Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 I am very sad to say that my Dad has passed away on June 14th after battling cancer for the past 3 years. He was only 58. I knew this day was coming and I have tried to prepare myself for it as well as I could but it still feels like a dream that I am going to wake up from one day. Everything feels surreal...strange.... like he is going to just walk in the room..or call.. or something.. When I found out, I was alone at home. I didn't know what to do. I felt like there was "something" I was "supposed" to be doing. I paced around for what seemed like hours. At one point I sat down on the floor and started chanting ong namo guru dev namo.... but then felt like there was something else I should do... but i didn't know what!? I still don't know what I should do but I just feel like I haven't really let go or something. I just can't say. I have never lost a parent before. Is there something I can do right now for releasing my sadness... I have cried my eyes out...even before he died, I cried like I have never cried before for what I knew was unavoidable. It just hurts. I feel really empty and useless. He was a wonderful human being and I will miss him very much..... Kelly _______________ Chat with friends online, try MSN Messenger: http://messenger.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Sat Nam Kelly, Some yoginins/yogis in KY chant Akal, it helps loved one pass to 'other side'. I believe Gururattan says to chant it 5 times. The way I learned and have done for some in my family: easy pose, close your eyes. place your right hand over your heart and visualize your loved one in your heart center. Take a deep breath and as you chant Aaaaaakkkkkaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllll, slowly sweep your arm up to the heavens, releasing them. See them surrounded by bright white light and angels, you are showing them the way. Then inhale bring your hand back to your heart and repeat. I have done it for 11 mins., this worked to help me too surprisingly. I guess you could do it for 3 mins. or 5 times like Gururattan says. Blessings Brad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Hello Kelly.. Yes there is something YOU can do, and that is to "BREATH", when we ache we have a tendency of taking shallow amounts of air, your system and organs NEED Oxygen, by taking small amounts of air, as I'm sure you doing at this very moment because of your pain, you may be creating many more future problems to your Biological system.. be concious of every breath you take for the next while and everything should be back the way it was when all was well..PLEASE BREATH DEEP AND LOOOOOONG.. Good Luck Dev Saroop Singh My Dad passed away... I am very sad to say that my Dad has passed away on June 14th after battling cancer for the past 3 years. He was only 58. Is there something I can do right now for releasing my sadness... I have cried my eyes out...even before he died, I cried like I have never cried before for what I knew was unavoidable. It just hurts. I feel really empty and useless. He was a wonderful human being and I will miss him very much..... Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2002 Report Share Posted June 28, 2002 Dear Kelly, I am very sad for you, as losing a parent is very painful. Follow the advice of the others , particularly about breathing, and be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to grieve. It's the most natural thing in the world and if you allow yourself to feel your grief you will be able to move through it. We'll all be here for you. Much love and blessings, Avtar ______________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2002 Report Share Posted June 29, 2002 Kelly, This is a very natural and normal response, our wonderful mind protects us by shutting down a bit, it's like shock -a protective response. Embrace your grief, it is a healing tool, it helps us survive, it makes us stronger and more compassionate. This is your body's way of taking you out of our chaotic society for a moment, in order to "honor your father's memory" and process your loss. blessing and healing prayers, On Friday, June 28, 2002, at 06:55 PM, Kelly ~~*~~ wrote: > I didn't know what to do. I felt > like there was "something" I was "supposed" to be doing. I paced > around for > what seemed like hours. -cris Cris Naugle SpiralXdesign, Inc http://www.spiralxdesign.com Walk in Beauty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2002 Report Share Posted July 1, 2002 Your message rings so true for me. My husband Ram Rattan who was on this message board, died on June 3 after three years of cancer, also at age 58. I had many of the same questions. Do chant Akal. I have been doing a meditation to bring myself to a neutral place. This has helped me to feel less longing. Give yoursself lots of time. I suggest calling Hospice services in your area. They will put you in touch with information about bereavement and possibly bereavement groups that meet in your area. Blessings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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