Healing the Un-healable Part II

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Healing the Un-healable Part II

This second story is again about unreasonable success to recovering from

a life-threatening illness. This story came to me from Nancy, currently

in the Advanced 90-Day Dream TeamT program, written and experienced by a

friend of hers.

 

A Body Filled With Love

(By Lee Paton)

Several years ago in Seattle, Washington, there lived a 52-year-old

Tibetan refugee. "Tenzin," as I will call him, was diagnosed with one of

the more curable forms of lymphoma.

He was admitted to the hospital and received his first dose of

chemotherapy. But during the treatment, this usually gentle man became

extremely angry and upset. He pulled the IV out of his arm and refused

to cooperate. He shouted at the nurses and became argumentative with

everyone who came near him.

The doctors and nurses were baffled. Then Tenzin's wife spoke to

the hospital staff. She told them Tenzin had been held as a political

prisoner by the Chinese for 17 years. They killed his first wife and

repeatedly tortured and brutalized him throughout his imprisonment.

She told them that the hospital rules and regulations, coupled

with the chemotherapy treatments, gave Tenzin horrible flashbacks of

what he had suffered at the hands of the Chinese.

"I know you mean to help him," she said, "but he feels tortured

by your treatments. They are causing him to feel hatred inside - just

like he felt toward the Chinese. He would rather die than have to live

with the hatred he is now feeling. And, according to our belief, it is

very bad to have hatred in your heart at the time of death. He needs to

be able to pray and cleanse his heart."

So the doctors discharged Tenzin and asked the hospice team to

visit him in his home. I was the hospice nurse assigned to his care. I

called a local representative from Amnesty International for advice. He

told me that the only way to heal the damage from torture is to "talk it

through.This person has lost his trust in humanity and feels hope is

impossible," the man said. "If you are to help him, you must find a way

to give him hope." But when I encouraged Tenzin to talk about his

experiences, he held up his hand and stopped me.

He said, "I must learn to love again if I am to heal my soul.

Your job is not to ask me questions. Your job is to teach me to love

again."

I took a deep breath. I asked him, "So, how can I help you love

again?"

Tenzin immediately replied, "Sit down, drink my tea and eat my

cookies." Tibetan tea is strong black tea laced with yak butter and

salt. It isn't easy to drink! But that is what I did. For several weeks,

Tenzin, his wife, and I sat together, drinking tea. We also worked with

his doctors to find ways to treat his physical pain. But it was his

spiritual pain that seemed to be lessening.

Each time I arrived, Tenzin was sitting cross-legged on his bed,

reciting prayers from his books. As time went on, he and his wife hung

more and more colorful "thankas," Tibetan Buddhist banners, on the

walls. The room was fast becoming a beautiful, religious shrine.

When the spring came, I asked Tenzin what Tibetans do when they

are ill in the spring. He smiled brightly and said, "We sit downwind

from flowers."

I thought he must be speaking poetically. But Tenzin's words

were quite literal. He told me Tibetans sit downwind so they can be

dusted with the new blossoms' pollen that floats on the spring breeze.

They feel this new pollen is strong medicine.

At first, finding enough blossoms seemed a bit daunting. Then,

one of my friends suggested that Tenzin visit some of the local flower

nurseries. I called the manager of one of the nurseries and explained

the situation.

The manager's initial response was: "You want to do what?" But

when I explained the request, the manager agreed.

So, the next weekend, I picked up Tenzin and his wife with their

provisions for the afternoon: black tea, butter, salt, cups, cookies,

prayer beads and prayer books. I dropped them off at the nursery and

assured them I would return at 5:00. The following weekend, Tenzin and

his wife visited another nursery. The third weekend, they went to yet

another nursery. The fourth week, I began to get calls from the

nurseries inviting Tenzin and his wife to come again.

One of the managers said, "We've got a new shipment of nicotiana

coming in and some wonderful fuchsias and oh, yes! Some great daphne. I

know they would love the scent of that daphne! And I almost forgot! We

have some new lawn furniture that Tenzin and his wife might enjoy."

Later that day, I got a call from the second nursery saying that

they had colorful wind socks that would help Tenzin predict where the

wind was blowing.

Pretty soon, the nurseries were competing for Tenzin's visits.

People began to know and care about the Tibetan couple. The nursery

employees started setting out the lawn furniture in the direction of the

wind. Others would bring out fresh hot water for their tea. Some of the

regular customers would leave their wagons of flowers near the two of

them. It seemed that a community was growing around Tenzin and his wife.

At the end of the summer, Tenzin returned to his doctor for

another CT scan to determine the extent of the spread of the cancer. But

the doctor could find no evidence of cancer at all. He was dumbfounded.

He told Tenzin that he just couldn't explain it.

Tenzin lifted his finger and said, "I know why the cancer has

gone away. It could no longer live in a body that is filled with love.

When I began to feel all the compassion from the hospice people, from

the nursery employees, and all those people who wanted to know about me,

I started to change inside. Now, I feel fortunate to have had the

opportunity to heal in this way. Doctor, please don't think that your

medicine is the only cure. Sometimes compassion can cure cancer, as

well."

Namaste, (Hindi for, "I honor you")

Stefan Doering

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