emotional upset + TIP

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Dear Ingrid,

 

AMEN, SISTER!!! YOU ARE ON THE WAY TO ENLIGHTENMENT.

 

What you have accomplished is one of the most difficult lessons there is--to

be present to, acknowledge and contain one's own emotional energy. Someone

and probably many people will be right in our face until we learn to do

this. It is a long process, but you have outlined well the steps. I am

printing out your letter and with your permission will use it to help others

and myself!!

 

TIP OF THE DAY

The emotions are the energy of the soul. As we learn to contain our

emotions, we begin to embody our soul.

 

Sat Nam many times,

 

Rattana

 

I am leaving the whole letter intact.

 

> I followed the thread concerning Devta`s emotional upset with particular

> interest, as I could personally feel with her as I suffered a similar

> occurance with my sister in law. Because of particular beliefs I had

about

> family & family ties this became a real conflict within me as I was

"trying "

> to have a "sincere " relationship with a person whom I could feel no

warmth

> toward. I see now that the best I could have done & which I did do, was

give

> her the space and myself also that we can each be ourselves. We live in

the

> same house and it proved particularly difficult in the beginning to

distance

> myself from her verbal attacks which always left me in tears. & emotionaly

> distraught for days afterward. Me emotions ran away with me and I could

not

> concentrate on other aspects of my life as this always seemed to take up

most

> of my time. What I have done is been honest with myself as to the fact

that

> she rubbed me up the wrong way continually and I had to be the one to

change

> my feelings --- I did so and due to my a meditating and practicing peace

> within myself I have been able to discipline my feelings & emotions so

that I

> can think before I allow myself to feel.I have realsied also that I can

> contain those same feelings without them running off before I had time to

> contemplate my reactions. Sadly I came to realise that I was feeling "

bad"

> not being able to relate to her & she not to me but I have come to

respect

> her as a seperate pesrson with her own life to live and we must not a have

> sincere and close relationship simply because we are related family. Her

> reactions toward my wishes to be close was also the very first time in my

> life that I experienced such rejection and was confronted with a

completely

> new situation. I continually "tried " to make something out of our times

> together but this was wasted time as two people can only relate to each

other

> when both have this need. That is simply the way I saw this situation. I

have

> since forgiven her within myself for what I felt during that time and have

> since moved on in my life. After learning to keep my emotional body

within

> myself I found it easier and easier to handle my arousing emotions.I often

> wished that I could flee such situatuions but that would mean that every

time

> somebody said or did something which affected my emotions I would have to

> continually be on the move. So I decided this time to work with my

feelings

> and become more aware of the patterns that she was touching within me. I

have

> since let her go and be her own self and I appreciate the lesson that I

was

> taught by her behaviour toward me .That is the way I have chosen to see

the

> situation I was in. I am glad though that Devta had the courage to write

> about this as it has helped me understand my own self better Thanks .

>

> in peace

> ingrid

>