Digest Number 275

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Dear Byrd 182,

 

when I was your age and for a few years after, I went through a time of

disliking and separating from my parents. I often couldn't stand them!

I definitely wanted to be DIFFERENT from them! My tip for you (in the

beautiful tradition of Rattana's tips) is that you might want to keep

some connections open with them (unless they are emotionally or

physically abusive) because you may some day be able to learn a lot

about yourself from your relationship with them....and of course,

notice ways in which you aren't so different.

 

I was a very rebellious young woman. For me, running away from my

parents just led me into the hands of people more dangerous. Still...I

guess I had to do it. We all have to be where we are right now. As

Rattana said yesterday, it gives us something to do down here. My

understanding of God, (however we define or do not define her), is that

she sends us lessons....the lessons we need most. They may be

painful...we may not understand them for years and "running" from our

parents is surely a part of that plan also.

 

I am just deeply grateful that I managed to stay close enough to my

parents that I could "come back" when I was ready. And now I feel so

blessed to have the wonderful, accepting, supportive parents that I

have. I treasure each day that I have with them. The more I have

understood my own faults and humaness, the more I have accepted theirs

and allowed myself to love them unreservedly, and the grace that it

within me is magnified by my connection with them. But I could only

come to this place after going through the "fire" of noticing and

feeling everything that was "wrong" with them....so I don't mean that I

think you should stop doing that either!

 

It never ceases to amaze me how much we all change on our journeys

(especially when yoga and meditation are involved!)....I can't imagine

what's in store for me even in the next few years. You may never be

crazy about your parents - family relationships can often be very

painful, but have faith that you are doing the right thing by trying to

figure it all out, and that peace will come in time. And if we are all

one...that includes mom and dad! Your yoga and meditation will be

wonderful healers here.

 

 

Blessings and Sat Nam,

Siobhan

 

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> Message: 4

> Sat, 8 Jan 2000 23:16:50 EST

> BYRD182

> THANK U FOR UR HELP

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> THANKS EVERYONE FOR UR HELP ........IM JUST AT THAT AGE WHERE I DONT

> REALLY

> CARE BOUT MY PARENTS ....THANKS

>

> PEAcE & LoVe

> BYRD 182

 

 

 

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