Guest guest Posted February 16, 2003 Report Share Posted February 16, 2003 Sat Nam all, As I have been focusing on compassion lately, I realize that some of my "unfortunate" circumstances are actually lessons to help me become more compassionate. I know there is a difference between sympathy and empathy. I am glad that I have had the experiences to empathize with others - it brings compassion from a "thought" process to an emotional one. However, I am now tired of attracting bad situations to my life. Is there anything I should be doing, besides trying to vibrate positive energy (you attract what you emit) in order to invite more positive circumstances? I am very exhausted from over two years of daily struggles and I just need some time to recuperate under "easy" circumstances. Any suggestions are welcome. Love & Peace Nichole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2003 Report Share Posted February 16, 2003 Dear Nichole, In addition to the meditation I mentioned today, get the book Don't Be Nice, Be Real, a Guide for Compassionate Communication (www.yogatech.com) Just reading this book will make you feel stronger. You need to strengthen your masculine projection. This will help. So will navel sets. Sat nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2003 Report Share Posted February 16, 2003 Dear Nichole, Just to add to what Gururattan suggested....I am reminded of a class I attended once where I felt like my teacher taught me the secret of the universe...the topic was intention and how to set one......and the point was to notice what your intentions are and make sure they are in the positive tense. For example..the intention "I want to be happy"...sounds like a positive intention..right. If this was your intention...what you would actually get is the experience of "wanting". Your intention would have to be "I am happy" or "I experience joy in my life" or whatever....so notice what kind of language you use when you set intentions for yourself......prior to that class, I had no idea that how much "wanting" I was doing!! ha ha! All Light and Blessings, Sat Sangeet "nicholebaker67 <nicholebaker67" <nicholebaker67 wrote:Sat Nam all, As I have been focusing on compassion lately, I realize that some of my "unfortunate" circumstances are actually lessons to help me become more compassionate. I know there is a difference between sympathy and empathy. I am glad that I have had the experiences to empathize with others - it brings compassion from a "thought" process to an emotional one. However, I am now tired of attracting bad situations to my life. Is there anything I should be doing, besides trying to vibrate positive energy (you attract what you emit) in order to invite more positive circumstances? I am very exhausted from over two years of daily struggles and I just need some time to recuperate under "easy" circumstances. Any suggestions are welcome. Love & Peace Nichole "OUR DESTINY IS TO BE HAPPY" - Yogi Bhajan To UNSUBSCRIBE from this list, please send a blank email to Kundaliniyoga NO UNSUBSCRIBE REQUESTS TO THE LIST PLEASE!> WEB SITE: kundalini yoga KUNDALINI YOGA ON-LINE TRAINING. Details from kundalini yogaclasses.html Transitions to a Heart Centered World - Gururattan K. Khalsa Ph.D. The most comprehensive source of Yogi Bhajan's Kundalini Yoga sets and meditations available! transitions.html Post your free ad now! Canada Personals Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2003 Report Share Posted February 17, 2003 Kundaliniyoga, Sat Sangeet <satsangeetkaur> wrote: > >> For example..the intention "I want to be happy"...sounds like a positive intention..right. If this was your intention...what you would actually get is the experience of "wanting". Your intention would have to be "I am happy" or "I experience joy in my life" or whatever....so notice what kind of language you use when you set intentions for yourself...... Yes, I get that. I struggle, however with the fact that "I am happy" is not the truth, although that is what I want, the fact of the matter is that I'm miserable (the example in this case). So saying that seems to be a refusal to accept the truth. I get angry that I can't just "speak the truth" instead of having to "project happiness, look at life through rose colored glasses" etc. The truth is what we're after, isn't it? It seems, then, that this is more of an exercise in duality.? You can simultaneously be miserable and happy.? They can exist in the same moment, yin and yang? without judgement? In other words, what you are saying is the present moment and the intention must be the same in order for the intention to materialize. My perception is that in truth, however, they are incongruent. Thoughts appreciated. Love & Peace, Nichole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2003 Report Share Posted February 17, 2003 > Yes, I get that. I struggle, however with the fact that "I am > happy" is not the truth, although that is what I want, the fact of > the matter is that I'm miserable (the example in this case). Fake it til you make it Nichole! It *will* become your reality. --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.449 / Virus Database: 251 - Release 1/27/2003 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2003 Report Share Posted February 17, 2003 I suggest that you face your feelings honestly. When you are sad, get to know and feel you are sad. When you are happy, get to know and feel you are happy. Try to feel yourself moment to moment as much as possible, and just be there for yourself as much as possible. This will help to realize the patterns that push you into a sad phase, and also the ones that push you into a happy phase. In the midst of many sad moments, you will also become aware of the fleeting happy moments that can come and go in everyday life ( for instance, a child smiling when you were walking down the road), but you were not aware of them earlier. The more aware you become of these simple happy moments and how you felt in those happy moments, the more easily you will be able to recognize things that can make you really happy. This will progressively get you out of your sad phases, as you will no longer find them as enriching as the happy moments. It takes practise, and needs conscious practise of simple awareness of your feelings. During this process of awareness build up, flipping back and forth is normal. You will gradually become aware of your progress, when you build up more awareness. Healing takes time and patience. gai Send Flowers for Valentine's Day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2003 Report Share Posted February 17, 2003 Sat Nam Nichole, Hope you find this helpful. The Truth,with a big T, beyond the truth is that we are each created as masterpieces. How we feel, what we think and how we act is sometimes separate from this Truth. It's important to acknowledge and accept your feelings when they arise, but even more important to not become attached to them. Takes some work, but it's doable. These feelings and thoughts are part of the process to realizing your Truth, which is much more vast than any concept you may be having of the truth. A phrase that gets me out of this situation often is "Identify the process, but don't identify with it." Getting back to the affirmation part, since for the most part, we only have concepts of truth, using affirmations which bring you closer to experiencing and enjoying the company of your own soul are not lies but actually tools that carry us closer to the Truth. And besides, life is like a movie, and we might as well try and enjoy the show. And, this is one movie where if we're not enjoying the plot, we can change it from a drama or "b" movie to a comedy or inspiring show. The director's chair is waiting for you. "Quiet on the set, ....and action!" Your Brother in Spirit Natesh Yes, I get that. I struggle, however with the fact that "I am happy" is not the truth, although that is what I want, the fact of the matter is that I'm miserable (the example in this case). So saying that seems to be a refusal to accept the truth. I get angry that I can't just "speak the truth" instead of having to "project happiness, look at life through rose colored glasses" etc. The truth is what we're after, isn't it? It seems, then, that this is more of an exercise in duality.? You can simultaneously be miserable and happy.? They can exist in the same moment, yin and yang? without judgement? In other words, what you are saying is the present moment and the intention must be the same in order for the intention to materialize. My perception is that in truth, however, they are incongruent. Thoughts appreciated. Love & Peace, Nichole Sponsor "OUR DESTINY IS TO BE HAPPY" - Yogi Bhajan To UNSUBSCRIBE from this list, please send a blank email to Kundaliniyoga NO UNSUBSCRIBE REQUESTS TO THE LIST PLEASE!> WEB SITE: kundalini yoga KUNDALINI YOGA ON-LINE TRAINING. Details from kundalini yogaclasses.html Transitions to a Heart Centered World - Gururattan K. Khalsa Ph.D. The most comprehensive source of Yogi Bhajan's Kundalini Yoga sets and meditations available! transitions.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2003 Report Share Posted February 18, 2003 the trick as someone else said on the board is to fake it untill you make it. this sounds like something impossible to do but the reality is that your idea about yourself eg i'm not happy gives birth to what you will experience, so then you will have the experience of being miserable. its so important to realise that you are the person that dictates how you feel and that what u experience comes from what u are being. if u want a more elaborate explanation of this you should try reading "Conversations with god" book 1 by Neale Donald Walsh. Hope that helps! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2003 Report Share Posted February 18, 2003 Sat Nam Nichole I'll throw my 2 cents in here as well. First, I think you've received great advice from everyone here on this subject. And I do understand your thoughts of projecting happy when you don't feel happy. When I first read that recommendation last year, I didn't really understand it either. But I do agree that you should try to watch your thoughts/feelings and not become part of them (I know all to well this is much easier said than done). As for Truth, I think that varies based on feedback from every individual that you ask. While I'm sure there is one Truth, I don't think that any one of us knows what it is. And I honestly doubt that we will ever fully understand until after we leave this world. So that leaves us with how do you truly feel happy and thankful not just in this life time, but where you are now, today. And I think, as with everything else, it starts one step at a time. I've always been a somewhat optimistic person myself. For me, the glass is always half full. What I would suggest trying was actually written on a fortune cookie I had about 10 years ago. It said "you see beauty in everyday things." And as much as I joke around about fortune cookies (and all of them since then have matched the jokes) that one really hit home. Because I do that. I could be having a miserable day (work, kids, house, or all of the above) and look outside and see a hummingbird at one of my plants and just stop everything and watch in wonder as it hovers motionless beside a bloom. And appreciate the beauty and simplicity in that image. And that usually makes me very happy. Its like someone stopped the clock for a few moments, and then it started again and I'm now not as stressed or frustrated. It may be a comment from someone you do or don't know that strikes you as different, but in a positive way. For example my husband and I had taken our kids to a restaurant last week. They were behaving as usual (which isn't bad, but not ideal). And half way through our meal, two people stopped to tell us what a beautiful family we had. It was SO nice to hear. That just lifted our spirits for the rest of the night. And this is the last example that I'll give (I promise!). I'm from the northeast US and currently live in FL. One of my biggest strikes against FL is the lack of four seasons. Especially over winter. I just really miss the briskness in the air and the crunch of leaves, the fall colors, etc. That's been my only complaint about living down here. I started practicing ky last spring. And maybe its coincedence, but after 5 years of living down here, we finally had leaves changing colors all over the place this season, we've had brisk, cold weather (in the 20s and 30s at night at times) for 3 months (which is very rare). The first time I noticed this I was driving and it hit me that all of the trees along the road were a profusion of yellows, oranges and reds. Just beautiful. And that's the first time I'd seen that here. I'm to the point now, where I actually will stop and thank God when those moments occur. Which I did when I was driving. I felt like I was walking on air the rest of the day. It seemed like he did that just for me and just when I needed them. And that's something to really feel happy about. God giving a special present just for you. WOW! I guess bottom line, my advice would be this. If you can't project happiness because you truly don't feel happy, then find something to be happy about. It doesn't have to be big, it could be something very tiny or seemingly insignificant that can have a huge affect on you. Then allow that happiness to help you put other negative thoughts in perspective. If you are able to find something beautiful in each day, you will gradually find yourself feeling more happy and seeing more things as beautiful, that you wouldn't have considered so before. Not sure that helps or not, but that little thing always helps me. Christa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2003 Report Share Posted February 18, 2003 Kundaliniyoga, "Natesh" <gurusgrace@h...> wrote: > Sat Nam Nichole, > Hope you find this helpful. The Truth,with a big T, beyond the truth is that we are each created as masterpieces. How we feel, what we think and how we act is sometimes separate from this Truth. Very much so, thanks - to everyone for great insights. Feelings, thoughts and actions are sometimes separate from the Truth. I can relate to that. Love & Light Nichole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2003 Report Share Posted February 18, 2003 Satnam, I was very tickled to hear the bumper sticker "Don't always believe what you think" Got me to thinking! If life does not teach you compassion you haven't lived.That's my theory. satnam kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2003 Report Share Posted February 18, 2003 Sat Nam Christa said >As for Truth, I think that varies based on feedback from every individual that you ask. While I'm sure there is one Truth, I don't think that any one of us knows what it is. And I honestly doubt that we will ever fully understand until after we leave this world.< I agree with Christa that each person has a concept of the Truth which varies and that there is one Truth as well. The process of understanding this Truth is the wonderful journey of consciousness. I think that we can sometimes get a sweet little experience of the Truth every now and then. I think that we can eventually fully understand it and be in this world. To clarify, when I said "The Truth,with a big T, beyond the truth is that we are each created as masterpieces. How we feel, what we think and how we act is sometimes separate from this Truth.", I was trying to convey the concept that we each are created as Divine Beings, and that when we have problems or issues they are merely part of the process of getting in touch with this Divine Identity. Cosmic growing pains if you will. Please excuse any limitations which my words may have or may place upon the Truth. I believe that the Truth is beyond any words or description.When we don't know what else to say about It then "Wahe Guru" Your Brother in Spirit Natesh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2003 Report Share Posted February 18, 2003 Sat Nam, > Feelings, thoughts and actions are sometimes separate from the Reminds me of the bumper sticker. Don't believe everything you think. Sat Nam, Gururattan Kaur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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