Guest guest Posted July 3, 2002 Report Share Posted July 3, 2002 I'm trying to figure out just exactly how one goes about loving themself. I hear all the time that you can't really be loved until you love yourself, even here on this forum. And Gururattan has told me personally, in response to a question about my wretched love life, that the issue is with me, really. Okay, I got that part! (Boy, Rattana really tells it like it is! I'll admit that I pushed what she had to say to the back of my mind, not wanting/ready to process it. But the point is it stayed there in the back of my mind, and I keep coming back to it, working on it bit by bit, and I've accepted what she said as truth now. That having been done, I'm ready to move onto the next phase.) ) But so now my question is... where to start? It's not as simple as just deciding one day that you're gonna love yourself. I mean, you can make the affirmations, but there's so much involved with low self- esteem, going back to childhood. I don't allow other people to treat me badly. (At least I do care for myself that much.) But I treat myself badly. I want this to stop. I want to love me. I want to be loved. Thanks for Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2002 Report Share Posted July 3, 2002 Sat Nam, > I'm trying to figure out just exactly how one goes about loving themself. > the back of my mind, and I keep coming back to it, working on it bit > by bit, and I've accepted what she said as truth now. I know it takes time. Bit by bit is the way to do it. That having been done, I'm ready to move onto the next phase.) ) Find some sensation in your body, and enjoy it. Keep enjoying something pleasurable that you feel in your body or mind or both. And don't let go of the connection between your attention and your body, feelings and sensations. Keep doing this everyday for 40 days. Increase the time that you give yourself attention. If you can get my book The Destiny of Women is the Destiny of the World, there are a lot of ideas in there. See www.yogatech.com. I will say more on this topic in my next KYtraining lesson. it is an on going discussion. Sat Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2002 Report Share Posted July 4, 2002 Sat Nam, Please tell us your name. You can also put your hands on your heart and hold your heart until you feel a warmth. Then love that feeling. Do this am and pm in bed. This is what I did to open my heart. Let us know your experiences. This exercise changed my life. Sat Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2002 Report Share Posted July 4, 2002 Sat Nam Gururattan, "You can also put your hands on your heart and hold your heart until you feel a warmth." --I just begin doing that one night to fall asleep and I noticed a warm tingling sensation all over. My hands go numb from no circulation, or I'd have been doing it every night. Oh well, 'no pain, no gain' :-) Thanks for the tip. Blessings Brad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2002 Report Share Posted July 4, 2002 Dear Brad, > "You can also put your hands on your heart and old your heart until you feel > a warmth." > --I just begin doing that one night to fall asleep and I noticed a warm tingling sensation all over. My hands go numb from no circulation, Put pillows or foleded towels under your arms to prop them up and keep the circulation going. Sat Nam, ururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2002 Report Share Posted July 4, 2002 Gururattan, do you mean putting hands over heart center, or directly over the heart? sukhmani kaur - Gururattan K.Khalsa Kundaliniyoga Thursday, July 04, 2002 4:37 PM Re: On loving yourself... Sat Nam, Please tell us your name. You can also put your hands on your heart and hold your heart until you feel a warmth. Then love that feeling. Do this am and pm in bed. This is what I did to open my heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2002 Report Share Posted July 4, 2002 Sat nam, > Gururattan, do you mean putting hands over heart center, or directly over the heart? Heart center, center of chest. Sat Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2002 Report Share Posted July 5, 2002 I have a hard time accepting the love of sprit, of self and mostly others. I have found myself being so scared of being around others my body acts like it's a skunk and shoots off a bad oder to make it so people don't want to be close. will this exersize helo me work over this? Sat Nam, Siri Devta Kaur "Gururattan K.Khalsa" <rattanak wrote: Sat Nam, Please tell us your name. You can also put your hands on your heart and hold your heart until you feel a warmth. Then love that feeling. Do this am and pm in bed. This is what I did to open my heart. Let us know your experiences. This exercise changed my life. Sat Nam, Gururattan Kaur "OUR DESTINY IS TO BE HAPPY" - Yogi Bhajan You can UNSUBSCRIBE from this list at the Groups Member Center (My Groups), or send mail to Kundaliniyoga NO UNSUBSCRIBE REQUESTS TO THE LIST PLEASE! WEB SITE: kundalini yoga KUNDALINI YOGA ON-LINE TRAINING. Details from kundalini yogaclasses.html Sponsored by YOGA TECHNOLOGY - Practical Books & Videos on Kundalini Yoga & Meditation. Also Meditation & Mantra CDs. New! SBC Dial - 1st Month Free & unlimited access Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2002 Report Share Posted July 5, 2002 Sat Nam, > I have a hard time accepting the love of sprit, of self and mostly others.will this exersize helo me work over this? Probably. But you have to do it. Do it and let us know. All spiritual practices take time to have an effect. We think nothing is happening and then one day we discover that we are different. I feel that some force intevenes at divine timing to give us a gift. In the meantime, we honestly do our work. Our basic nature is love and we are here to experience love, so how long it takes depends on if we want to do the work and are open to receive the gifts when they arrive. SAt Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2002 Report Share Posted July 5, 2002 Sat Nam, > I have a hard time accepting the love of sprit, of self and mostly others. I have found myself being so scared of being around others my body acts like it's a skunk and shoots off a bad oder to make it so people don't want to be close. will this exersize helo me work over this? I should have included the common fact that body odor is usually associated with the food we eat and a build up of toxins in the body. You may need to go on a serious cleanse. SAt Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2002 Report Share Posted July 5, 2002 Dear unknown friend, The key is (as far as I believe) to start accepting how and who you are. Take yourself as you are. Don't judge, don't critisize, don't allow negative emotions or thoughts towards your self at the first hand. Then start looking at the good points in your being (behaviour, achievements, etc.). Come on, everybody has some good points - if nobody is doing it, you have to embrace yourself. Look forward, not backwards, enjoy the lone moments (e.g. treat yourself with a nice foambath, listen to music, do sports or a nice KY-set ;-). Then you will start feeling better in your skin, you start loving yourself more and more. For sure you will realize also the negative sides of your self like bad habits, (e.g. smoking or drinking too much, etc.) negative thougths or emotions. Try to become better, set the intention. When you are centered and harmonious with yourself, this will also be noticed in your environment, then coming into rich relationships with other people is no problem at all. Never get trapped by the idea of compensating your own emotional deficiencies with the 'love' (aka emotional dependency) of other people. First you have to give love (yourself) in order to receive. Just a little helping quote (I have no idea, from whom....) "...if you don't search love, you'll find it". If you are christian, it also helps to think, that god has already made a fitting partner for you and it is just a question of trust into god in order to be found by or being led to the partner. In KY we call this principle the trust into the infinite. At least this helped me finding my love of live. Best regards, Juergen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2002 Report Share Posted July 5, 2002 Just to Share.. "If you really want to improve your situation, you can work on the one thing over which you have control... YOURSELF. Expand your perspective by expanding your mind..." "What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves?" Lots of Love and Light.... E T _______________ Chat with friends online, try MSN Messenger: http://messenger.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2002 Report Share Posted July 9, 2002 Sat nam, In order to be loved you need to love yourself. So start there. Try writing down the "good" things that happen or that you do each day. Look into the mirror and find something new that you like about yourself each day. Act as if you all ready love yourself. Blessings, Samantha - "texastribal" <texastribal <Kundaliniyoga> Wednesday, July 03, 2002 12:31 PM On loving yourself... > I'm trying to figure out just exactly how one goes about loving > themself. > > I hear all the time that you can't really be loved until you love > yourself, even here on this forum. And Gururattan has told me > personally, in response to a question about my wretched love life, > that the issue is with me, really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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