Guest guest Posted May 24, 2003 Report Share Posted May 24, 2003 Dear Karin...how my heart breaks for you! My 22 year old daughter was killed 4 years ago and the process of acceptance and healing is a hard road. Of course you are turning away and into yourself and undoubtedly numb. You seek and desire reconnection with your precious daughter, to know she is all right and still with you. Ask her for that and stay open for her replies. Be cautious about opening to others dealing with grief from another loss (other than child/mother) It can be hurtful. A child and mother's souls are intertwined and cannot be separated by death. If you would like to contact me off the list I can give you specifics about what helps me. Give yourself permission to go through the process, others will try to help with advice to help you recover quickly, give yourself permission. This will change you and I hope you find the healing path in this tragedy. We all talk about our practice but when something this huge occurs it takes an incredible amount of grace and courage to go on. You are in my prayers. All of my heartfelt sympathy, Rebecca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2003 Report Share Posted May 25, 2003 Sat Nam, Karin, Be gentle with yourself. There is no greater loss than the death of a child. I, too, have gone through the experience and it is a nightmare, but nightmares...one can wake up and it's over. I wasn't into yoga at the time of my son's passing, but there would be no better way to feel your connection with your daughter than to quiet your mind and feel that she is always with you. There is a beautiful movie called "What Dreams May Come" with Robin Williams" that I suggest you watch. You are doing well to go to grief therapy. Get a massage and there is a modality called, SHEN, that is energy work with a therapist who lightly touches you, to help you go through the process of grieving and find some peace. <A HREF="http://www.shentherapy.info/">SHEN Therapy Physio-Emotional Release</A> Most of all, be kind to yourself and know that you are being lifted up. Sat Nam, Sahaj Kaur In a message dated 5/23/2003 7:38:37 PM Central Standard Time, karin_wigen writes: > sat nam, > i am in a living nightmare and need help. my 19 year old daughter > was murdered 2 months ago. i have since stopped doing yoga, started > smoking again, am drinking lightly but daily and generally > backsliding in a big way. i can't seem to drag myself to yoga class, > i lack energy and motivation and am probably depressed. i am seeing > a grief counselor and will be attending a grief retreat for parents > of murdered children. but i need something more, maybe just a shove > in the right direction. can anyone suggest an easy, gentle kriya > that will help to heal my heart? is there something i can do that > will bring me closer to my daughter's spirit? i feel totally lost > and would be grateful for any suggestions. > thanks, karin > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2003 Report Share Posted May 25, 2003 Sat Nam Karin, There is not much more to say. Just be assured that our love and healing prayers are with you at this time. Sincerely yours Hari Sant Singh Give up your sense of mine and yours and become the dust of the feet of all. God resides in every heart. ___________ SikhNet - http://www.SikhNet.com ___________ Get news on Sikhism and the Sikhnet web site Sign up at http://www.SikhNet.com/ ___________ Select your own custom email address for FREE! Get you w/No Ads, 6MB, POP & more! http://www.everyone.net/selectmail?campaign=tag Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2003 Report Share Posted May 25, 2003 Karin, I am very sorry and deeply saddened at your loss. This should be incredibly hard to deal with. Maybe it will help to see her alive in everything beautiful you come across (much like we try to see God in everything, when we see flowers, mountains, sky..) This way you may probably gain back the power that someone else snatched away from you, and to keep reminding that your daughter's spirit lives and well, and is evolving into many beautiful things. And, try not to be alone and go through the emotions on your own, but rather be in the midst of friends who would be willing to just listen to you and let you talk it all out over and over. Hope this helps. Gai The New Search - Faster. Easier. Bingo. http://search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2003 Report Share Posted May 25, 2003 Karin Wigen... I am Luis from Spain and I can imagine how you feel.. I use to have since the last 15 years a relatively "easy life"... my job was perfect, my doughter which is 28 just got marriage and brought me a marvelous pretty, nice, good lady which is now 6 months old, my sun (he is 32) just got marriage too. Bu since abou two years ago apparently everything is changing... my son´s wife got cancer, my dought got diagnosed last month MS and see is at home almost blind and in bed with no possibility to move at all and since early last year my bussines is completely dead... I am 57 and look.. I have been thinking a lot about it... I am not going to change about stopping doing yoga and trying and do my best about looking for the best for my kids,my wife and my self.. if I would do that it would not help anybody. If you start drinking, smoking etc etc it will not help at all, your doughter is looking at you and she would like you to be happy.. do it for her, for you, for us... we all love you.. sat nam Luis.. your friend ----------------- ¡La primera peña de Primitiva con garantía de premio! http://loterias.ozu.es/ ----------------- Correo enviado desde http://www.ozu.es Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2003 Report Share Posted May 27, 2003 Sat Nam Karin, I get a lot of comfort out of listening to this song. To me it's a meditation on the infinite healing that can come from fully submitting to the Kundalini Shakti. This is not something mysterious and occult as some people have it in their minds. The most compassionate and positive manifestation of the Kundalini is the Christ consciousness and it's within us. Yogiji has said Jesus didn't become THE Christ until that moment, while nailed on the cross, he said "forgive them for they know not they do". At that moment he completely let go and forgave. We can have that same relationship with "our father". I am not going to pretend this loss will ever be easy for you but allow this process of your suffering to bear fruits that are unseen at this time. http://www.sahej.com/Bow-Down.ram Ra Ma Da Sa, Sa Say So Hung is very good at this time. I prefer the classical form with the pause in the middle and all on one breath. Do it before sleep and after your morning routine. Find that praying ground. Sat Nam, Dharam Singh Karin Wigen wrote: > sat nam, > i am in a living nightmare and need help. my 19 year old daughter > was murdered 2 months ago. i have since stopped doing yoga, started > smoking again, am drinking lightly but daily and generally > backsliding in a big way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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