Help resolving Karmic relationships

[Guest guest]

Sat Nam All

 

Would any one have any information on how to transmute or

resolve what seems to be a Karmic pattern situation in relationships. A pattern

that is unwanted.

 

Life has to get better. I thought I had resolved the

pattern last summer but it flew up a bonked me on the head again. So in reality

what I am asking is how so resolve a reacuring problem that is with different

people. Diferent peson, same problem. This time I feel very decieved. Because

the relationship started out very well and it seemed diferent and then the

same old problems arived. I am totally frustrated

with this. one substantual thing is that Im a giver and they are takers. How

do I free myself from this karma. I am frustrated with giving 100 percent as

in house hold clean up, and cooking and just general responsibility, and

being the giver of all gifts and not ever recieving anthing. Then people tell

me

that the other person was just looking for a victum. And guess what it was

me. Decieved again.

Thanks for all help I really need some. Kim

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Sat nam,

 

2 posts down from your post is a great letter from Guru Ravi Kaur about

giving to yourself first.

 

You have clearly outlined your part in the issue in your own email. So stop

doing all those things that make you feel like you are giving so much and

not receiving. Or stop one. Just one. And do something for yourself. You

are are the one who has to stop doing what you don't want to do that creates

the resentment that you are not receiving.

 

Sat Nam,

 

Gururattan Kaur

[Guest guest]

P.S. In the time that you create for yourself, do a daily practice of KY

and meditation. You will notice a difference very quickly in how you feel.

This could be your big moment of shift toward self-empowerment and

self-love.

 

Also you will always be tested to see if you have learned your lesson. You

haven't learned it, if you do the same thing with another person. Watch

yourself. The clues are inside yourself.

[Guest guest]

Dear Kim,

 

Thanks for posting that. I have been through the same drama again and

again -- different person, same problem. Giving 100% and not getting back

anything. Just a month ago I got over one such situation and am still

recovering from the hurt.

 

Love and Light

Theresa

 

I am totally frustrated with this. one substantual thing is that Im a

giver and they are takers. How

> do I free myself from this karma. I am frustrated with giving 100 percent

as

> in house hold clean up, and cooking and just general responsibility, and

> being the giver of all gifts and not ever recieving anthing.

> Thanks for all help I really need some. Kim

>

[Guest guest]

I have been experiencing the same exact thing for the past four years. I

give so much to somebody because I believed that it was instilled through my

Christian upbringing to "give and not expect to receive". I had always thought

that was the route to go, no matter the pain that i had gone through. It takes

so long for your heart to heal when you open it up to somebody and it ends up

getting hurt. After it finally heals, it takes just as long, sometimes

longer, for it to heal after you do it again...and again...and again.

 

Sometimes we have so much love to give, and it backfires...and we feel it

goes nowhere. I think that's where it hurts the most. In my case i end up with a

torn up heart chakra, reeling in pain, and after weeks of self-love kriyas i

end up with that same feeling of self-doubt, or being hurt, or being a

victim. I love myself for a day or two, and i end up hating myself for 'messing

things up.'

 

But screw the hate and pity that you feel for yourself...i figured. I've

done nothing wrong. I've done what I always felt was right. If loving someone

that we're not supposed to love is a "karmic lesson" then why are we here in the

first place? Is not the person next to us supposedly God as well? What is

the extent of the sacrifices we make, or the heartaches we encounter, or the

clueless masses that we sometimes feel have no idea what Love is?

 

I'm going to go on a limb here, and say that "we know."

 

....and that we can keep on showing what Love is to strangers that can hurt

us, because we are all here for a lesson. But is that lesson (REALLY) to meet

the limit of how much Love we should give?

 

Is there a day when we turn to someone and say, "No, that's enough"? I don't

really think so.

 

Keep your Lovelight on, and keep it strong, but especially for yourself.

Someone said this, i don't know who, but "it's better to have loved and lost,

than never to have loved at all."

(or sumthin) =)

 

Ry

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Love that truly flows from the heart chakra is complete in it's self without

reciprocation. The joy that comes from just opening your heart and allowing

that love to reach out to encompass friend and stranger alike is a pure act

that can only come from the Divine Self. Anything less than that wants

reciprocation, appreciation, gratification, recognition, praise....all to feed

the

little ego. It reminds me of that line in Jesus Christ, Superstar when the

chorus sings, "Hey Christ, dint you see I waved?" And we see how trite our

little

endeavors at agape are.