experiencing conflict (mirroring)

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam Peter(?),

I wouldn't judge your choice of the words "holding out the mirror"

so harshly. This mirroring thing can be either really messy or actually

quite masterful. My direct experience with Yogi Bhajan when he

was "Mirroring" taught me of a way to show a person what their aura is

truly putting out. Yogi Bhajan is one who addresses the vibration of

a person and not so much the grosser details. For this reason the

person who is being mirrored may not get why the hell Yogiji is saying what he

is saying. This all depends on how much thickness or denial the person has on

board.

 

I think a master uses a mirror sometimes out of the combined

need to address a person quickly, truthfully and efficiently in a way

that is preserves one's self integrity. To do any more than that

would not be kind to either party. Would Yogiji or any of us want to "marry" a

person, out of a perhaps an overly empathetic nature, hand feeding

them through their awakening? That would be Karmic. If you're right within

yourself (a daily SADHANA!) and your intention is compassion and service, you

can say to someone "F*#k off", if it very clear in your perception that this

person's very vibe is saying "F#*k off". Their brain will flip and they may not

talk to you for a while but maybe they will eventually get why you said what you

said and maybe thank you, sometime down the road.

I have been the beneficiary of two rather direct teachers in my

life, Rolling Thunder (a Shoshone Shaman) being the other. These

teachers are consistent in addressing the vibration of a person

(sometimes me, I must say) and will say the exact same thing, word

for word (sometimes with the sly smile of recognition which is really

trippy!) to a person months later, if nothing has changed and the growth/shift

has not taken place. Our minds may think much has changed but we are

really the same person underneath the facade. It's a master's character

and commitment that allows for this kind of consistency. This is a

form of tough love but it's what some of us really need.

This is the mirroring I think when we are conversing on this list. There

is, however, another less conscious form of mirroring that goes on for most of

us. If we are blessed with a wife (a "why" and an "if", a why-if as

Yogiji as sometimes broken it down to), or children, we will have all

the mirrors we need. Kids don't often listen to what we say, but they

see everything and learn from what we do and that may quite the reckoning. And

wives, yeah!, that's a book in itself and not one I dare touch in this moment as

I really have to get to work. I will say it is all a very divine dance, if we

know how to surrender.

Ciao

Sat Nam,

Dharam Singh

 

Sat Nam

Kundaliniyoga, "Pete Walters" <pjw@l...> wrote:

> Hi

> It is nice to hear from you again Rebecca.

> It seems that I used a bad choice of words "holding out the mirror"

in a

> previous response to this thread. I meant it to mean the same

thing as

> turning the other cheek. I'm all for having compassion with people

who are

> hurting.

> All the best

> Chela Shanti