Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 In a message dated 7/18/02 8:23:59 PM Pacific Daylight Time, Ammachi writes: > Amma added, "It is a matter of seeing whether you have the strength > to be alone. If you have desires and want a family, then you should > have a relationship. Here in the U.S., it is hard to be alone but > it's okay because you have dogs and cats." Everyone laughed. "They > are more loving," Swamiji began the translation and Amma stopped him > and clarified. He continued, "They are more OBEDIENT than other > people. With people, everybody wants to rule." > Amma shows a definite preference for us to live alone and not get married. I have noted this over the years. Yet, it's never clear just why she feels so strongly about it. What exactly is it about solitude that she finds superior to the expression of mutual love in relationship. It is never clear to me, and to speak about dogs and cats just seems to make light of it. Is anyone more clear on why relationship is seen as, well, second best. She always adds that family and spiritual life can work, but it is clear that, if you are capable, the single life is best, and I still don't know why.Anyone? Avram Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 Personally, I didn't take this comment about the strength to be alone as a preference for solitude but a recognition that solitude is difficult for most people. When I think of Mother's challenging childhood, it seems like a trial by fire designed to teach little Sudhamani not to depend on others, even her parents, for comfort or happiness. No one could wish such a lesson on anyone. Aikya Ammachi, sprose1@a... wrote: > In a message dated 7/18/02 8:23:59 PM Pacific Daylight Time, > Ammachi writes: > > > > Amma added, "It is a matter of seeing whether you have the strength > > to be alone. If you have desires and want a family, then you should > > have a relationship. Here in the U.S., it is hard to be alone but > > it's okay because you have dogs and cats." Everyone laughed. "They > > are more loving," Swamiji began the translation and Amma stopped him > > and clarified. He continued, "They are more OBEDIENT than other > > people. With people, everybody wants to rule." > > > > Amma shows a definite preference for us to live alone and not get married. I > have noted this over the years. Yet, it's never clear just why she feels so > strongly about it. What exactly is it about solitude that she finds superior > to the expression of mutual love in relationship. It is never clear to me, > and to speak about dogs and cats just seems to make light of it. Is anyone > more clear on why relationship is seen as, well, second best. She always > adds that family and spiritual life can work, but it is clear that, if you > are capable, the single life is best, and I still don't know why.Anyone? > Avram > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 Namah Shivaya, In this child's experience the only relationship that is not ultimately a trial by fire is the one portrayed at the end of romantic movies. Sometimes Amma directs her children to marry. At least one of them is on our list. Isn't Amma's saying that we can never count on another sibling the way we can count on Her? At Her Feet, kenna Aum Amriteshvaryai Namah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 I can only comment from my own personal experience. Before I met my husband I was doing sadhana, and was fairly disciplined - he was also. Once we were married it became more difficult to be disciplined and focus on our spiritual practices. My husband feels the same way. I also think that we depend upon each other more and not so much on God as we did when we were single. On the positive side, we always have someone to talk to about spiritual matters, and we help each other to look at things from a not-so-worldly perspective. In Mother's Love Prasadini sprose1 wrote: > In a message dated 7/18/02 8:23:59 PM Pacific Daylight Time, > Ammachi writes: > > > Amma added, "It is a matter of seeing whether you have the strength > > to be alone. If you have desires and want a family, then you should > > have a relationship. Here in the U.S., it is hard to be alone but > > it's okay because you have dogs and cats." Everyone laughed. "They > > are more loving," Swamiji began the translation and Amma stopped him > > and clarified. He continued, "They are more OBEDIENT than other > > people. With people, everybody wants to rule." > > > > Amma shows a definite preference for us to live alone and not get married. I > have noted this over the years. Yet, it's never clear just why she feels so > strongly about it. What exactly is it about solitude that she finds superior > to the expression of mutual love in relationship. It is never clear to me, > and to speak about dogs and cats just seems to make light of it. Is anyone > more clear on why relationship is seen as, well, second best. She always > adds that family and spiritual life can work, but it is clear that, if you > are capable, the single life is best, and I still don't know why.Anyone? > Avram > > > > Sponsor > > > > Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha! > > Ammachi > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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