RE: Husband & Situation

[Guest guest]

Dharam,

 

Yes, yes, I have checked out all the phat options sent to me and am going to try

to get to Guru Singh's classes. I think that community is what I need right now

most of all. Moving all the time isolates a person to the point of feeling

seperated from everthing, rootless. My instincts tell me that "the only

limitations I have are the ones I impose upon myself". That being so, the

control of my situation is within me. SOOOO, my question to myself is, "why am I

doing these things to myself when I have the power to make myself stand up?".

Knowing this and pulling myself up are two different things; if that makes any

sense. To me this is like a dream where you know you are dreaming but you can't

wake up. I'm holding the power and acting powerless.

 

Anyway, enough "war stories". I am doing what I can every day with my KY given

the space and the lack of any "sacred" space. I'm trying to make the space I

have availible sacred to me for the moment.

 

As for my husband's restlessness. It seems to me he is either running from

something inside himself; or trying to run to something that he feels he lacks

within himself. Not being a psychiatrist I can only speculate, which makes

approaching him about it a little difficult. He doesn't practice any yoga at

all but always says that he will start practicing with me---in a few days.

Maybe there is something I can do to bring a feeling of peace to our personal

space that will in turn bring some sense of peace to him personally, but what?

 

Thank you for all the advice. I am taking all of it into consideration. I want

peace and a sense of connectedness again.

 

Bless you,

SK

 

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[Guest guest]

Sat Nam, Mary ;

 

Read ur mail & felt very much in connection with your kind of situation, but

just the difference is, here i have a situation with my wife. My self 27

yrs/Male from India an Engineer by profession.

 

You are very much a learned person & can surely understand the different facets

of Human behaviour, but, when we are in relation, especially marraige

communication of our feelings through words & together becomes very essential,

since , a man never runs away unless he's scared about his own personal failure

may or shortcomings, but at the same its only a wife who can shelter his

shortcommings/failure & help him grow stronger. Man in is very strong for

outside world but he's weak inside , hence im sure with right communication you

will understand wht is it thts making him run. About the peace within ourselves,

since we are in search of something in life or achieving certain set standards

of life we really start chasing tht , in this process we forget our reality &

hence we run in uncertainity which makes very confused in life & our mind is

disperesed in fragments due to which we loose our peace, its a phenomenon

where, no matter wht we try to do, we cant find peace,but as you have

said rightly its all within us, its just a matter of digging deep within

patiently till we find it .

 

Im sure in our KY there are answeres for all our fears ,doubts, misconception

about ourselves & the outside. We pray from our hearts to have peace & serenity

to all.

 

Sat Nam

 

Nilesh