Another story about Marriage/Singlehood

[Guest guest]

Does anyone else remember Bernie's satsang from Marin County in Nov. 2000

when he spoke about 10 years of asking Mother over and over again for a

"girlfriend"? It was reprinted in Immortal Bliss, after Mother had

married him and his beautiful wife. He really got desperate for a while,

but then Mother came through for him in a huge, huge way.

 

I was so inspired by his talk, that when I went up for darshan I asked

Mother (as innocently as my conniving mind could present itself),

"Boyfriend?" and She just sniffed up my request, turned her head away, and

didn't say a thing. I spent the next few days of Her visit wonder wonder

wondering about this "non" response only to fall dramatically in love over

New Year's Eve with the same man I had met only a few days before Amma's

visit that November.

 

Over the spring Jeff expressed a desire that we be wed by Mother - never

having met Her - and he wrote to Her in Amritapuri explaining his history

and asking for Her blessing. We had an amazing first darshan together at

the San Ramon retreat and at Devi Bhava he asked Amma if She would marry

us. I'll never forget the laughing tone in Her voice: OhhhhKayyyy, which

sounded a little bit like "I can't believe you're dragging me into this

drama!" and a little bit like "Don't say I didn't warn you!"

 

We chased Her around the country -- Santa Fe, Chicago -- each time She

would have us sit close by at the end of DB to watch other folks getting

married and not say a word about her plans for us. Finally in NYC I had a

long talk with someone who had gotten married in L.A., resolved the last

of my fears about the mental construct of a householder-brahmacharini

split, and we again put the issue squarely in front of Mother. "Mother

says yes" replied the translator as we inquired about the possibility of

being married at Bryant College a few days later, and we went home to

discover a check for $2000 had unexpectedly arrived from my old job, a

union settlement for backpay, which was more than enough for wedding

clothes, jewelry, jyotish, pujas, and one last retreat with the Holy

Mother on Her U.S. summer tour.

 

With two days notice, both of my parents unexpectedly made the 6+ hour

roadtrip with their respective partners, and despite their reservations,

both ended up in Her arms at the end of the ceremony...together, 14 years

after their divorce... Janani caught a picture of my face watching them

approach Mother, and I do believe the lessons from that moment are still

unfolding!

 

Anyway, I just wanted to say: have faith in Mother and let Her will guide

your romantical adventures. It must be disappointing to lose an

anticipated opportunity with the singles club ad, but surely there is a

higher purpose influencing that experience of frustration.

 

With love from NY,

and prema bhakti for our dearest Amma,

Prashanti