Guest guest Posted July 20, 2002 Report Share Posted July 20, 2002 I've been reading the posts about the pros and cons of marriage and family life and thought I might share some quotes I have cherished for years. The actual Vedic tradition, as most of you know, is to be a householder first, then reserve the last part of life for spiritual striving. I knew from an early age that I wanted to marry and have children. I'm looking forward to devoting the last part of my life to spiritual sadhana. Here are the quotes: >From "The Guru" by Manly Palmer Hall: "It is the law of our people that every man who comes into the world must pay his debt, and every woman also. It is only by bringing our own children into life and giving them the same opportunities we have enjoyed that we fulfill the spirit of the Vedas. You will be the father of two children, a son and a daughter. You will care for them, educate them, and establish them in their way of life. This is the law of the householder. When you have completed this duty, then you may retire into the contemplation of spiritual things. Now you must live in the same world that ordinary men have accepted as their mortal lot." >From "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramahansa Yogananda: On a previous occasion, before I had joined the monastic order, Sri Yukteswar had made a most unexpected remark. "How you will miss the companionship of a wife in your old age!" he had said. "Do you not agree that the family man, engaged in useful work to maintain his wife and children, thus plays a rewarding role in God's eyes?" "Sir," I protested in alarm, "you know that my desire in this life is only for the Cosmic Beloved." My guru had laughed so merrily that I understood that his words had been uttered merely to test me. "Remember," he had said slowly, "that he who rejects the usual worldly duties can justify himself only by assuming some kind of responsibility for a much larger family." Also in the Autobiography of a Yogi, Yukteswar's guru, Lahiri Mahasaya was an ideal householder yogi. Quoting again, this time from a conversation with his supreme guru, Babaji: "A deep purpose underlay the fact that you did not meet me this time until you were already a married man with modest family and business responsibilities. You must put aside your thoughts of joining our secret band in the Himalayas. Your life lies amid the city crowds, serving as an example of the ideal yogi-householder." "The cries of many bewildered worldly men and women have not fallen unheard on the ears of the Great Ones....You should guide them to understand that the highest yogic attainments are not barred to the family man. Even in the world, the yogi who faithfully discharges his responsibilities without personal motive or attachment, treads the sure path to enlightenment." "No necessity compels you to leave the world, for inwardly you have already sundered its every karmic tie. Not of this world, you must yet be in it. Many years still remain during which you should conscientiously fulfill your family, business, civic, and spiritual duties. A sweet new breath of divine hope will penetrate the arid hearts of worldly men. From your balanced life, they will understand that liberation is dependent on inner, rather than outer, renunciations." So that's my contribution to the discussion. From my 27 years in SRF (Yogananda's organization) we were always taught that a balanced life is the key to liberation. Blessings to all, Jyotsna Health - Feel better, live better http://health. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2002 Report Share Posted July 21, 2002 Namah Shivaya > "It is the law of our people that every man > who comes into the world must pay his debt, > and every woman also. It is only by bringing > our own children into life and giving them the > same opportunities we have enjoyed that we fulfill > the spirit of the Vedas. You will be the father > of two children, a son and a daughter. I realize I'm treading into dangerous waters with this thread, but isn't our planet suffering from the effects of overpopulation? A wolf pack instinctively knows when, due to lack of resources for its survival, it must limit its progeny to one pup produced by the alpha female. Could this be figuring into Amma's directions to us? > From "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramahansa > Yogananda: > > On a previous occasion, before I had joined > the monastic order, Sri Yukteswar had made a > most unexpected remark. > "Remember," he had said slowly, "that he who > rejects the usual worldly duties can justify > himself only by assuming some kind of responsibility > for a much larger family." There are some people, perhaps some on our list, who haven't rejected marriage. They desire it but cannot realize their desire. Amma, of course, says that all desire leads to sorrow, but that is indeed a hard lesson to learn. Anyway, for such people, this might not be so consoling since they haven't actually rejected householding. > "A deep purpose underlay the fact that you did > not meet me this time until you were already a > married man with modest family and business > responsibilities. You must put aside your thoughts > of joining our secret band in the Himalayas. Your > life lies amid the city crowds, serving as an > example of the ideal yogi-householder." This is indeed consoling for this child, who prays, by Amma's grace, to stop wasting precious time on such regrets. > "No necessity compels you to leave the world, for > inwardly you have already sundered its every karmic > tie. Not of this world, you must yet be in it. > Many years still remain during which you should > conscientiously fulfill your family, business, civic, > and spiritual duties. A sweet new breath of > divine hope will penetrate the arid hearts of > worldly men. From your balanced life, they will > understand that liberation is dependent on inner, > rather than outer, renunciations." Reminds me of Amma saying that renunciation is stilling the mind. Pranams to all, including our dear sister Shelly, who manage to do that amidst the challenges of households and jobs, etc. Has anyone noticed that being on tour with Amma or even being at the Ashram can be quite challenging when it comes to stilling the mind? Just ask the NYC devotees who had to deal with the crowds, the rain, and the fire codes.... > So that's my contribution to the discussion. From > my 27 years in SRF (Yogananda's organization) we > were always taught that a balanced life is the > key to liberation. Thank you, dear sister, for sharing your treasures with us. At Amma's feet, kenna/premarupa Aum Amriteshvaryai Namah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2002 Report Share Posted July 21, 2002 Another thought that comes to mind is that it¹s my understanding that in ancient Vedic society, one lived with the Guru until age 25 and generally attained enlightenment by that age, or at least Self Realization. Then one was fit for marriage if that was one¹s dharma. Of course if our society made enlightenment the prerequisite to marriage, that would solve the population explosion in a generation. In fact, the planet would soon be deserted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2002 Report Share Posted July 21, 2002 Thank you for the excelelnt quotations. Everything -- hormones, societal norms, parental expectations, research on mental and physical health, even tax and property laws -- encourage marriage or relationship. Amma need not add another encouragement. Marriage or relationship is the default. There are believed to be four stages in life: brahmacharya or the celibate student life; grhasta or householder status; vanaprastha or semi-retired simplified life close to nature, and sannyas, the renunciate life. Those were considered normal stages in life. Adsankara remarked that a person in whom discrimination and dispassion were well-developed could move to the renunciate status sooner than in the golden years. Renunciate status implies that the person is dedicated full time to some type of spiritual pursuit and service for the benefit of all. It's not the same as being single in the U.S. and avoiding relationships. In the tradition the person is supposed to have a strong dedication to something he/she believes is a higher goal in order to forego householder status. Some of these ideas don't travel very well between cultures. In the U.S. today, where is celibacy during the student years?-- for example. And a fear of commitment or relationship is hardly the equivalent of sannyas. Meanwhile, many people in relationships, with or without children, must use discrimination and dispassion often in order to keep peace in the house and move ahead in something like normal balance. Aikya Ammachi, Ellen Lamb <jyotsna2> wrote: > I've been reading the posts about the pros and cons > of marriage and family life and thought I might > share some quotes I have cherished for years. The > actual Vedic tradition, as most of you know, is to > be a householder first, then reserve the last part > of life for spiritual striving. I knew from an > early age that I wanted to marry and have children. > I'm looking forward to devoting the last part of > my life to spiritual sadhana. > > Here are the quotes: > > From "The Guru" by Manly Palmer Hall: > > "It is the law of our people that every man > who comes into the world must pay his debt, > and every woman also. It is only by bringing > our own children into life and giving them the > same opportunities we have enjoyed that we fulfill > the spirit of the Vedas. You will be the father > of two children, a son and a daughter. You will > care for them, educate them, and establish them > in their way of life. This is the law of the > householder. When you have completed this duty, > then you may retire into the contemplation of > spiritual things. Now you must live in the same > world that ordinary men have accepted as their > mortal lot." > > From "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramahansa > Yogananda: > > On a previous occasion, before I had joined > the monastic order, Sri Yukteswar had made a > most unexpected remark. > > "How you will miss the companionship of a wife > in your old age!" he had said. "Do you not > agree that the family man, engaged in useful > work to maintain his wife and children, thus > plays a rewarding role in God's eyes?" > > "Sir," I protested in alarm, "you know that my > desire in this life is only for the Cosmic Beloved." > > My guru had laughed so merrily that I understood > that his words had been uttered merely to test me. > > "Remember," he had said slowly, "that he who > rejects the usual worldly duties can justify > himself only by assuming some kind of responsibility > for a much larger family." > > Also in the Autobiography of a Yogi, Yukteswar's > guru, Lahiri Mahasaya was an ideal householder > yogi. Quoting again, this time from a conversation > with his supreme guru, Babaji: > > "A deep purpose underlay the fact that you did > not meet me this time until you were already a > married man with modest family and business > responsibilities. You must put aside your thoughts > of joining our secret band in the Himalayas. Your > life lies amid the city crowds, serving as an > example of the ideal yogi-householder." > > "The cries of many bewildered worldly men and > women have not fallen unheard on the ears of the > Great Ones....You should guide them to understand > that the highest yogic attainments are not barred > to the family man. Even in the world, the yogi > who faithfully discharges his responsibilities > without personal motive or attachment, treads the > sure path to enlightenment." > > "No necessity compels you to leave the world, for > inwardly you have already sundered its every karmic > tie. Not of this world, you must yet be in it. > Many years still remain during which you should > conscientiously fulfill your family, business, civic, > and spiritual duties. A sweet new breath of > divine hope will penetrate the arid hearts of > worldly men. From your balanced life, they will > understand that liberation is dependent on inner, > rather than outer, renunciations." > > So that's my contribution to the discussion. From > my 27 years in SRF (Yogananda's organization) we > were always taught that a balanced life is the > key to liberation. > > Blessings to all, > Jyotsna > > > > > > > > Health - Feel better, live better > http://health. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2002 Report Share Posted July 21, 2002 Namah Shivaya, > Some of these ideas don't travel very well between cultures. In the > U.S. today, where is celibacy during the student years?-- for > example. And a fear of commitment or relationship is hardly the > equivalent of sannyas. There are also people who have limited abilities to be in relationship. In earlier times they were the sons and daughters who never left home. May Amma bless them with the support that they need and may we all serve each other according to her will. Aum Amriteshvaryai Namah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2002 Report Share Posted July 21, 2002 --- Kenna <kenna wrote: > Namah Shivaya, > > > There are also people who have limited abilities to > be in relationship. Moi. It would be virtually impossible for me to marry or be in an intimite relationship. I haven't even dated anyone since Jimmy Carter was president. In my case due to Asperger's syndrome, a social disability, partially related to autism that severly affects a lot of social skills. To learn more about Asperger's, visit <http://www.asperger.org/ > Keval Health - Feel better, live better http://health. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2002 Report Share Posted July 21, 2002 Namah Shivaya, >> There are also people who have limited abilities to >> be in relationship. > > Moi. It would be virtually impossible for me to marry > or be in an intimite relationship. I haven't even > dated anyone since Jimmy Carter was president. In my > case due to Asperger's syndrome, a social disability, > partially related to autism that severly affects a lot > of social skills. How amazing! I was in fact referring to people with Aspergers! I could tell you why off line, if you'd like. I urge other members of our list to learn a little more about this syndrome. More and more young people are being diagnosed with it. Many older adults are undiagnosed and often terribly misunderstood. Aum Amriteshvaryai Namah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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