Spiritual development in a marriage

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Sat Nam all,

 

I was following the posts from Georgia, Michael and others re the spiritual

development of individuals, esp. when they are 'bound' in a relation /

marriage. This made me thinking and also re-calling my own experience.

 

My wife was somehow suspicious when I started doing KY, admired first the

husband, who is doing more 'gentle sports and meditation'. I galloped up

the spiritual path, doing KY every day, started teaching, joining seminars,

reading lots of books, meditating and chanting almost everywhere and

everytime. Slowly my wife joined me and started following my lessons until

there came the time to start Sadhana in the Amrit Vela.

 

For your understanding: my wife is working in a management position, is

travelling quite a lot, has quite often biz visitors in town and has to go

out sometimes for dining and 'entertainment'. Anyway, if you crawl into the

bed around 1 or 2 am in the morning and have an alarm going off at 4 am for

the Sadhana - this is not really relaxing ;-)

 

In result: I was also dreaming of my sacred space, of my private Ashram or

any place, where I un-interrupted could follow my spiritual path. But nope,

I have family, kids, job, hobbies, interests, friends and therefore

literally thousands of responsibilities and duties. And all need to be

fulfilled. And I needed to learn my lessons about myself, my family and the

over-eagerly spiritual warrior within.

 

Following a spiritual path, away from our material world, is not easy and

possesses also a danger - loosing the contact to your soulmates (wife,

kids). This would be - to my understanding - egoistic and not good. You

might gain a more and deeper contact with your own self, just to realize,

that you have lost a family. Anyway, you have to decide on your own,

develop your awareness and lift the consciousness.

 

For myself and our families experience I can say: In taking it easier,

things became easier. I stopped pushing myself / my wife for the 'perfect'

spiritual practice and magically enough, we enjoy much more and better

times together. For everything there is an appropriate time and place - for

our daily full blown Sadhana it is yet to come. But it will come. We are

thinking over of changing our lifestyle drastically in order to adjust to

our growing spiritual needs.

 

Pray and meditate, whatever you need will be given to you - at the right

time and the correct place...

Sometimes we need to be patient and open our spaces slowly and gradually.

 

Sending light and blessings from Shanghai,

 

Adarsh S.