Guest guest Posted July 6, 2004 Report Share Posted July 6, 2004 I want to express my heartfelt gratitude and thankfulness to ALL of you, and with reverent greetings and thanks to Gururattan Kaur Khalsa for your reply. I have begun the Smiling Buddha Kriya, and feel honored in so doing. You people are really all I have(in the physical world), and I need your help now at this crossroads in my life, I won't go into detail about my marriage. If interested, you can contact me personally by my mail-box,or e-mail(use vweinkauf)as I have had trouble accessing georgiaweinkauf, temporarily. Anyhow, my life is topsy-turvy, and I do not what will happen next. I am seeking any assistance from any of my KY friends may suggest, either a place like an ashram or safe haven. More than likely, I would be alone, as my husband thinks all of this "spirituality stuff is bologny," and would not allow the boys to come. "Too weird!" I would be provided for financially to an extent, but I am a hard worker and have no problem with that, I have much to offer and much to share . I send this to all of you with a prayer sealed with Love God Bless,Georgia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Georgia wrote: < Anyhow, my life is topsy-turvy, and I do not what will happen next. I am seeking any assistance from any of my KY friends may suggest, either a place like an ashram or safe haven. More than likely, I would be alone, as my husband thinks all of this "spirituality stuff is bologny," and would not allow the boys to come. "Too weird!" > Dear Georgia, How difficult it can be to combine a call for freedom, a spiritual path, a love relation and a family life... I have been, and still am in more or less comparable situation as you. My wife (we live separated for half a year now) had her call for freedom and could not integrate this in our family life. As a reaction, I was drawn into spiritual development and feel the urge deep inside to dedicate more and more time to this. We have 3 kids of 2, 5 and 7 and must somehow integrate our personal desires with our responsibility for the ´family´. Fortunately, reading your words I have the impression that you have still a chance to work it out together. If you love eachother, feel blessed about this. I once found a very inspiring page on the internet about spirituality, family life and your issues as you describe them from a very spiritual woman called Amma. As the link did not work anymore, I put a copy in this mail. Love and wishdom, René Family life Children, husband and wife should love and serve by seeing God in each other. They should thus be ideal couples, models for their children and for others. Good words and good deeds are the real jewels. A loving, spiritual relationship leads to liberation When husband and wife together worship the Lord, do meditation and japa, read spiritual texts, serve the world, turn their home into an ashram, and thereby progress in their sadhana together, they need not seek liberation. It will come to them automatically. Duty and spiritual practices are both important The husband and wife should not hinder each other on the spiritual path. One should not give up spiritual pursuits even if it is not approved by the spouse. Yet it is also wrong to turn away from our duty in the name of spiritual practice. Mother has seen many people doing this; it is never right. When it is time to perform our tasks, we should do them with the remembrance of God. If, instead, we sit for meditation at that time, there will not be any progress. We should not be a cause of pain to the spouse who is against our sadhana. Instead, while performing the family duties, pray to God to bring a change in the mind of our spouse. Accommodate each other's differences with love When there is a difference of opinion in the family, be ready to discuss the matter and resolve the issue the same day instead of postponing it. Anyone can return love for love - there is nothing great about that. Try to return love for hatred. This alone is the true measure of our greatness. Only when we are ready to forgive and accommodate each other's faults and shortcomings will peace prevail in the family. For moulding the children's character, it is essential that the parents lead a model life. When the parents' lives are far from exemplary, how can they bring up the children in the proper manner? Family life is the training for realizing God Children, always act without any expectation of the fruit of the action. Expectation is the cause of all our grief. We should dedicate our lives to the Lord. Trust that He will guard us. What we should gain through family life is the training for total surrender to God. We have to realize that our wife and little ones do not belong to us or we to them. Children, have absolute faith that everything is His alone. Then He will take over all our burden; He will take our hand and lead us to the goal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Sat Nam: My suggestion, one parent to another, is you create an environment that will support your spiritual needs while allowing you to stay in contact with your boys. My 3HO ashram experience in the 70's is still the glue that holds my practice and my life together. It is not healthy to only have your friends from the Internet, as much as we may care for each other, we are not a real community. If closes its doors tomorrow, we are no longer a community. If you end up sick, we can not bring you the hot veggie soup, so to speak. If you are able to not work and still support yourself, this is a special blessing. Take your KY classes, volunteer taking care of people or animals needs or at a Yoga school answering their phones. If you can find an Ashram to move into, that could be the best experience of your life, if not, be mindful to find a community to belong to. You are never alone, you sometimes just need to turn your head a little to see it. Most importantly, be happy in what you do. Do not re-live or create conversations with your husband in your head - doing so will only stress you and make you unhappy. There is a Chinese Proverb that goes “You cannot prevent birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.” I leave you with the following words of wisdom from Thomas D. Willhite from his book, The Book of Mastermind: “The result of harmony between the three levels of consciousness is power. It is the ability to get what you need when you need it…to do what you want to do when you want to do it…to be what you want to be when you want to be it.” Peace. Bob Bob www.bellsprings.org > [Original Message] > sss3333nnn <georgiaweinkauf > <Kundaliniyoga> > 7/6/2004 7:51:29 PM > Kundalini Yoga Thankfulness > > I want to express my heartfelt gratitude and thankfulness to ALL of > you, and with reverent greetings and thanks to Gururattan Kaur Khalsa > for your reply. I have begun the Smiling Buddha Kriya, and feel > honored in so doing. You people are really all I have(in the physical > world), and I need your help now at this crossroads in my life, I > won't go into detail about my marriage. If interested, you can > contact me personally by my mail-box,or e-mail(use > vweinkauf)as I have had trouble accessing > georgiaweinkauf, temporarily. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hmm, wise words. I am in the same situation. My wife disapproves from any form of spiritual practice or healing, so I do my saddhana in the morning, when she is still asleep. When we are together, I do not discuss spirituality with her. Sometimes I find this sad, but I learned to live with it. I do not agree with everything my wife does either, but within a marriage, both partners must be given the chance to remain indiviuals. in Love and Light, Jan Rene Quintus <rene_quintus wrote: Georgia wrote: < Anyhow, my life is topsy-turvy, and I do not what will happen next. I am seeking any assistance from any of my KY friends may suggest, either a place like an ashram or safe haven. More than likely, I would be alone, as my husband thinks all of this "spirituality stuff is bologny," and would not allow the boys to come. "Too weird!" > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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