re: being alone

[Guest guest]

I think I've quoted Amma on this before, but it's

worth repeating. In one of the books, Amma says

that a sadhak should only spend the first few years

in close contact with the guru, then should spend

time in solitude doing sadhana. Of course going

going for annual darshan would still be ok.

 

Whether you're married or not, having "bubble-time"

(your own private bubble) as an ex-girlfriend used

to call it, is healthy regardless of the reason.

 

Being alone also helps in the later stretches of

sadhana when you are doing it differently, sort

of like the final lap in a race when you don't

want any distractions. There are also times when

you'll become very sensitive to subtle vibrations

and being alone will be a great help, kind of like

when you have a migraine headache and are sensitive

to light and sound.

[Guest guest]

My thought is that marriage is such a dance it is easy to get out of step

while in it. Getting out of sync will affect everything. I have been

married for nearly 14 years and I have 5 wonderful children. I will admit

with the kids it is hard to sometimes do my practices. I will be doing yoga

and someone needs me and I have to stop or I go to meditate and someone

falls or starts a tiff with a sibling. But what I am learning to do (and I

wish Amma would help householders in this area) is to see the disturbance as

being able to serve God/dess and make it an offering.

 

I am sure if I was single I could do more yoga and have longer meditations

and read more spiritual books and so on. Instead of chanting while I do

dishes ,fold laundry or work in my garden. Or sing while I cook dinner and

clean up dirty faces. I offer up my anger and actions when my two year old

breaks a dozen eggs on the floor and the fridge (he did this the other night

honestly) and I try to see that my children are my spiritual path and threw

my love for them and the things I must do to take care of the family as my

meditation and devotion. I know Amma understands.

 

This does not mean I do not have days where I want to cry and I ask Kali why

my life is this way or what I did wrong. Those days are just harder to see

that my work is my meditation.

 

Also it is so very important that a man and woman keep their energies ...oh

how do I want to put this...blue and pink (My dear sister Venya shared this

with me) . A husband must be the God figure and keep to his roles and a

woman be the Divine Mother figure and to her roles. This is something that

has taken me years to see. When my husband works to much or is to tired to

do what he needs to do and I fill in for him and be "dad" it really does

mess with the energies of our home. I can't be blue and still keep the pink

going if you know what I mean. It sends me out of balance. And if I am busy

and he is home trying to do all the things of wife and mother it throws him

out of balance and then this affects the entire house. You can feel it and

nearly see it when our home is out of balance.

 

I think here in America ( I can't say in other places since I have never

been anywhere) the role of husband/father and wife/mother are not looked at

highly in society. It is a challenge for me to be a full time stay at home

mother who homeschools. People often ask me if I am crazy or why don't I get

a job? I believe I have the most important job in the world but there are

days that to many people have asked me those types of questions and I want

to hide.

 

All of this affects my energy and if I have or make the time to have my

quiet time in the morning or in the evening. So like i mentioned earlier I

try to find other ways to keep God on my mind. It is a hard balance and

dance.

 

When I was single I could read and meditate and sit by the ocean and talk

with divine uninterrupted My thoughts were for God and myself. Now I must

think of God/dess, myself, husband and children. It makes for a full

plate...but honestly I wouldn't have it any other way. I just wish Amma

would share more of her wisdom to a western stay at home mommy.

 

Jai Ma!

 

Shelly

Mommy to 5

CT

[Guest guest]

Dear Shelly,

 

Many years ago I asked Mother how I could serve Her, and Her answer was

to dedicate everything I do to Her. What a wonderful Seva to be taking

care of your kids!

 

Namah Shivaya

Prasadini

 

 

 

kalima wrote:

 

> My thought is that marriage is such a dance it is easy to get out of

> step

> while in it. Getting out of sync will affect everything. I have been

> married for nearly 14 years and I have 5 wonderful children. I will

> admit

> with the kids it is hard to sometimes do my practices. I will be doing

> yoga

> and someone needs me and I have to stop or I go to meditate and

> someone

> falls or starts a tiff with a sibling. But what I am learning to do

> (and I

> wish Amma would help householders in this area) is to see the

> disturbance as

> being able to serve God/dess and make it an offering.

>

> I am sure if I was single I could do more yoga and have longer

> meditations

> and read more spiritual books and so on. Instead of chanting while I

> do

> dishes ,fold laundry or work in my garden. Or sing while I cook dinner

> and

> clean up dirty faces. I offer up my anger and actions when my two

> year old

> breaks a dozen eggs on the floor and the fridge (he did this the other

> night

> honestly) and I try to see that my children are my spiritual path and

> threw

> my love for them and the things I must do to take care of the family

> as my

> meditation and devotion. I know Amma understands.

>

> This does not mean I do not have days where I want to cry and I ask

> Kali why

> my life is this way or what I did wrong. Those days are just harder to

> see

> that my work is my meditation.

>

> Also it is so very important that a man and woman keep their energies

> ...oh

> how do I want to put this...blue and pink (My dear sister Venya shared

> this

> with me) . A husband must be the God figure and keep to his roles and

> a

> woman be the Divine Mother figure and to her roles. This is something

> that

> has taken me years to see. When my husband works to much or is to

> tired to

> do what he needs to do and I fill in for him and be "dad" it really

> does

> mess with the energies of our home. I can't be blue and still keep the

> pink

> going if you know what I mean. It sends me out of balance. And if I am

> busy

> and he is home trying to do all the things of wife and mother it

> throws him

> out of balance and then this affects the entire house. You can feel it

> and

> nearly see it when our home is out of balance.

>

> I think here in America ( I can't say in other places since I have

> never

> been anywhere) the role of husband/father and wife/mother are not

> looked at

> highly in society. It is a challenge for me to be a full time stay at

> home

> mother who homeschools. People often ask me if I am crazy or why don't

> I get

> a job? I believe I have the most important job in the world but there

> are

> days that to many people have asked me those types of questions and I

> want

> to hide.

>

> All of this affects my energy and if I have or make the time to have

> my

> quiet time in the morning or in the evening. So like i mentioned

> earlier I

> try to find other ways to keep God on my mind. It is a hard balance

> and

> dance.

>

> When I was single I could read and meditate and sit by the ocean and

> talk

> with divine uninterrupted My thoughts were for God and myself. Now I

> must

> think of God/dess, myself, husband and children. It makes for a full

> plate...but honestly I wouldn't have it any other way. I just wish

> Amma

> would share more of her wisdom to a western stay at home mommy.

>

> Jai Ma!

>

> Shelly

> Mommy to 5

> CT

>

>

>

>

> Sponsor

 

>

> Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha!

>

> Ammachi

>

>

>

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I absolutely agree , finding

spirituality in marriage and children daily chores

is a challenge, I don't think Amma means that

single or married lives are better or worse, it

is a matter of individual choice regardless of one

, following once Dharma is the key issue , there

are also struggles on single path ,

 

Amma in one of the articles from Amrituapuri

newsletters , mentions that renunciation does

not mean running into woods away from society

, I understand renunciation can also be present in

marridge, in a sense of detachment ( not being

careless ) but rather detached

.... , doing laundry , sweeping

after kids , cleaning the dishes is also form of

meditation, if one can attain such state, where

all forms of action become offering and meditation

to Amma is the ultimate goal,

 

Married life should not be looked down upon ,

and certainly Amma does not , She is fully aware

of what married life is , after all She is a Mother

 

kalima <kalima wrote:

> My thought is that marriage is such a dance it is

> easy to get out of step

> while in it. Getting out of sync will affect

> everything. I have been

> married for nearly 14 years and I have 5 wonderful

> children. I will admit

> with the kids it is hard to sometimes do my

> practices. I will be doing yoga

> and someone needs me and I have to stop or I go to

> meditate and someone

> falls or starts a tiff with a sibling. But what I

> am learning to do (and I

> wish Amma would help householders in this area) is

> to see the disturbance as

> being able to serve God/dess and make it an

> offering.

>

> I am sure if I was single I could do more yoga and

> have longer meditations

> and read more spiritual books and so on. Instead of

> chanting while I do

> dishes ,fold laundry or work in my garden. Or sing

> while I cook dinner and

> clean up dirty faces. I offer up my anger and

> actions when my two year old

> breaks a dozen eggs on the floor and the fridge (he

> did this the other night

> honestly) and I try to see that my children are my

> spiritual path and threw

> my love for them and the things I must do to take

> care of the family as my

> meditation and devotion. I know Amma understands.

>

> This does not mean I do not have days where I want

> to cry and I ask Kali why

> my life is this way or what I did wrong. Those days

> are just harder to see

> that my work is my meditation.

>

> Also it is so very important that a man and woman

> keep their energies ...oh

> how do I want to put this...blue and pink (My dear

> sister Venya shared this

> with me) . A husband must be the God figure and keep

> to his roles and a

> woman be the Divine Mother figure and to her roles.

> This is something that

> has taken me years to see. When my husband works to

> much or is to tired to

> do what he needs to do and I fill in for him and be

> "dad" it really does

> mess with the energies of our home. I can't be blue

> and still keep the pink

> going if you know what I mean. It sends me out of

> balance. And if I am busy

> and he is home trying to do all the things of wife

> and mother it throws him

> out of balance and then this affects the entire

> house. You can feel it and

> nearly see it when our home is out of balance.

>

> I think here in America ( I can't say in other

> places since I have never

> been anywhere) the role of husband/father and

> wife/mother are not looked at

> highly in society. It is a challenge for me to be a

> full time stay at home

> mother who homeschools. People often ask me if I am

> crazy or why don't I get

> a job? I believe I have the most important job in

> the world but there are

> days that to many people have asked me those types

> of questions and I want

> to hide.

>

> All of this affects my energy and if I have or make

> the time to have my

> quiet time in the morning or in the evening. So like

> i mentioned earlier I

> try to find other ways to keep God on my mind. It

> is a hard balance and

> dance.

>

> When I was single I could read and meditate and sit

> by the ocean and talk

> with divine uninterrupted My thoughts were for God

> and myself. Now I must

> think of God/dess, myself, husband and children. It

> makes for a full

> plate...but honestly I wouldn't have it any other

> way. I just wish Amma

> would share more of her wisdom to a western stay at

> home mommy.

>

> Jai Ma!

>

> Shelly

> Mommy to 5

> CT

>

>

>

>

 

 

 

 

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