Guest guest Posted February 3, 2003 Report Share Posted February 3, 2003 There have been enough positive inputs in this regard but thought I would share this with you because I think it may apply to most instances. After years of constant put downs and verbal assault by an in-law I became so sensitive I'ld often be nausiated hours before hearing from her. One day I felt so distraught I left my body - one of the things I wanted to know was "why was I hated so much" -- Instead of an answer I picked up on the terrible unhappiness this person carried inside. I felt overwhelmed with compassion for her. From that day on piercing remarks, put downs, nothing hurt again because of mycompassion I for her. So when I run across a hurtful person I now think of them as in pain and distraught and envelope them with feelings of love - and I go on. --- The hurtfulness seems to bounce off. With Love and understanding. Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2003 Report Share Posted February 3, 2003 Hey Ernie, (what's your full birthday?) I know when I am hurt by another's speech or actions, part of my process has to include that I don't allow myself to be as hurtful (or powerful). Their anger is a shock to me because they expressed it and I am left with my unexpressed anger. You have to know that you have every bit the right to be on this earth as the people around you. Here's an experiment. Sometimes I go running in the woods and when I start to feel a heaviness I start doing the detective work by heaving small stones at mounds of dirt or tree trunks like Pedro Martinez would do with a baseball. I'll do this 4 or 5 times with great focus and intensity. Sometimes I have some tears afterward. As soon as I start running again I feel light and streamlined. The other person's outer anger hurt you because it reminded your Being of the inner anger within your self. When you get into your power you will find it easier to forgive, allow and be neutral. BTW, this doesn't that the other person is not a complete ass. Sat Nam, Dharam P.S. there is the Kriya for Inner Anger Ernie wrote: > Sat Nam Everyone, > > I'm looking for a way to deal with other peoples negativity manifested in hurtful speech. When loved ones hurt me with their speech, I find myself verbally paralyzed after the injury, because I do not want to react by saying something hurtful in return. > > What can I do in preparation for these encounters and is there anything I can do during these encounters to help overcome the negativity? > > Sat Nam. > Ernie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2003 Report Share Posted February 4, 2003 Hi Dharam, Thanks for your reply. My full birth day is May 9, 1980. I'm giong to try your experiment. There aren't any nearby woods (there's only desert), but I go mountain-trail running several times a week... I'll try it on the mountain. Do you do any visualization while you throw the stones? Where can I find the Kriya for Inner Anger? Sat Nam, Ernie ______________ Sign Up for Juno Platinum Internet Access Today Only $9.95 per month! Visit www.juno.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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