Our Shadow sides

[Guest guest]

I had several experience's and I am hoping you can help give me some

direction as to why and how to get past this anger/dark side.

 

First let me just say that I thought the things that disturbed us in

others is a reflection of ourselves.

 

But, I don't see in me what it is that is making me so angry so maybe

you can help me out.

 

It was the last game of T-ball and my son was playing. There is a

rule that no parents are allowed on the field or are to coach the

children when they are on the field. (This is to help them listen to

the coaches) All parents follow this rule except one. No one ever

stops him or tells him not to just the basic double standard. he

directs his son from behind the catchers area, he's on the field

acting as a coach, but isn't. Then one day one of the children gets

hit in the face with a ball. Send him up in the air and all of a

sudden he's not moving. His mother runs out to him. She is

repremanded for going out on the field. But this father never has

anything said to him. So I approach the coach and ask why it's ok

for one parent to always break the rules but when a mother has a

legitamit concern she is asked to remove herself from the field. She

just said her son will not play anymore. But I got infuriated on the

principal of the issue and am still upset about it and it wasn't even

my son who was hurt.

 

Another issues is when I politly sit in a long line of traffic in the

left lane and someone flies up past you and cuts in the front of the

line while every one else sits and waits their turn.

 

I guess I am asking why I have issues with these things. I know I

have the anger but I don't understand how these are part of me when I

don't do them. Then I go home do my yoga feel better and BAM it slaps

me in the head the thought of these things and I get upset again. Why

can't I let it go? I know it's not healthy feeling like this. Any

advice on how to deal with this?

 

I feel like I'm on a roller coaster. Anger/happy, peaceful/Anger,

frusteration. I know the principal of some people get away with doing

things blatantly wrong and no one ever says anything and then the

people who follow the rules get ridiculed/reprimanded. I understand

the fundamental of that. But I want to deal and heal whatever it is

that is causing this type of rage.

 

While I am in the middle of Yoga I feel WONDERFUL, mind clear and

peaceful, 15 minutes, 1/2 hour I will be listening to music and my

mind just automatically snaps to these issues and ruins my whole mood.

 

I was reading in your other posts about anger and I feel how the good

feelings dis-appates. I don't know how to hold on to them and how to

release the anger

 

Does anyone have any insight, advice, opinions, help????

 

Sorry for the lengthy description but I wanted to be clear.

 

Many Bessings...

 

Sat Nam

 

Keyleun

[Guest guest]

Keyleun,

Thanks for your honest description. There will be days when our

practice is so strong and our aura so big that we can just watch things

going on around and actually reflect on things before our minds and

hormones "run off". You'll have that much latitude. Often times it means

that our routine must match the very intensity of the feelings that come

up for us. To do anything less will leave us open to being impressed

upon by circumstance and depressed. Don't leave home without at least a

3 foot aura! A seven foot aura will cover you fine. Nobody write about

how to know when you aura is where should be. Basically you feel safe

being with your true self. (Note: Jesus was said to have a 25 foot aura)

 

I like the comic saying "although I walk through the valley of the

shadow of death, I shall fear no evil, cause I'm biggest "muther_____r"

in the valley". It's like that, in a way. Yoga and meditation works

because it is strong enough to lift the crud from our minds and being in

much the way that hand cleaner lift grime from our hands. There is an

element of commonality between the hand cleaner and the grime as there

is an elemental of commonality between an intense emotion and that which

is nourishing to our soul. It's about transforming and blessing the

nonsense. Be that miracle.

Sat Nam,

Dharam

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam all,

I have learned to deal with anger by releasing my attachment to the outcome of

the situation. In other words, if someone cuts me off in traffic and I decide to

get angry, that is because I expect people to behave a certain way or for

situations to have a certain outcome that is based on my way of thinking.

Detachment could be a very useful tool to deal with anger. Detachment is not

becoming aloof. It is merely an understanding that their is more to the big

picture than I could possibly understand and it is best to witness what is

bothering you and ask your self why it is so important to you. All of these

situations are an opportunity to learn more about yourself and grow.

 

Take time each day to try to become a witness to what is going on. The world

becomes much more beautiful!

 

Paul

keyleun <rlgress wrote:

I had several experience's and I am hoping you can help give me some

direction as to why and how to get past this anger/dark side.

 

 

 

 

 

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