Help with family conflicts

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Shelley

 

I am emailing you off-list but I have two things to say here:

 

1. naval chakra armor, strengthen your naval chakra -get it pounding

so hard, it feels like your heart is in your abdomen

 

2. My father was an abusive alcoholic and a rabbi I know (I'm not

jewish but I find great strength in Hebrew wisdom) once counseled me

when I felt guilt over walking away from my father:

"turn the other cheek and you encourage the sinner to sin again"

If you do nothing will your father stop? Will doing something force

him to face the consequences of his actions and perhaps get him into

a rehab situation?

 

you face tough, heart-wrenching decisions, I wish you great strength.

 

-cris

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Dear Shelly,

I also have a father with behavior troubles, up until now, it hasnt affected

me directly nor fisicaly, but the feeling sorry for him I also have it, and

I also get pretty sad when i see him every weekend or talk to him on the

phone. We have the familiy we are in for a bigger reason than we think, I

personaly believe that as a soul we have chosen the parents we have to be

able to manifest ourselves, there is something to learn about everything,

when God puts us in a ugly enviroment, its for us to face it radiantly, I

know saying it is easy, but actually doing it is no piece of cake, and what

I have just said dosnt mean you can let your dad step all over you because

he is the way he is, the first thing ( in my opinion ) you have to do to

solve a problem is confront, and if that means putting people against you

wwll so be it, you know what your doing, and you also know whats wrong about

the situation, and you also know the truth, and if you dont put a stop,

things like this can go on forever. Maybe you need to take care of the pain

you are feeling at this moment, but do not let other people take an

emotional control of your life, you are a human being apart of your family,

and also have things to acomplis on your own, so....

Hope this helps, though I know its not easy.

 

Blessings.

Siri Gopal Kaur

 

 

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You need to get out of the way of that runaway train. Their Karma will just have

to run it's course. It seems to me that the we aren't given a life to have to

deal with that kind of nonsense. Spiritually climb a tree. See all for what it

is. Be a source of inspiration and kindness but only after you have begun to

heal yourself.

Are you the eldest of the siblings (just curious).

Peaces,

Dharam

 

 

savahnnauh wrote:

 

> Merry Meet,

>

> I am sorry if I have written about this in the past. (I don't remember if I

did, but am ready to deal with the situation now).

>

> I am in need of some strength and guidance and don't know where to start. Last

Christmas, I found out my father betrayed me by committing credit fraud, ID

theft, mail fraud, and forgery on me. I am now over $100,000 in credit card

debt. I get harrassing phone calls at home, on my cell phone,was gettting them

at my old work number...I get letters constantly saying I owe this much money,

law offices are sending me letters... I did not have the heart to turn my dad in

when I found out. I was scared and hurt. I was also on Celexa for panic

disorder, so I kind of blew off the incident. My dad has not done anything to

help the situation. In fact, he denies that there is anything wrong with him

mentally. He is crazy. My mom is of no help. My brother is of no help either.

He threatened that he would disown the whole family if I turned my dad in. My

dad was a good friend of mine. Since I went off my medication recently,

everything is hitting me like a tons of bricks. I am d

> epressed, I finally had the courage to contact the credit bureaus and let

them know I was a victim of fraud. Everyone is on my side but my mom, dad, and

brother. They are so codependent. My mom's answer to this is to "change my

phone number!" They make me feel so horrible. I did not cause this problem.

He ruined my financial future and did not seem to think of that when he

committed those crimes. I don't know what I am asking for. I feel guilt,

shame, confusion, betrayal, depression, and desparately in need of an answer.

>

> Love and Light,

>

> Shelley

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Shelley-

First, I completely agree with what others have said thus far.

Second, I would add that you need to realize and accept that you

can't change your family. You can't change anyone except yourself.

Continuing to hope that they will change for the better is one thing.

But don't rely on that hope to materialize. Nor should you try to

make them change.

 

Like Cris, I also had an alcoholic father. So I can understand some

of the frustrations that you are feeling. But the others are

absolutely correct. You need to focus on YOU right now. Do what you

truly believe is the right thing and follow it through, regardless of

their reactions. Allowing your actions to be guided by them (through

what they say they will or won't do) continues to keep you as a

victom. You need follow your heart or you will never be happy

yourself. Everyone has free will. If they choose to continue the path

they are currently on, that is their own free will. You cannot change

their minds for them. Just like you have your own will to follow your

own path.

 

I'm currently doing a 40 day med of Ra Ma Da Sa. I'm not doing it to

heal physically, but emotionally (focusing on my heart). I can

definately tell a difference since starting this med. It may help you

to also heal yourself from the pain you've experienced. Just a

thought.

 

Christa