Taddinam's

[Guest guest]

Srimathe Ramanujaya Namaha

 

Dear Bhagavatas,

 

I have a question about attending Taddinam / Masikam's. A good

friend of mine lost his beloved mother sometime ago and I have been

invited for her Masikam's which I accepted it as a honor and served

with all my respects twice in the past 3 months for her and enjoyed a

great preeti Bhoj. But my family back in India advised me not to do

so since attending such ceremonies in the past by my father, grand

father and so on...have not been good to us and my father (Expired)

usually didn't attended such ceremonies and when he did he never ate

at the family's house who lost their loved one's. I was not aware of

this and I don't know what I can do now to purify myself for an act I

committed unknowingly but did so sincerely with my heart and soul

into it.

 

I am a Bramhachari, never married.

 

Can someone be kind and courteous to help me out and give me some

advice for which I shall be very very grateful.

 

-- Why some people can attend and others cannot.

 

-- Why attending such ceremonies are harmless to some and harmful

to others.

 

-- I was invited in the past to attend 12th day or one year

anniversary or in between for monthly Masikam's but I always

excused myself with an apology but later regretted sadly to my

decision.

 

With Respects,

 

Ramanujadasa Chary