Guest guest Posted February 2, 2003 Report Share Posted February 2, 2003 Sat Nam Everyone, I'm looking for a way to deal with other peoples negativity manifested in hurtful speech. When loved ones hurt me with their speech, I find myself verbally paralyzed after the injury, because I do not want to react by saying something hurtful in return. What can I do in preparation for these encounters and is there anything I can do during these encounters to help overcome the negativity? Sat Nam. Ernie ______________ Sign Up for Juno Platinum Internet Access Today Only $9.95 per month! Visit www.juno.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2003 Report Share Posted February 2, 2003 Dear Ernie, There is no simple answer to your question, but there is a solution if you are willing to explore a rather simple formula as set out originally by Marshall Rosenberg in nonviolent communication. Communication is an art. I have found the techniques of non-violent compassionate communication incredibly useful. I feel that this method is to communcation like KY is to health and well-being. I have taken workshops from the author, Kelly Bryson, of a new book on the subject DON'T BE NICE BE REAL. Kelly is the most devoted student of Marshall Rosenberg. He has succeeded in integrating the heart of this method into his psyche. When he talks I feel empowered to be honest to the core. He shares so honestly in his book that I feel free to be real with myself and others. We now have this book in our store www.yogatech.com. I highly recommend it to everyone! I wish I had been born with it in my hands. Sat Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2003 Report Share Posted February 3, 2003 Sat Nam Ernie, I understand completely the way you feel about other people hurting you through speech as I had quite a few really close to me during my life. I used to react the same way you do, but lately a strange energgy flow of realizing and telling the truth comes out from my heart and it really works better for everyone. Instead of freezing or answering back to them, I simply tell them straight and calmly in their face what they are doing, how they try to hurt me with their words and this seems to take them by surprise, because the truth is that while they are doing this, they might not be aware of it. Most people are usually acting mechanically through behavioral patterns without even realizing it most of the time, but if someone strikes them once with the truth instead of reacting by hitting the ball back to them, they at least have the chance to think and realize for a moment what they are really doing. If you are honest with them then they have to be honest with themselves don't they? And then the world would be a much more honest place wouldn't it? Love and Light Marily Sat Atma - Ernie kundaliniyoga Sunday, February 02, 2003 9:02 PM hurtful speech. Sat Nam Everyone, I'm looking for a way to deal with other peoples negativity manifested in hurtful speech. When loved ones hurt me with their speech, I find myself verbally paralyzed after the injury, because I do not want to react by saying something hurtful in return. What can I do in preparation for these encounters and is there anything I can do during these encounters to help overcome the negativity? Sat Nam. Ernie ______________ Sign Up for Juno Platinum Internet Access Today Only $9.95 per month! Visit www.juno.com "OUR DESTINY IS TO BE HAPPY" - Yogi Bhajan You can UNSUBSCRIBE from this list at the Groups Member Center (My Groups), or send mail to Kundaliniyoga NO UNSUBSCRIBE REQUESTS TO THE LIST PLEASE! WEB SITE: kundalini yoga KUNDALINI YOGA ON-LINE TRAINING. Details from kundalini yogaclasses.html Sponsored by YOGA TECHNOLOGY - Practical Books & Videos on Kundalini Yoga & Meditation. Also Meditation & Mantra CDs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2003 Report Share Posted February 3, 2003 Dearest Ernie, you've got some wonderful answers. I want to add some things: You can use the Triple Mantra as a very good preparation - 11 minutes every morning, it will help you to avoid any negativity from others against you. And, if you can, try to see light in them, surround them with light, see Christ in them and they will have no little chance to project anything on you. I tried it and it works very quick: I was in a workshop, there was a woman sitting behind me, she had a real aversion against me, I couldn't explain myself why, I was just there and I was friendly with her, but she was grumbling the whole time, I couldn't do anything right in her eyes and it was not easy for me to stay at that place, because I could feel a real disagreable energy. Then I tried this 'easy' little exercise, and directly after it she was very friendly and it was okay for the next three days. If you want to do a little bit more, you can see: http://www.rootlight.com There you will find a prayer: Love before me, Love behind me, Love at my left, Love at my right..., Peace before me, Peace behind me..., Light before me..., - you can add Christ before me, Christ behind me... and if you use this prayer as often as you can, you will have a very good protection - together with Triple Mantra it will be great, you will be invulnerable. If someone hurts you, then you can take the same prayer and add his or her name: Love before Tom, Love behind Tom... And there is another important thing too: if you don't want to be hurt, you should send light to all people you may have been hurt, even if you did it without intention. If you want share your experiences... Blessings - Love, Peace & Light to you and to all Sonja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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