Guest guest Posted March 30, 2006 Report Share Posted March 30, 2006 Dear Sai Devotees Om Shri Sai Ram I was wondering if I could please get some help and advice for my friend. He is a 22 year old student studying in London, and until recently, he was a very stong Sai devotee. Then one day in August 2005, suddenly, one evening, he felt really very scared to worship Baba. Not only Baba, he felt too scared to worship God in any form, and had a strong feeling that if he was to close his eyes, something bad might happen to him or that he may not open them again. He also cannot get to sleep at night for this reason. There is no one incident that he can say caused this to start. He insists it just started suddenly on 1 evening back in August while watching tv. Since then, his fear has spread. He has started to get strange aches and pains in his chest. His doctor told him there was nothing medically wrong with him. But now, he is scared to do anything. He finds it difficult to concentrate on his studies without fear. He feels something bad is going to happen to his family. He is afraid of being alone in the dark. All these things started after that one evening. He also has a very strong fear of death. He is one person who used to find it difficult to NOT chant Sai Naam, but now he can't close his eyes and do even a round of Japa Mala without fear. Spiritual talks used to give him a great deal of mental peace, but now just exacerbate his fear. As a result, he has become more material than spiritual and is frustrated that he finds more peace in the transient material world than in Sai and his talks. He has many hopes and aspirations of becoming a good doctor to serve the needy. It has been his dream. But now he can't concentrate on anything. He gets lost into thought these days about things such as 'What is Time?' or 'Do I really exist? Does my family really exist? Am I imagining all of it?' He is too scared even to think of Baba, let alone pray before he tries to sleep. These are things that even he cannot understand and he admits his own behaviour is very strange. He still gathers the courage and prays to Shri Sai Baba daily, but rather than with heart of love, it is a heart of fear. Since August, this is still going on. I am praying to Baba to help him to 'snap out of it' but I was wondering if any Sai devotees have any advice I can pass on to him. I have never heard of anything like this before, so I don't know what to tell him. He says that maybe Baba is angry with him for something or not helping him for something he has done since he has read Baba's saying that if God doesn't approach a devotee, the fault is with the devotee. I just pray to Baba that if this is the case, to show him the fault so that he can rectify it. He doesn't know what to do. But I have seen how his life is being wasted away over the past few months. His psychological state has gone from being healthy to rather depressed and always sad. Please help and/or pray for my friend. Thanking you all from the bottom of my heart. May Baba bless you always. Om Shri Sai Ram Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2006 Report Share Posted April 1, 2006 "Felicia Gironda" <fgironda Thu Mar 30, 2006 10:27pm Re: [saibabanews] Please help! Advice for my friend Om Sri Sai Ram Dr.Akhil What was he watching on tv that August day ? Any image , sound, smell, taste and/or touch can set off a cascade of memories-perhaps this is some Karma he must resolve now in order to continue his Dharma. He should be placed on our prayer list, as he needs Divine contact more than ever. At His Lotus Feet, F. Gironda ---------- "Ranganath" <brngupta Fri Mar 31, 2006 1:44am RE: [saibabanews] Please help! Advice for my friend Sairam, What i can suspect, is - when he started blaming GOD, for his mistakes, and, mis fortune, he might be thrown himself, into these mentally unstable, fearful state. The only cure might be, he shoud start thinking like, he's only responsible for all his mis fortune, and, his bad karma, in the past or present year is only the cause, and, that's no one else's fault, and, it is not even GOD's mistake. He may start praying the lord, SRI ANJANEYA, can start listening to ANJANEYA's songs (and, if possible, chanting SRI ANJANEYAM... or, the complete Sri Anjaneya Dandakam), now, and, then, and, may slowly, comeout of the fearful state, and, become confident, and, courageous. Sairam. ---------- lyonsdavid7 Fri Mar 31, 2006 3:57am Re: [saibabanews] Please help! Advice for my friend Hello, Please ask your friend and fellow student to follow what is best for him at the moment.Nothing will happen to him.He is totally safe. When the time is correct he will follow the path most suitable to his evolving spirituality. I send my Divine blessings to him. Brother and Sai devotee. Dr.David Lyons. ---------- vetri Jayaprakasan <vejaya70 Fri Mar 31, 2006 10:17am Re: [saibabanews] Please help! Advice for my friend Dear Friend, I pray that your friend keeps his mind in light.Right now, it seems that your friend is in the grip of fear and doubt.He needs to practice psychological clairty.I have a online course on How to practice psychological clarity in everyday living? Ask your friend to register for the course. We all have our down times.Thats Ok. But how we respond to our downtimes decides our destiny.I am sure once your friend undergoes this four week course, he will be able to connect withhimself and with God. Here is the link http://www.hermeticuniversityonline.com/ Hope it is helpful. Much love Vetri ---------- m w <maheshwariiyer123 Fri Mar 31, 2006 10:17am Re: [saibabanews] Please help! Advice for my friend sai ram i was wonder stuck reading the condition of ur friend ask ur friend to have swami's vibuti with him always and meditate listening to bhajans as i do listen to bhajans when depressed and just relax .may swami help him always my sincere prayers to baba to help ur friend sai ram ---------- "cragunathan" <cragunathan Fri Mar 31, 2006 7:41pm Re: Please help! Advice for my friend Sairam Dr.Akhil, Sorry to hear about your friend's sudden illness since last Fall. >From a medical point of view, this sounds like Anxiety Neurosis / Panic Attacks.He needs medication ( Paxil ) and counselling. >From a spiritual point of view,it will be helpful for him to always carry Swami's Healing Golden Lingam Photo and a packet of Vibhuti / Udhi in his shirt pocket at all times. Hope this helps....... In Sai Love and Seva, Ragu. 3-31-06 saibabanews, DrAkhilG wrote: > > Dear Sai Devotees > > Om Shri Sai Ram > > I was wondering if I could please get some help and advice for my friend...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2006 Report Share Posted April 1, 2006 continue to push himself to pray when down....he is hoping for light...with baba's love and grace-that too will happen soon. Also, on a rather even more personal note, i will share with you that there is a very close member of my family going thru issues too at present...i have talked and talked to them but to no avail....they pray to god (a form of their choosing) and i continue my heart felt prayers at Baba Swami's feet......i can "feel" the light and love for the family memebr and have come to the understanding that without prayers and devotion there is nothing .... So, on that note, i hope u have some solace....for my friend, all i can give is a heartfelt prayers and offer a few words of comfort that things WILL come about for the good of all..... You must have heard..."Bhagwan ke ghar me der he...undher nahin!"...."Lekin mere Bhagwan Baba Swami ke ghar me der nahin...aur ujala hi ujala he!"...... Smile ....be happy ...and make one other person happy today ;-) bakula x DrAkhilG (AT) aol (DOT) com wrote: Dear Sai Devotees Om Shri Sai Ram I was wondering if I could please get some help and advice for my friend. He is a 22 year old student studying in London, and until recently, he was a very stong Sai devotee...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2006 Report Share Posted April 4, 2006 As Bakula is saying, the great truth is that your friend is still praying. If he is clinging on to God by as little as the shiny stub on the end of one bootstrap, God will hold him. It just could be that his mind has been invaded by a tramp soul ~ a restless spirit from the lower realms. Surely a spiritual remedy is the best way to throw such a "spiritual burglar" out of the "house" of his mind. Psychologically, the best remedy for fear is trust in God, abundantly affirmed. The remedy for spiritual darkness is to turn on the Light and look at it. Where there is Light, no darkness can live. First do it, mechannically if need be, and in time he will come to believe it or know it as true. Is your friend willing to do a short japa affirmation of Truth, repeated frequently throughout each day, and especially over and over again when his body is ready to go to sleep and his mind wants to stop him? If so, I would suggst he choose something that he can quickly learn. For example, "I am the sphere of eternal light. It permeates every particle of my being. I am living in that Light. The divine Spirit fills me within and without". Where in London is he? I too am in London. The Sai Group I lead (Camden, alternate Wednesdays, including tomorrow if he chooses to come) uses from time to time an English bhajan "I am love, I am Light, I am loved, I am Spirit, and I feel so free. I am safe and secure and I know that Baba will heal me, free me. Sai Ram." When I read your story, this bhajan came to mind because it seems to me so exactly the relevant truth, soo precisely the diametric opposite of what his mind is saying. We have the bhajan on cassette, I can send him a copy if he wants and gives me his address. He can play it until it penetrates his subconscious and he starts to silently chant it within in his unguarded moments instead of the negative mind-talk that the liar, the invader, in his mind is feeding him. Sai Ram, Wade saibabanews, DrAkhilG wrote: > > Dear Sai Devotees > Om Shri Sai Ram > I was wondering if I could please get some help and advice for my friend. ..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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