right way, wrong way, no matter who we're talking about!<br><br>Erica Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2002 Report Share Posted February 14, 2002 I absolutely here agree with u. It does also become our duty to mankind, to give a clear,yet well composed message to mankind that .......life is not to be abusive.<br>Neither to give it, NOR to accept it. <br> <br>This should be done in quiet yet firm methods, and shud also be elaborated on making a clear, rational, yet composed topic out of this.<br> Only when such a topic is elaborated on, it leaves mankind with food for the thinking. <br><br>It is the awakening of such thinking,that becomes help to us ourselves, as well as help to mankind, which is a primarily duty of each and everyone.<br> <br>Also we shud not only be dealing with only the problems of our own. The fact stays that we shud also be addressing situations of INJUSTICE.<br><br>With love and regards, <br>Nisha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2002 Report Share Posted February 14, 2002 Well said Sankar! Certainly couldn't have said it better. <br><br>A couple of additional thoughts. <br><br>What is important is to remember the motivation behind what we say. If the purpose of expressing ourselves is to try and convince someone, it begins to involve expectations, and depending on the response of the others, the potential of annoyance or anger etc is ressurected. <br><br>If however one can keep the purpose as simple sharing of knowledge, expertise, information insights and experience, allowing people to receive what they will, directly or indirectly, expectations, fulfilled or unfulfilled, don't cloud such interactions. This kind of expression of ideas is especially useful in a forum like ours. <br><br>There is also a difference between aggressiveness and assertiveness. I think sometimes that is not understood. <br><br>What do you all think?<br><br>_/\_ Tat twam asi<br><br>Uma Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2002 Report Share Posted February 16, 2002 The messages from the club make me think and also do some soul searching. Thank you Erica, Tatwamasi and all. Erica! You should not feel that people do not discuss these issues with you because you are a westerner. Rarely do people discuss religion or spirituality. These are considered subjects, which are delicate. I remember being told not to discuss religion and politics in parties.<br><br> I have been able to express my views freely only because of the great medium of the Internet and clubs. <br><br>But people with similar interests do discuss their common interests. I can only quote from my ownexperience. When we have international banking seminars we all feel at home wherever you are from because we are all bankers All the news letters I get about web development and computers are from U.S.A. But we all do the same work and share the common concern. A hard disk crash or problem of shutdown in Windows 98 is the same for everyone whether you are in U.S.A or in Timbuktu. In the same way all spiritual seekers have a common interest and common problems. There is no Westerner or Indian in that.<br><br>All spiritual seekers have many questions. Even if you have a Guru you may not be able to get answers to all the questions. Fortunately many Acharyas have written books where you may be able to find answers.<br><br><br>To find answers to many of your questions I would suggest the following books.<br><br>1.Towards Goal Supreme (Paramartha Prasanga)- Swami Vajrananda - Advaita Ashrama- An excellent book which is based on questions raised by seekers. This is a small book, which I would suggest you buy immediately<br><br>To quote Christopher Isherwood in his forward to the book<br><br>"Religious sentiment is seldom, if ever, aroused by intellectual argument alone, nearly always by example and some kind of personal contact. True spirituality is very infectious. A teacher's own life and faith speak much more loudly than his words. And that is why I recommend the "Paramartha Prasanga "<br><br>2. Sadhana - Swami Sivananda- An exhaustive book on different kinds of Sadhana.<br><br>3. Adventures in Spiritual life - Swami Yatiswarananda - Sri Ramakrishna math<br><br>and of course <br><br>The Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna - where you get all answers whatever may be your marga and also full of stories.<br><br>I am sure many of our members who are advanced Sadhakas will suggest books by Great Acharyas which can help guide a seeker.<br><br>By the way talking about books you should read the novel Magnificent Obsession by Lloyd C. Douglas. This is the book, which lifted up the spirit of the American people after the stock market crash of 1930s. You will find copies of the book on the net, as it is a collector's item.<br><br>I remember once when I was trekking in the Himalayas I took shelter in a small cave from the rain. There I was, in a place all alone far from anywhere with the evening setting in and a long trek ahead of me. But I looked at the mountains and felt so great that I cannot describe it. So calm, peaceful etc. fantastic experience. The spiritual Adventure is like that. <br><br>You have a doubt. Listen to Jim Reeves<br><br>Take my hand , precious Lord <br><br>or read the poem<br><br>Lead kindly light, amidst the encircling gloom,<br>Lead thou me on - Paul Newman<br><br>Take refuge in God. he will show you the way.<br><br>Sankar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2002 Report Share Posted February 17, 2002 Thank you very much Sankar for your recent posts. I have been learning a lot from them. I will definitely add your book suggestions to my (ever-growing and quite extensive) reading list.<br><br>I heartily agree with you when you say, "A hard disk crash or problem of shutdown in Windows 98 is the same for everyone whether you are in U.S.A or in Timbuktu." Unfortunately, others do not always see things this way. In a way, it is natural for humans to distinguish between us and others that are not like us. We are not comfortable with that which we do not understand. It is much easier for people to stereotype me as an American rather than as a true seeker. (Media makes this much easier, but that's another topic all together!) I am glad to see that it is not just me then. Even in my culture, few people discuss religion/spirituality. However, I figured that (since we are here in a spiritual club) we would be a bit more open amongst our like-minded friends here. I agree we discuss a delicate subject here; I believe if we sometimes venture into the conventionally uncomfortable it can only make us stronger. (I guess I have experienced this first hand.) I also believe if we can express our views intelligently, it forces us to evaluate where we are and truely understand ourselves and where we are headed.<br><br>To quote one of my favorite folk artists, Ani DiFranco, "Ya hit what ya head for; ya get what you ask."<br><br>I'm trying to aim towards Divinity. <br><br>With love and respect,<br>Erica Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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