Swami's words on husband - wife relationship

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Extracted from a Radio Sai interview with Mrs. Padma, daughter of Sri. N.

Kasturi. Sri Kasturi is an ardent devotee of Swami, and the blessed author of

our His biography.

 

Dear Sai family,

Please find the words of God about husband and wife relationship in the precious

treasure of letters He wrote to Mrs. Padma. As we know, they are the letters He

wrote not just to her, but to each and every married couple. Mrs. Padma was

just a pretext He used to convey His message to all couples.

 

Mrs. Padma says:

 

Eversince I was married very young, there was some kind of mis-understanding

between me and my husband. So, to solve that, sometimes, Swami used to call us

for the interview and make us clear about the problems. But, somehow, it was

not solved so easily. We could not make it, we could not understand each other

very well and so Swami used to often write to me letters to convince me, advise

me and guide me how I should lead the life in the family. I will read some of

the extracts from those letters. I will read it in the langauge Swami has

written (Kannada and Telugu), you translate it (she says this to the

interviewer). Swami had His own way of writing letters. He used to write in

Kannada or Telugu, but using English script.

Translation of Letter - 1:

Padmamma,

Andhuko aaseervaadhamulu (Accept My Blessings).

Whatever be the problems, whether in joy or sorrow, there should be adjustment

between you both. You have got to express yourselves to each other. Whatever

may be the situation, you should be united, happy and live without

mis-understanding and doubts. You must always be in bliss. That alone gives Me

happiness. What more do I need than that? Whatever be the vicissitudes of life,

your Swami is the resident of your heart and will take care of you. Like the

water bubble that emerges from water and merges back in water, Swami will stay

in your heart and stroll in your mental bliss. He will always shower happiness,

comfort and contentment on you. For the sake of this, whatever be the

difficulties, be happy. Don't give room to depression. Naamasmarana or

repitition of God's Name will resolve everything.

Yours,Baba

Translation of Second letter:

Padmamma,Samsaar is the saara or essence of all vishayas or worldly tendencies.

Samsaar is the mixture of difficulties and comforts, truth and untruth,

laughter and tears. But, in this, you must select the Dharma or the Dharmic,

only the righteous. Other things, you need not concern yourself with. Samsaar

is not about a single individual. It is about husband and wife. The wife must

not do anything without the knowledge of the husband and the husband in turn,

must not do anything without the knowledge of the wife. Samsaar is the coming

together of the husband and the wife. Each should share the joys and sorrows of

the other. If there is a problem, it must be solved between yourselves. It

should not be revealed to a third person. Husband and wife are like the two

eyes of a face. If there is any ailment in one eye, it affects the one face.

You both should live properly in faith and bliss. Repeat the Name of SAIRAM

incessantly. Everything will be fine. I will take care of all matters

concerning both of you. You must remain happy as I have told you. You must feel

glad that you have come to know a lot of things. Know that Swami has done all

this to turn you to the right path. I have written all this out of My

compassion and concern and to see that your family proceeds on the right path.

Yours,Baba

Translation of third letter:

Padmamma,

In human life, there are many ups and downs, mistakes too. You have got to

control these. You both should be happy. Without doubting each other, you

should live happily. That is the characteristic of worldly life or Samsaara.

Yours,Baba

JAI JAI SAIRAM