anger and disturbing thoughts

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam All

 

I am struggling with the similar issues that Keyleun spoke of.

Only in a slightly different way.

 

She said the things that disturb us in others is a reflection of

ourselves.

 

Some days and in some situations I very closely examin this

situation with in myself.

 

My biggest issue relates to dependability and people doing what

they say they are going to do --and being on time. And if you cant be there

when you said you were then just call me up and tell me ---either you cant make

it or your gonning to be

late. I do understand that sometimes actual emergency of some sort happens

and that is ok. However reapeted undependability by certain individuals leaves

me wondering sometimes how much of a freind am I really to them.

 

I am truly a very dependable person. When I make plans with

someone I follow threw 100 percent. If I can not follow threw I call them up

several hours or a couple days ahead of time and let them know well enough in

advance.

 

So my question is : If I am 100 percent dependable and I keep

having undependable people actions in my life ---how on earth am I the cause of

this situation? Some one please enlighten me. How is a undependable person

being a reflection of me? I don't get it I really don't, and actually Ive been

pondering this for a couple years now. Actually over the past couple years I

have quit making plans with anyone because this situation happened every time

I made plans with someone --

they were either very late--not ready to leave when I arived at there house

to pick them up (I actually mean still asleep in bed) to take them some were

that they ask me to take them, or they dont show up at all.

 

Sat Nam All

...............Kim

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam,

It is a reflection of you because you would hate yourself, if you were ever

late and did not let the other person know. You make it an issue. Let it go

and it will let you go. Freedom is flexability.

Sat Nam,

Sahaj Kaur

 

 

In a message dated 5/23/2003 1:14:50 PM Central Standard Time,

Kameelia33SSS writes:

 

> So my question is : If I am 100 percent dependable and I keep

> having undependable people actions in my life ---how on earth am I the cause

> of

> this situation? Some one please enlighten me. How is a undependable person

>

> being a reflection of me? I don't get it I really don't, and actually Ive

> been

> pondering this for a couple years now. Actually over the past couple years

> I

> have quit making plans with anyone because this situation happened every

> time

> I made plans with someone --

>

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Kim:

You ask how other people's refusal to be dependable is your doing in some sense.

It is not, however, the contrapositive is true. By your constantly being

dependable, you are (inspite of their behavior), teaching them what is

appropriate. Maybe they have not yet translated it into their behavior,

however, a time will come when they will. Remember, this is yoga in the truest

sense. We are all evolving and in this process, it is the right which will

evolve to the next level, and otehr things will fade. I have a yogi friend, who

is the most trusting person, you could have ever seen. You can attempt to fool

him to his face, and he will not realise it, and will trust what is being said

to him. It shows, how close to God such people are. Double standards and the

rest aseem sometimes to be the norm, however, on the path of yoga, when one sees

this in other people, one should just realize, this is a lesson we have to

learn, and that we too are teaching someone else something that helps them in

their evolution.

Try it. It can work wonders in our own evolution.

 

Kameelia33SSS wrote:

 

 

 

 

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