Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Sat Nam Christa, As someone who has beeen through many bereavements I feel the best thing you can do for your mother is let her grieve and just be there to support her. That is all you can do for her, but it is very important that she knows she has that support. It's completely normal to feel you want do something for her, fix her pain, but you can't. Just accept that, be there and listen. That way she can move along through her grief process. When my first husband died someone told me it would take two years to get over it and they were absolutely right. I actually felt something leaving me two years later. Losing a spouse is excrutiating and the closer the marriage the harder the loss. It can be very uncomfortable for the people around, but it's not going to get fixed anytime soon. Your mother has been in shock and now with the shock wearing off expect her to feel the loss more keenly for a while. In time it will ease, but it is a process that takes a lot of time. Love , patience and support is what you can offer her now, and I know you will. Love and blessings, Avtar ______________ Sign Up for Juno Platinum Internet Access Today Only $9.95 per month! Visit www.juno.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 I think I missed the thread. Did your mother have an accident of some kind? If so, give her a dose, or several, of the homeopathic remedy, Arnica 10M, or Arnica CM. It will help to dislodge the memory from her body. Accupuncture will also help with that. Is there some other cause for her emotion? Let me know on the list or off. Seva Simran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Dear Christa, after I lost my beloved Dad my Mother carried kleenex with her everywhere because she cried all the time and the slightest thing would bring on tears. I found that by relating something funny or cute I could steer her attention in a cheerful direction. I'ld also call - often several times during the day- if I heard, thought of or read anything at all that might interest her, just to get her mind off herself. If some memory of Dad brought the tears I'ld relate something funny he had done and we'ld both be laughing. When their anniversary rolled around I noticed Mama growing tense I decided that since we know our loved ones are with us at a moment's notice we'ld have a special dinner and coffee and cake as if Dad was still with us. I brought flowers and a dozen balloons (because I was afraid of how to end the day and have Mama distraught again.) so after coffee I had Mama write a little note for Dad which we attached and then we watched the balloons till they disappeared. I think Mama has taken comfort in our little ritual every birthday, anniversary or holiday and looks forward to them. I also noticed that talking freely of Daddy comforts her ( and me too) Love and Blessings to you both. Ruth - emotional meltdown I would love to get your advice. My mother has been doing pretty good, relatively speaking. But the past week was just really bad for her. I went over last night and she just cried off and on for over an hour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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