treatment to woman

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Respected Sri Vaishnava scholors,

Asmad Gurubhyo Namaha:

Sreemathe Narayanaya Namaha:

 

I humbly disclose the questions which are there in my mind

>From a few years without any answer. I humbly seek your

Guidance and appropriate replies according to our sastras.

 

As per Bhagavadgita all living beings are Athmaswaroopams

irrespective of male or female or animals etc. In such case

all have equal right to participate in worships, religious

functions and take prasadam and Sree pada kumkum and haldi.

Right?

 

If unfortunately husband expires his wife is being stamped

as WIDOW and thus prohibited to come forward to attend

Auspicious functions, take kumkum,haldi etc. On tenth day

after her husband passing away she will be forcibly made

to remove all sowbhagya chihnams like bangles, Kumkum,

haldi ,flowers etc which she has been wearing right from her

birth, and not after marriage.

 

First of all the sudden demise of her husband would have

been a big blow to her, added to this, this type of torture

or ill-treatment will make her think that she is an

un-auspicious causing her to more agony and sorrow. Further

she will not be allowed to attend functions as VARALAKSHMI

VRATHAM AND SUCH POOJAS and even if she is invited she will

not be offered kumkum and haldi along with sumangalis.

 

Is this indifferent treatment is correct and supported by our

sastras?

 

Wonder is that in case of divorcee woman and a widow

re-marriage, she is acquiring all lost facilities such as

being offered kumkum and flowers at religious functions

such things. How & why are they lost with the demise of her

husband who played a temporary role in her life , and how

they are re-acquired with marrying another person . If a

thing is lost due to departure of a person how can it be

acquired by the entry of another person, and for a divorcee

if her ex-husband dies after taking divorce it is not

affecting her in the involvement of any poojas and taking

the Nirmalyam of god ??

 

But for the widows who don’t remarry and are loyal to

One husband, the illtreatment of depriving her of all

Auspicious things is in practice. Is it correct and

Supported by our sastras?

 

I came to know from Sri Jeeyar Swamiji’s Preachings about

the meaning of Pranavam is that all are Athmaswaroopams and

all belong to only Lord Sriman Narayana and Not anybody else.

Then how the temporary existence of a person make his wife a

sumangali when athma is always Permanent.

 

In case of a widower after his wife’s death he is being treated

as equal among his fellow men unlike a widow Woman. Is is it

a curse only to woman?

 

If so kindly Let me the reasons.

I thing I have made my mail lengthy kindly excuse me

 

I reemain seeking refuge at the lotus feet of asmad-guru

Sri Tridandi Chinna Jeeyar Swamiji.

 

JAI SRIMAN NARAYANA.

Sudha Madhuri Ramanuja Dasi.